# Ladies; Ever get a creepy PM from a fellow Doper? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 23, 2013, 10:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952 "2013-08-23T10:39:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Girlundone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/919ad9/32.png) [@Girlundone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Girlundone)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/81 "2013-08-23T21:31:12Z")
I got some strange PMs from a member within a day of joining this forum. This person (a female I think, but im not sure) seemed convinced that they knew me and welcomed me, however after a week or so passed, they appeared to be angry with me. I still have no clue what the fuck they were talking about…but after I explained that they were weirding me out, they stopped. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/82 "2013-08-23T21:34:30Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > I had a Doper send me an unsolicited video of himself jerking off, complete with the money shot. :eek: Where in the hell is MY money shot?! :mad: Oh, never mind, I have the real thing at home. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/83 "2013-08-23T21:37:05Z")
Boy, I bet some doper pm creepers are [sweating their balls off](http://canelsonauthor.com/official/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/nc-nail-bitingly-nervous.gif) right now. ---
**Author:** ![psychobunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/54ee81/32.png) [@psychobunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psychobunny)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/84 "2013-08-23T21:39:11Z")
So far, never had any creepy PMs, never been groped. I guess sometimes there’s a benefit to being homely with a bad personality. ---
**Author:** ![Truman\_Burbank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@Truman\_Burbank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Truman_Burbank)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/85 "2013-08-23T22:28:02Z")
And surrounded by all those killer rabbits! I think it’s the deterrent effect of the rabbits… ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/86 "2013-08-23T22:36:14Z")
Nope, just friendly PM’s. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/87 "2013-08-23T22:36:21Z")
None that I can remember off-hand. I did however once get an e-mail from a doper, just sort of a hi, how are you, blah blah blah. No big deal, but then right after that, said doper posted a thread asking me if I was creeped out by his e-mail. Well, maybe not then, but now, well… ---
**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/88 "2013-08-23T22:49:34Z")
> [@Randy\_Seltzer](#): > > I sent a creepy PM to a woman on the board once. It did not go well. > > … > > I still regret it and wish there had been a way to handle it better. Perhaps by keeping my nose out of it in the first place. The right thing to do would have been to slip notes under the 3 or 4 houses that could be her’s and simply say that you could see her. No chance of misinterpretations that way! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Fubaya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c2a13f/32.png) [@Fubaya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fubaya)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2013, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/89 "2013-08-23T22:58:17Z")
> [@YogSosoth](#): > > Guy and I’ve never gotten a creepy PM ☹ I hope that someone would send me one. I promise that I’ll respond with something just as creepy! Same here, what’s a guy gotta do to attract the pervy women around here? ---
**Author:** ![Hockey\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a183cd/32.png) [@Hockey\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hockey_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2013, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/90 "2013-08-24T00:16:53Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Was it a longtime poster? Yes. > [@madmonk28](#): > > Whoa, that is seriously screwed up. What goes through the mind of someone who does something like that? I don’t have a clue, but it sure was funny. > [@Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](#): > > OK, the name of \*that \*one deserves to be revealed. Was it someone with a history here or a drive by troll? Longtime poster. > [@Truman\_Burbank](#): > > I would hope that’s a banning and you reported it. I didn’t feel the need to report it. There was no further communication from him. > [@Meatros](#): > > Did you have any prior contact with the poster (either through other PMs or through conversing on the forum)? Or was it some strange dude sending you a PM out of the blue? It was so long ago, I don’t remember the context, but I am pretty sure it was in response to something I posted on the board. > [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Must’ve been compelling if you watched all the way to the climax. Didn’t take long. > [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > Come on, man, you won the thread! Tell us! 😃 It wouldn’t do any good to out him now. He’s still active on the board and I wasn’t offended by it. I thought it was hilarious. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2013, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/91 "2013-08-24T00:31:46Z")
You know, it might be possible to find this sort of video already online. Did he do anything to prove it was him, like write “SDMB” on his penis? I haven’t gotten any creepy PMs either, but I have a feeling I may be about to. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2013, 12:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/92 "2013-08-24T00:47:01Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > You know, it might be possible to find this sort of video already online. Did he do anything to prove it was him, like write “SDMB” on his penis? > I haven’t gotten any creepy PMs either, but I have a feeling I may be about to. No, he had, “Welcome to Jamaica, Have a Nice Day” written on it. 😃 I don’t think I’ve gotten any pervy PMs; I’m fairly sure I’d remember them if I had. As for all you guys who want one, I don’t even know what that would entail - asking you about what you’re wearing? What? ---
**Author:** ![araminty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b5e925/32.png) [@araminty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/araminty)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2013, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/93 "2013-08-24T00:54:51Z")
Kind of. A friendly and mostly innocent come-on. Reader, I married him 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2013, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/94 "2013-08-24T01:01:58Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > I had a Doper send me an unsolicited video of himself jerking off, complete with the money shot. :eek: > [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Was it a longtime poster? Nah, not so long. I’ve been here less than seven years after all. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2013, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/95 "2013-08-24T01:50:57Z")
> [@scootergirl](#): > > Where in the hell is MY money shot?! :mad: PM sent. Check your Message box. ---
**Author:** ![\_Olive](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/4af34b/32.png) [@\_Olive](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_Olive)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2013, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/96 "2013-08-24T01:57:20Z")
I have never received an unsolicited private message. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2013, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/97 "2013-08-24T02:31:21Z")
I’ve gotten very limited numbers of PMs on the Dope, none sexual. First off, I’m not exactly one of the more controversial or even super interesting Dopers. Second, most people think I’m a guy. ---
**Author:** ![JBDivmstr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b4bc9f/32.png) [@JBDivmstr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JBDivmstr)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2013, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/98 "2013-08-24T03:22:24Z")
Only one, and it wasn’t really ‘creepy’, more like a little ‘skeevy’. :rolleyes: Found out that a couple of other Dopers got similar PMs. (I didn’t report the one that I got, but apparently others did.) The user that sent them was quietly banned, shortly after that. ---
**Author:** ![Cubsfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Cubsfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cubsfan)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2013, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/99 "2013-08-24T03:59:11Z")
Got a PM from a very active female doper with a long name who had read a post I made about my nylon foot fetish. She wanted me to describe on great detail what I like about feet and what I do with them to make me get off because she has a fetish for guys pampering her feet. She actually sent a couple pics of her feet in hose. I think she was drunk though. Nice feet but no face. ---
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2013, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952/100 "2013-08-24T04:04:27Z")
Funnily enough, nearly all the PMs I’ve ever received here have been from other Doper ladies with regard to creepy or offensive posts that have been directed at me on the boards themselves. Basically just “Can you believe that guy? He’s such a jerk” sort of things. I do remember turning off PMs at one point and leaving them off for a long time, but I can’t remember now if I’d actually received a creepy PM that prompted this. If I did, I must have deleted it and it apparently wasn’t bad enough to stick in my mind. The “worst” PM I still have in my inbox isn’t even bad, just odd. Someone PMed me to say that they’d bumped an old (non-controversial) thread that I’d posted in. Not a thread I’d _started_ or had even been really active in, just one I’d made a single post in months before. They weren’t even responding to my one post, just letting me know that the thread had been bumped. 😕 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-ever-get-a-creepy-pm-from-a-fellow-doper/666952.md?page=6)