# Ladies; Ever get a creepy PM from a fellow Doper?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [August 23, 2013, 10:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952 "2013-08-23T10:39:10Z")\
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**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\
**Post date:** [August 30, 2013, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/181 "2013-08-30T15:21:52Z")

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> [@Robot\_Arm](#):
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> I need your help; I’m trying to build sex toys out of Legos.

You know what they say… “What happens in Legos stays in Legos”

😃

I hadn’t gotten a creepy PM until I got suckered into a conversation with a Doper by PM. It was 9/11-related and the first few seemed sincere enough. They then diverted into deeply disturbing/ creepy/ clingy/ needy/ unstable and turned out to be bullshit.

Not creepy in the sexual sense but unnerved me quite a bit.

OTOH I’ve never thought twice about PM’ing a Doper if I thought it was a good idea. Some of the thread topics that elicited a PM were mighty delicate, but we’re adults and not 11 year-olds, and I figure we should be able to PM when it seems appropriate.

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**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\
**Post date:** [August 30, 2013, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/182 "2013-08-30T15:23:53Z")

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> [@CrazyCatLady](#):
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> I once got a pm from a guy asking if I considered myself a member of the BDSM community, but it was the complete opposite of creepy. It was related to something I’d posted in a thread, he was very matter-of-fact and respectful about asking, and he damn near sprained something apologizing for potentially offending me when I said no.

Admit it, someone asking if you’re SDMB and BDSM gets points for wit.

ETA: **Sal Ammoniac** : Oh, golf clap.

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**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\
**Post date:** [August 31, 2013, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/183 "2013-08-31T01:39:00Z")

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I just put my creepy remarks in the threads.

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