# Ladies, how long does it take for you to come during oral? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 5, 2004, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476 "2004-08-05T16:39:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![buttonjockey308](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bcef8e/32.png) [@buttonjockey308](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buttonjockey308)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2004, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/41 "2004-08-06T00:12:55Z")
Oh, and back to my original point, which I never got to. I think it’s different for everyone, pretty much every time. Thank You. ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2004, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/42 "2004-08-06T01:33:59Z")
> [@Trunk](#): > > orgasm is not the goal, it’s a side effect of an activity we really enjoy". Come on. A woman actually enjoys having something that big and long engaging her gag reflex for 20 minutes??? > > A man really enjoys having his face that close to an ass and a pee-hole licking and kissing something that is NOT made to be licked and kissed with his neck craned for 20 minutes??? I think it’s a matter of perception, here. A lot of people wouldn’t describe this the way you do, nor would they perceive it as such. Looks like a very laborious and disgusting activity for you. I’m not sure why you engage in it. [/quote] It’s like saying “I like to masturbate for 20 minutes, but orgasm isn’t really the point. I just really like doing it.” Any takers on that one? [/quote] I very often make sure that masturbation last long too… ---
**Author:** ![badmana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@badmana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badmana)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2004, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/43 "2004-08-06T15:56:47Z")
I guess I’m in an interesting position since my GF gets off more than half a dozen times during a regular dosage of sex. If I’m going down on her (something she doesn’t always want…!) it usually takes 1-3 minutes for the first orgasm, 2-5 minutes for the second and perhaps another 5-7 minutes for the last one (before she screams for sex). 20 minutes getting off just once would worry me. Of course everyone is different but I strive for 8 spasming orgasms every 30 minutes with my GF. If, as a women, you can only get off once before stopping sex (I know some women are like guys in that respect) then I can see 20 minutes as a good time. I do everything I can to last 20-30 minutes. ---
**Author:** ![Dante](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dante/32/9673_2.png) [@Dante](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dante)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2004, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/44 "2004-08-06T18:22:22Z")
Seriously, it was like the tongue was **built** with the vagina in mind. And I, for one, am not going to argue with mother nature. Plus, past concensus and current opinion is that I’m really, really, really good at it. And I like to play to my strengths. I’ll go down on my wife and stay there forever (my wife is multi-multi-orgasmic). She usually has to haul me out of there for sex, and she’s still trying to get used to the idea that reciprocity is not required. Not that I mind a good blowjob, but I don’t expect it. Honor to serve, ma’am. Y’know, some of these smilies look pretty dirty in this post. 😛 :o Hmmmm… ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2004, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/45 "2004-08-06T18:41:09Z")
:wally ---
**Author:** ![bouv](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bc8723/32.png) [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2004, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/46 "2004-08-07T01:27:38Z")
> [@Indygrrl](#): > > Heh, that’s funny, I though most women kept theirs trimmed and nice. I wouldn’t dream of expecting someone to go down unless it was nice and tidy. I think this is kind of a weird thinking. I’ve been with four woman sexually, and only one of those did any landscaping. I think that if I told them I wouldn’t go down on them because they didn’t do any kind of shaving, I’d be kicked out of that bed pretty damn quick. Now, just because thy didn’t trim, didn’t mean it was a jungle, or anything. There as a moderate amount of hair, not anything I would call excessive. As to whether or not most women do keep it trimmed down there, most of the women I know who this topic has come up with say they don’t, not counting the occaisional bikini area shave. ---
**Author:** ![bouv](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bc8723/32.png) [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2004, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/47 "2004-08-07T01:46:17Z")
Oh, and I’m 90% sure that none of the women I’ve been with were faking, considering there were times they didn’t seem to orgasm and never bothered to make it seem like they did. As I said in the other thread, I got them off in less than 20 min, but didn’t always get them off. If it wasn’t going anywhere, yeah, I guess I could stay down there longer, but usually they pull me up and are ready for the real thing. I think it just varied from day to day. Friday their body really liked clitoral stimulation through oral, but saturday they wanted some vaginal and g-spot stimulation with regular sex. I don’t want to sound cocky, but I’m fairly certain I’m a good lover. I’m not just taking their words for it, since obviously they aren’t going to say, “Well, now that you mention it, you’re the worst boyfriend I’ve ever had sex with. But you get an A for effort!” I’ve heard through their friends, usually after we broke up, that what they missed most about me was my lovemaking. Now, I’m not saying that given the chance I could get you off in less than 20 min, nor am I saying that I wouldn’t be willig to stay down there that long, it’s just that most of the time I’ve never needed to stay down there that long, which may be why I tire out quickly. ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2004, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/48 "2004-08-07T01:57:38Z")
I’m one of those guys happy to set up base camp and stay there until the ice caps melt. ---
**Author:** ![presidebt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c37758/32.png) [@presidebt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/presidebt)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2004, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/49 "2004-08-07T02:03:02Z")
Generally, for-freakin’-ever. I’m ashamed to confess the size of my sample, but let’s just say I’ve been sexually active for almost 20 years and I’ve tried just about everything under the sun. My experience has been that three out of four guys just have no clue. I go faster with prolonged and escalating foreplay. ---
**Author:** ![roger\_thornhill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/d9b06d/32.png) [@roger\_thornhill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/roger_thornhill)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2004, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/50 "2004-08-07T04:29:26Z")
A side-poll. If women had to choose between \*\*Trunk \*\* and \*\*AskNott \*\* on the basis of their posts, who would they choose? I know who I would choose, if I was a woman, which, sadly, from a sex point of view, I’m not. Honesty and a sense of humour. You can’t top 'em. ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2004, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/51 "2004-08-07T04:44:52Z")
I’m still waiting… ha! But really, it was attempted by 2 (separate) men on me and didn’t work. I do want to ask though, is it unusual to be able to come within 10 minutes of vaginal sex? Cause I used to, back when I hd sex, without any foreplay at all. Go figure. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2004, 8:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/52 "2004-08-07T08:06:38Z")
> [@vanilla](#): > > I’m still waiting… I think if I went at it for eight years with a woman and it wasn’t working, I might well stop and try something else. But hey, that’s just me. ---
**Author:** ![smartini](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/22d042/32.png) [@smartini](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smartini)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2004, 8:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/53 "2004-08-07T08:21:07Z")
> [@roger thornhill](#): > > A side-poll. > > If women had to choose between \*\*Trunk \*\* and \*\*AskNott \*\* on the basis of their posts, who would they choose? Can I have Larry Mudd? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2004, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/54 "2004-08-07T18:35:17Z")
I’ll tell ya, those PR consultancy fees are worth every penny. ---
**Author:** ![NajaNivea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/22d042/32.png) [@NajaNivea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NajaNivea)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2004, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/55 "2004-08-07T23:03:31Z")
> [@Trunk](#): > > I really don’t get this at all. > > Oral has always been about either foreplay, or actually getting the other person off, not something you sit around enjoying for 30 minutes like a massage. I think 20 minutes, fully engaged at it, is too long for either. > > “orgasm is not the goal, it’s a side effect of an activity we really enjoy”. Come on. A woman actually enjoys having something that big and long engaging her gag reflex for 20 minutes??? > > A man really enjoys having his face that close to an ass and a pee-hole licking and kissing something that is NOT made to be licked and kissed with his neck craned for 20 minutes??? > > It’s like saying “I like to masturbate for 20 minutes, but orgasm isn’t really the point. I just really like doing it.” Any takers on that one? > > * * * > > I’d like to see a follow-up poll about how long some of you with the 20 minute box-chowers have been with the box-chower. . .anyone over 6 months? I think others have already addressed what sounds like some fairly pertinant issues you have with this particular subject. Suffice it to say I wouldn’t want to be involved in a sexual relationship with someone who thinks of getting up close and personal with my bits and pieces as being “that close to an ass and a pee-hole and… NOT made to be licked and kissed”. For the record, Mr. Armadillo often spends a goodly chunk of time pleasuring me and enjoys the hell out of it. As for me, I’ve given him blowjobs that lasted over an hour and got to the point where his whole body was shaking with the intensity of the pleasure. The longer I prolong it for him, cycling up to the point of orgasm and back off, the more intense and explosive the orgasm. Do I enjoy it? I’d give him oral sex daily if we had the time and energy. It almost gets me more worked up than him going down on me. Furthermore, I have never had it activate my gag reflex, because I don’t deep-throat him, and most of what I do to him involves my lips and tongue and fingers, so my jaw doesn’t even get sore. I imagine you might have just had some partners lacking in… imagination ;). Have we been together more than six months? We’re working on five years, total, and engaged to be married. ---
**Author:** ![Burnt\_Sugar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee59a6/32.png) [@Burnt\_Sugar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Burnt_Sugar)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2004, 10:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/56 "2004-08-08T10:53:02Z")
I am the opposite end of the spectrum to most women. I timed myself once, 3.5 minutes. But then, that was self-love not oral. I have never timed oral, and he likes keeping it slow, but it can be very quick if I just “give the word”. It makes sex annoying though, in a way, because I come much much earlier than him, and I’m the type where it’s too intense to keep going afterwards. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![akennett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ee59a6/32.png) [@akennett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/akennett)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2004, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/57 "2004-08-08T16:58:26Z")
> [@Larry Mudd](#): > > 😛 That is, without a doubt **the** most appropriate use of a smiley I have ever seen! ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2004, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/58 "2004-08-08T23:12:33Z")
Ya know - if I were a guy who came under 5 minutes every time then I’d probably be answering those spam emails I recieve hourly. I’ve been with the same guy 13 years and we’ve gotten better at sex and at making it last longer than it did when we were 18. 20 minutes for either type of oral is not unheard of nor unpleasant for the giving party. As others have said, teasing is fun and makes the orgasm at the end much more powerful. It isn’t all about the end - the journey is important too! ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2004, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/59 "2004-08-09T00:50:44Z")
> [@tanookie](#): > > It isn’t all about the end - the journey is important too! To me it’s all about the journey. I adore pleasuring a lover and it’s completely irrelevant to me if it is 1 minute, 5 or 20…I adore that particular act and so unless forced away, will enjoy every moment. It’s all about the journey, each part of lovemaking. Each kiss, caress, laugh, use of…well. Each physical moment is as important. Yep yep I love orgasming, who doesn’t?? But if she orgasms 11 times and I don’t orgasm for hours, well heck. Perfect. 🙂 Cartooniverse ---
**Author:** ![Profane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e47774/32.png) [@Profane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Profane)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2004, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476/60 "2004-08-09T02:32:04Z")
I never come from oral. I always faked it when I was dating. Experience taught me not to tell guys I didn’t like it, they go into “nobody’s ever done it right before, here let me try” mode. I haven’t had any in almost 8 years, and don’t miss it. I always have multiple orgasms form straight sex, so I’m happy. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-long-does-it-take-for-you-to-come-during-oral/258476.md?page=4)