# Ladies, how often have you wanted to bone a guy you called "sweet"? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 28, 2015, 12:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100 "2015-01-28T12:14:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2015, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100/21 "2015-01-28T16:19:32Z")
Depends. I’ve known some guys who were handsome/hot, who did or said something sweet. Them, yeah. But that’s not the same as a guy who IS sweet. Them, probably not so much. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2015, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100/22 "2015-01-28T23:14:18Z")
“Sweet” is not “I’m attracted to you” language it just means they found you thoughtful, helpful, well mannered, clean, reverent etc. This is not to say they won’t give you some action down the line if things go your way but “sweet” is not generally the predicate to sexy times. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2015, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100/23 "2015-01-29T00:10:04Z")
> [@FairyChatMom](#): > > Tone of voice says it all. Sometimes it’s along the lines of the Church Lady’s “Isn’t that special” and sometimes it’s flirty. For me, the tone of voice would either mean I dismiss you or I’d like to get to know you better, but the word itself has nothing to do with getting nekkid together. This. > [@astro](#): > > “Sweet” is not “I’m attracted to you” language it just means they found you thoughtful, helpful, well mannered, clean, reverent etc. This is not to say they won’t give you some action down the line if things go your way but “sweet” is not generally the predicate to sexy times. I disagree. It _can_ be “I’m attracted to you” language; it’s entirely dependent on the circumstances and how the phrase is used. “You’re so sweet” can be an incredibly sexually charged phrase. ---
**Author:** ![Stringbean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Stringbean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringbean)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2015, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100/24 "2015-01-29T00:29:57Z")
If it’s a girl telling another girl then you’re in. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2015, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100/25 "2015-01-29T00:39:03Z")
> [@astro](#): > > “Sweet” is not generally the predicate to sexy times. Again, I disagree. If a woman is sexually attracted to a man and sexually aroused, telling him how sweet he is can be an intimate way of initiating closer contact, like a touch or kiss or whatever. ---
**Author:** ![P-man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/p-man/32/3606_2.png) [@P-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/P-man)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2015, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100/26 "2015-01-29T02:04:51Z")
I’m sure P-Woman has said it to me several times, but with everyone else I remember saying it to me it had a connotation of “I’m not attracted to you” (either implicit or explicit). ---
**Author:** ![Razncain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9d8465/32.png) [@Razncain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Razncain)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2015, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100/27 "2015-01-29T02:57:34Z")
> [@Doctor\_Jackson](#): > > Every Waffle House waitress calls every male customer “sweety”. I have never seen one take a male customer to the back room (or take him on the counter, either). To say nothing of how the Hooter girls greet you, barmaids, strippers, and other service workers that rely on tips. There’s a South Park episode that covers this theme, when they go to visit Raisins (their Hooter’s like establishment). ---
**Author:** ![Johanna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johanna/32/8318_2.png) [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2015, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100/28 "2015-01-29T05:07:17Z")
which pole? [this one?](https://www.google.com/search?q=%22joanna+pacu%C5%82a%22&safe=off&biw=1067&bih=541&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=q7_JVMbYAoylNs2tgsgO&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAQ) or [this one?](https://www.google.com/search?q=%22joanna+krupa%22&safe=off&biw=1067&bih=541&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=1L_JVLzTD832gwSY74HwDg&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAQ) ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2015, 6:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100/29 "2015-01-29T06:32:26Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > I have issues with homophones. This happened to be a particularly funny one. You know who _else_ has issues with homophones? [The good people of Provo, Utah, that’s who.](http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/utah-language-school-blogger-allegedly-fired-post-homophones-article-1.1887399) This was all over the news last summer. [MPSIMS thread about it here.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=730121) ---
**Author:** ![Mijin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mijin/32/9369_2.png) [@Mijin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mijin)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2015, 6:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100/30 "2015-01-29T06:55:00Z")
> [@Stringbean](#): > > If it’s a girl telling another girl then you’re in. Agree with that and with the OP. A weird one for me (and at the risk of hijacking), is I’ve noticed if a girl calls, or implies, that I’m a “geek”, in a playful way, it’s on. How times have changed! I’ve yet to be referred to as a “sweet geek”, so I’m not sure how that would play out… ---
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2015, 12:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100/31 "2015-01-30T12:04:01Z")
Seems like this is an aspect of a major male dilemma: showing vulnerability makes him emotionally accessible. But showing too much makes him a weakling. Since there’s not a clear line of what’s too much, it seems unfair. But tell that to a sex who has to appear sexy but may cross a different invisible line and then be labeled slutty. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-often-have-you-wanted-to-bone-a-guy-you-called-sweet/711100.md?page=1)