# Ladies; Ever get a creepy PM from a fellow Doper? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 23, 2013, 10:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952 "2013-08-23T10:39:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![kittenblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ba8739/32.png) [@kittenblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kittenblue)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/21 "2013-08-23T14:06:05Z")
Not a one. ---
**Author:** ![Hockey\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a183cd/32.png) [@Hockey\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hockey_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/22 "2013-08-23T14:12:26Z")
I had a Doper send me an unsolicited video of himself jerking off, complete with the money shot. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![JBDivmstr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b4bc9f/32.png) [@JBDivmstr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JBDivmstr)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/23 "2013-08-23T14:13:45Z")
> [@kittenblue](#): > > Not a one. Want one? šŸ˜› JK šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/24 "2013-08-23T14:36:37Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > I had a Doper send me an unsolicited video of himself jerking off, complete with the money shot. :eek: Bwahaha! SERIOUSLY. Uh, no, Iā€™ve never really gotten anything like that. A couple ā€œHow YOU doinā€™?ā€ messages, just expressing interest or whatever, but thatā€™s been ages ago now. ---
**Author:** ![njtt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ecd19e/32.png) [@njtt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/njtt)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/25 "2013-08-23T14:53:20Z")
> [@Meatros](#): > > Iā€™m not aware of this being a problem on the SD, but on other boards there are spam bots where PMs will go out to all members (or a lot) from fake women trying to lure people into, well, I donā€™t know exactly since I never respond, but I think of them similar to the Nigerian Prince emails of yester-yore. Yeah, it crossed my mind that it might be some sort of scam bait, which I suppose is why I eventually declined the request, but I have no idea what the scam could have been. There is nothing in my user profile to even that I am male, and only a small minority of my posts make the facts apparent, so why did she pick on me? (Unless lots of other people got requests like this and have not mentioned it.) I did think of reporting it to the mods, but she did not seem to really have done anything wrong, just weird. Furthermore, there was no explicit come on. There was not even any physical description that I can recall beyond the facts that she was 19, had red hair, and was short. Nothing to suggest voluptuousness or or sexual looseness. If it was a (fake) sexual come-on, it was very subtly done compared to most spammy or scammy stuff. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/26 "2013-08-23T14:54:45Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > I had a Doper send me an unsolicited video of himself jerking off, complete with the money shot. :eek: Was it a longtime poster? ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/27 "2013-08-23T14:58:20Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > I had a Doper send me an unsolicited video of himself jerking off, complete with the money shot. :eek: Whoa, that is seriously screwed up. What goes through the mind of someone who does something like that? ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/28 "2013-08-23T15:03:27Z")
> [@njtt](#): > > Yeah, it crossed my mind that it might be some sort of scam bait, which I suppose is why I eventually declined the request, but I have no idea what the scam could have been. There is nothing in my user profile to even that I am male, and only a small minority of my posts make the facts apparent, so why did she pick on me? (Unless lots of other people got requests like this and have not mentioned it.) I did think of reporting it to the mods, but she did not seem to really have done anything wrong, just weird. Furthermore, there was no explicit come on. There was not even any physical description that I can recall beyond the facts that she was 19, had red hair, and was short. Nothing to suggest voluptuousness or or sexual looseness. If it was a (fake) sexual come-on, it was very subtly done compared to most spammy or scammy stuff. Iā€™ve gotten them when I use a variety of usernames - Iā€™m not sure they are targeting ā€˜maleā€™ usernames. I have a suspicion that they might be generated from cam sites, so you send them a response and eventually they tell you to log onto CAM123sendmemoney or whatever. Hereā€™s one I got a while ago on DDO: > [@](#): > > Hello > My name is Gift,i saw your profile today at [www.debate.org](http://www.debate.org) and became intrested in you,i will also like to know you more,and if you can send an email to my email address,so that i can give you my picture here is my email address ( excised email ) I believe we can move from here! Awaiting for your mail to my email address above. > Gift. > Please email me on ( excised email ) for more explaination. ---
**Author:** ![Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eyebrows_0f_doom/32/3119_2.png) [@Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eyebrows_0f_Doom)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/29 "2013-08-23T15:15:07Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > I had a Doper send me an unsolicited video of himself jerking off, complete with the money shot. :eek: OK, the name of \*that \*one deserves to be revealed. Was it someone with a history here or a drive by troll? ---
**Author:** ![Truman\_Burbank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@Truman\_Burbank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Truman_Burbank)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/30 "2013-08-23T15:24:42Z")
> [@Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](#): > > OK, the name of \*that \*one deserves to be revealed. Was it someone with a history here or a drive by troll? I would hope thatā€™s a banning and you reported it. ---
**Author:** ![llcoolbj77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/eb9ed0/32.png) [@llcoolbj77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/llcoolbj77)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/31 "2013-08-23T15:30:03Z")
I got exactly one creepy PM, per my request, as a result ofā€¦ shitā€¦ which PIT thread was it? We were talking about creepy PMs, and I mentioned I never got one. **AClockworkMelon** came through for me. Thanks **ACM**! It wasnā€™t that awful **JOSH** thread. Or was it? Someone started blaming someone about creepy PMs and fake photo gallery pictures. It was a train wreck. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Kobayashi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4af34b/32.png) [@Mr.Kobayashi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Kobayashi)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/32 "2013-08-23T15:32:15Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > I had a Doper send me an unsolicited video of himself jerking off, complete with the money shot. :eek: Wasnā€™t [this guy](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCEA1c6Cfac) having a bad day a work was it (donā€™t worry, SFW)? Got a PM from a barrister in Togo offering me $15 million, seems legit. Apparently they sought me as next-of-kin after a car crash, as they have the same last name as me. Not sure how many people in Togo have the last name ā€˜Kobayashiā€™, but what luck! ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/33 "2013-08-23T15:48:17Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > I had a Doper send me an unsolicited video of himself jerking off, complete with the money shot. :eek: WOW. No, I have never gotten one, except once as a joke, in response to a thread like this. I think it was **Inner stickler**. But I did get a severely racist one once. ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/34 "2013-08-23T16:06:16Z")
Good lord, Iā€™m going through a bunch of junk that Iā€™ve received over the yearsā€¦ None of it really sexual, as I said earlier, however one of my favorites was from when I moderated a vampire forum almost a decade ago (gawd, the time flies)ā€¦ I canā€™t find all the original threads (I believe I deleted a few of them), but [hereā€™s one](http://forum.darkness.com/topic/8629-for-meatross-sake/) that is still intact. I logged into my old account and scrolled through the messages and I seemed to have kept one: * * * PM Title ā€œ **Your life is in danger** ā€ Body: **Jace** \*On your head be it, mortal **My response** Again mortal, do not threaten me. **Jaceā€™s response** you call me a mortal, that is rich, but since you have never explained how you know of us, The council has decided you know too much, and if we hear a single thing of it, say goodbye \* * * * **(Iā€™ve added the bold to clarify the quotes)** Not that anyone here is particularly interested, but in hindsight I find it amusing, so hereā€™s another exchange: **(Again Iā€™ve added the bold to clarify the quotes)** * * * **Jace Writes:** get a grip man, dont patronise the brotherhood Jace **My Response:** Isnā€™t that the pot calling the kettle black? Look, I donā€™t believe in fantastical creatures, or fantastical organization that are meant to capture fantasy creatures. I have serious concerns for anyone who believes in such delusions. **Jace Replies** ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha, if you knew anything you petty mortal, you would know that world around you isnt as it seems, and we are a security agency, vsa, if you speak of this your putting your life in danger. Jace **My Response:** How old are you, 12? Seriously, do you HONESTLY expect me to believe this bullshit? Tell you what, She-Ra, the Thundercats, and I are going to arrange a meeting with the VSA and whoop some ass. Who says Iā€™m a ā€˜mortalā€™? It so happens Iā€™m not. Iā€™m a Sasquatch, which is an immortal race of very big dicked ape like creatures. I had to get a special keyboard in which to type with because of my affliction. BTW-donā€™t threaten me. * * * ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/35 "2013-08-23T16:07:34Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > I had a Doper send me an unsolicited video of himself jerking off, complete with the money shot. :eek: Did you have any prior contact with the poster (either through other PMs or through conversing on the forum)? Or was it some strange dude sending you a PM out of the blue? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/36 "2013-08-23T16:14:41Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > WOW. > > No, I have never gotten one, except once as a joke, in response to a thread like this. I think it was **Inner stickler**. But I did get a severely racist one once. Here? Or on a different board? ---
**Author:** ![EmilyG](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/emilyg/32/364_2.png) [@EmilyG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmilyG)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/37 "2013-08-23T16:18:19Z")
I admit, there have been a few posters who really creep me out (nobody in this thread, though, so donā€™t worry!), but nobody here has been directly creepy towards _me_, whether out in the open in the forum, or through PM. ---
**Author:** ![Draelin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce73a5/32.png) [@Draelin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Draelin)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/38 "2013-08-23T16:21:14Z")
I think Iā€™ve only had about 3 PMs period in all my time on and off the Dope. None creepy. Back before PMing was used, I exchanged e-mails with a couple guys that occasionally went into suggestive territory, but that was mutual and consensual. And they probably discovered that I suck at flirting anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/39 "2013-08-23T16:22:03Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > I had a Doper send me an unsolicited video of himself jerking off, complete with the money shot. :eek: I would love to learn how often this type of romantic overture bears fruit. ā€œGee, Iā€™m not sure about getting into another relationship right now; I just need some ā€˜meā€™ time to reallyā€¦whoa, would you look at THAT! Wow, I canā€™t let that one get away!ā€ ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/40 "2013-08-23T16:25:27Z")
> [@BrokenBriton](#): > > I keep fightinā€™ the ladies off;ā€¦ Why? Or perhaps, more importantly, why? > [@Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](#): > > OK, the name of \*that \*one deserves to be revealed. Was it someone with a history here or a drive by troll? The main page says there are currently 151,843 members. If you can get 151,842 of them to post ā€œnot meā€, youā€™ll have your answer. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952.md?page=3)