# Ladies: How would you react if one of your friends offered to pay to see you naked? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 27, 2008, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201 "2008-01-27T17:15:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/21 "2008-01-27T19:55:01Z")
[QUOTE=Bobotheoptimist] What happened to a bottle of tequila and a game of strip poker? That was the standard procedure for getting nekkid back in my day. [/QUOTE] Seriously. Friend: I want to see you naked. Let’s get drunk and play strip poker. Me: Okay. Friend: I want to see you naked. Here’s $100 bucks. Me: Fuck off. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/22 "2008-01-27T19:55:04Z")
[QUOTE=WhyNot] Offering money takes things out of the realm of friendship and into the realm of client and provider. … [/QUOTE] I’d just like to say that this is an outstandingly analytical post, very well constructed and it’s not the first such post by **WhyNot** I’ve read today. **WhyNot** , you’re fast becoming a poster whose words I look for. ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/23 "2008-01-27T20:04:21Z")
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee] Friend: I want to see you naked. Here’s $100 bucks. Me: Fuck off. [/QUOTE] How about $200? ---
**Author:** ![commasense](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/commasense/32/3017_2.png) [@commasense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/commasense)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/24 "2008-01-27T20:25:28Z")
Perfect place for one of my favorite jokes. Fred and Bert have been friends for decades, and one day Fred comes over to Bert’s house. Bert’s wife, Sadie, lets him in and says that Bert’s not home, but she’s expecting him soon. Fred and Sadie chat for a while and then Fred says, “You know, Sadie, I’ve always thought you were a beautiful woman.” Sadie blushes and say, “Don’t be silly, Fred.” “No, really. You’re very beautiful, and I’ve always wondered what your breasts look like. Would you show me?” “No, of course, not.” “I wouldn’t touch you, or anything. I just want to look. Tell you what, I’ll give you $500 if you just let me see your breasts for 30 seconds.” Sadie thinks for a minute and says, “Just to look, no touching, right?” Fred says, “Right.” “Just 30 seconds?” “That’s all.” “Well, okay,” Sadie says, and opens her blouse, and shows him. Fred says, “They really are as beautiful as I thought. Thank you,” and gives her $500. A little while later he says, “I can’t wait any longer. Tell Bert I came over,” and leaves. Ten minutes later, Bert comes home, and Sadie says, “Fred came over while you were out.” Bert says, "Great. Did he give you the $500 he owes me? ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/25 "2008-01-27T21:10:39Z")
I’d be extremely surprised, and very curious as to why they would propose this, being that you can, as other posters have pointed out, see all sorts of nekkid chicks on the internet for free. Other than that, the idea of this really doesn’t bother me, though I can see how it would come across as creepy and/or insulting. But then, people have made me much weirder offers with some frequency. ---
**Author:** ![burundi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3ec8ea/32.png) [@burundi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burundi)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/26 "2008-01-27T21:27:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*1. how would you react if one of your friends offered to pay to see you naked? > > 1. if you WERE going to take the offer, how much would they have to pay? > > 2. has anyone actually done this before, and do you have a story to tell?\* I can’t imagine this happening, for the simple reason that I’m not friends with creeps. Too bad if you want to see me naked. I want a pony, but it doesn’t mean that’s happening either. Such an offer would mean the end of the friendship, as well as the end of my husband’s friendship with you. I’ve been naked with friends when skinny dipping or in hot tubs, but 1) everybody’s nekkid and 2) the focus is not on being naked, but on how good it feels to swim or soak without clothes on. ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/27 "2008-01-27T22:07:32Z")
> [@Telperien](#): > > I’d be extremely surprised, and very curious as to why they would propose this, being that you can, as other posters have pointed out, see all sorts of nekkid chicks on the internet for free. I can see naked men on the internet for free but I still go to the occasional strip show. There’s a qualitative difference between an image on a computer screen or magazine and interacting with the actual person. Not the least of which, although it’s inapplicable to the OP’s scenario, is the tactile. I can touch my monitor all I want but it’s not going to feel like skin. [QUOTE=burundi] Too bad if you want to see me naked. I want a pony, but it doesn’t mean that’s happening either. [/QUOTE] The obvious solution being for you to strip for a pony. It’s win-win! ---
**Author:** ![Pixilated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/aeb1de/32.png) [@Pixilated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixilated)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/28 "2008-01-27T22:15:43Z")
Actually, I was offered $$ from one of the gaming guys to have sex with him, or at least to see me naked. I blogged about this June 11 “What does your pricetag say?” on OKCUPID. I even have the knickname “Money upfront Madison” Not gonna happen. And I still get asked once in awhile, or even asked if they can cop-a-feel. I think I would shock them into death if I told them “ok”. But I know they are teasing, and if they go too far I give them the look and they apologize and back off. Now if a stranger asked me… wait. no. cant. No longer single. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/29 "2008-01-27T22:23:03Z")
You know, if you type “Naked Women” into google, it returns 10,600,000 hits as of this posting. So you don’t really need to make skeezy friendship-killing offers to your friends to satisfy your curiosity. ---
**Author:** ![Kilvert\_s\_Pagan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c37758/32.png) [@Kilvert\_s\_Pagan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kilvert_s_Pagan)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/30 "2008-01-27T23:02:30Z")
No, but I can see friends of mine offering money to NOT see me naked. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/31 "2008-01-27T23:12:32Z")
[QUOTE=Otto] I can see naked men on the internet for free but I still go to the occasional strip show. There’s a qualitative difference between an image on a computer screen or magazine and interacting with the actual person. Not the least of which, although it’s inapplicable to the OP’s scenario, is the tactile. I can touch my monitor all I want but it’s not going to feel like skin. [/QUOTE] But going to a strip show to see people you don’t know isn’t the same thing as asking a friend to strip for you. It seems presumptous to ask such things of a friend. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/32 "2008-01-27T23:28:45Z")
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee] But why the hell would any of my friends want to pay me money just to see me naked? I can’t fathom the reasoning behind this. [/QUOTE] Agreed. I would say that the man who asks to do this isn’t much of a friend. Almost all of my close friends are women and such a thing would never cross my mind, no less my lips. Cartooniverse ---
**Author:** ![Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c77e96/32.png) [@Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Speaker_for_the_Dead)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 11:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/33 "2008-01-27T23:34:01Z")
I find this creepy, and I’m male. Creepy to the point that (assuming I knew you, of course) I’d warn my friends about you if I found out. ---
**Author:** ![dangermom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e274bd/32.png) [@dangermom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dangermom)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2008, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/34 "2008-01-27T23:54:18Z")
Creepy creepy creepy. I can’t see it happening to me, but if it did I would probably never talk to the guy again. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/35 "2008-01-28T00:03:32Z")
[QUOTE=burundi] I can’t imagine this happening, for the simple reason that I’m not friends with creeps. Too bad if you want to see me naked. I want a pony, but it doesn’t mean that’s happening either. Such an offer would mean the end of the friendship, as well as the end of my husband’s friendship with you. I’ve been naked with friends when skinny dipping or in hot tubs, but 1) everybody’s nekkid and 2) the focus is not on being naked, but on how good it feels to swim or soak without clothes on. [/QUOTE] What if they offered you a pony to get naked? **dnr** Butttt seriously. That sort of thing (to me, at least) just comes across as a little too desperate. I’m a guy, by the way. ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 12:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/36 "2008-01-28T00:08:30Z")
Friends fall in love. They do not go “pay for play” and remain friends. If they go “pay for play” one of them was not a friend. Offering to turn a friendship into pay for play is a sure signal that you are not really a friend, or that you do not regard the offeree as your friend. OTOH, pay for play relationships can turn into love, or friendship. But it’s not a common occurence. ---
**Author:** ![Faruiza](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecd19e/32.png) [@Faruiza](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Faruiza)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/37 "2008-01-28T00:17:11Z")
Don’t hafta worry about it, because you’d have to be nuts to want to see me naked, but if it were to come up, I just don’t have the chutzpah to get all offended or anything. Hell, I may do it if the price were right, but that’s because who controlls things is all a matter of perspective. Giving me money doesn’t mean I give up control. It doesn’t mean I give up anything. Maybe some time. Maybe some respect in other’s eyes, but I don’t really care that much what other people think of me on that level. In fact, if someone were to lose some respect for me over something so petty that didn’t involve them in any way, I’d have to say that I don’t respect them enough for them to even register on my radar anymore. YMMV, of course. Your body is yours to do with as you see fit. That is the ultimate meaning behind feminism and female empowerment. You can be as much of a prude as you want or be as free as you want. It’s YOURS. ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/38 "2008-01-28T00:59:29Z")
[QUOTE=Telperien] But going to a strip show to see people you don’t know isn’t the same thing as asking a friend to strip for you. It seems presumptous to ask such things of a friend. [/QUOTE] Oh I’m not saying that the two are the same thing. Just offering a comment about the pictures vs in-person aspect. ---
**Author:** ![KSO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f07891/32.png) [@KSO](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KSO)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/39 "2008-01-28T01:16:22Z")
Completely creepy. You wouldn’t be my friend after that. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/40 "2008-01-28T01:43:57Z")
[QUOTE=Otto] Oh I’m not saying that the two are the same thing. Just offering a comment about the pictures vs in-person aspect. [/QUOTE] Ah, I get what you mean. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201.md?page=3)