# Ladies, how do you feel when you catch a man looking at you?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [June 22, 2016, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-do-you-feel-when-you-catch-a-man-looking-at-you/758055 "2016-06-22T16:13:57Z")\
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**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\
**Post date:** [June 29, 2016, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-do-you-feel-when-you-catch-a-man-looking-at-you/758055/157 "2016-06-29T15:24:14Z")

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> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#):
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> Actually, politely asking a woman if she shakes hands before making any sort of demanding gesture is your best course of action. That way you risk offending no one.

Not based on the input of women in real life and on this forum – most women would be offended by such a question (and I have explicitly asked whether they would be offended if I asked permission, and most have said “yes”).

Since I want to minimize the chance of offending women, I am forced, statistically, to offer handshakes (without a demand, and without a tantrum if they choose not to shake) to women when I meet them, without asking first.

If I ever meet you in person I won’t do this. But from every other woman I’ve talked to, online and in real life, about this circumstance, the best way to minimize the chance of offense is to offer a handshake without asking.

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