# Ladies: How would you react if one of your friends offered to pay to see you naked? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 27, 2008, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201 "2008-01-27T17:15:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Rick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9f8e36/32.png) [@Rick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rick)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/41 "2008-01-28T01:59:20Z")
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee] Seriously. Friend: I want to see you naked. Let’s get drunk and play strip poker. Me: Okay. [/QUOTE] Want to play cards? ---
**Author:** ![guizot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guizot/32/3636_2.png) [@guizot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/guizot)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/42 "2008-01-28T02:14:01Z")
If you’d pay that much money to see a woman strip, then you’re a sucker. And she’s not your “friend” because you obviously see her as a stripper. I don’t know how this question can be serious. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/43 "2008-01-28T02:16:35Z")
> [@](#): > > Friend: I want to see you naked. Here’s $100 bucks. > Me: Fuck off. Nobody’s going to just hand you a hundred dollar bill for being naked. I stopped at the bank and got a hundred singles. ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/44 "2008-01-28T02:30:11Z")
Guy and I find it very very creepy. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/45 "2008-01-28T02:36:43Z")
> [@](#): > > Let me tell you a story. > “Hey Kayla! Show us your boobs!” > I was on a mountain near the Syrian border. At this time, I may well have been the most forward-deployed female soldier in Iraq. You could lose yourself in the view from up there, especially at dusk or dawn, when the sheer impact of the vista made your head spin. > I was alone. Alone with guys, that is. For weeks. > They’re frustrated. Horny. Talking openly about jerking off. > We sat in the blazing sun - _hot_ - not doing much. > “Show us your tits, bitch!” Trash talk. > “No.” > “C’mon, Kayla, lift your T-shirt. For a second. Please! Let us see what you’ve got!” > “No.” > I had no _principled_ objection. I’d modeled nude for art classes in college. I had no qualms about showing my body. > Then the guys made what I considered their first real mistake. They started to ante up. Ten bucks. Twenty. Forty. Sixty-five. Eighty bucks. It went to eighty-seven dollars, and then a smart-ass threw in some M&M’s he’d stashed. > They came to me with their proposition. > “C’mon, Kayla. This is hard earned American money. Uncle Sam’s almighty dollar. Plus M&M’s. We know how much you like M&M’s. Now show us your damn tits!” > “Fuck off, assholes!” > It was over. Because I might _remotely_ have done it for free. I would _never_ do it for money. What did those guys think I was? A whore? From _Love My Rifle More Than You_ by Kayla Williams (a woman who served in Iraq). ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/46 "2008-01-28T02:42:49Z")
[QUOTE=Rick] Want to play cards? [/QUOTE] Bet that Chicago Dopefest this weekend is looking more tempting now, huh? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/47 "2008-01-28T03:23:00Z")
[QUOTE=WhyNot] Bet that Chicago Dopefest this weekend is looking more tempting now, huh? 😃 [/QUOTE] I have the cards. You bring the tequila. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/48 "2008-01-28T03:33:08Z")
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee] I have the cards. You bring the tequila. 😉 [/QUOTE] I think Priceline just broke under the pressure of 2000 Dopers trying to book flights into O’Hare all at once. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![BlueKangaroo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3d9bf3/32.png) [@BlueKangaroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlueKangaroo)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/49 "2008-01-28T04:26:55Z")
**WhyNot** , between you and **HazelNutCoffee** , I have no doubt. Anyway, this is creepy. I’m not casual about nudity, but I’m not generally modest either. And I’d be very offended by an offer like this. ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 4:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/50 "2008-01-28T04:27:15Z")
Another guy. Creepy. I’d find it far less creepy without the offer of money. ---
**Author:** ![CandidGamera](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/candidgamera/32/2878_2.png) [@CandidGamera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CandidGamera)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/51 "2008-01-28T15:55:52Z")
Yeah, the money thing is creepy. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/52 "2008-01-28T22:05:13Z")
Basically, you should say “May I please see your tits”. ---
**Author:** ![lisacurl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/41988e/32.png) [@lisacurl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lisacurl)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/53 "2008-01-28T22:11:22Z")
I don’t have flirting relationships with my friends. I certainly wouldn’t be friends with anyone who would offer me money to be naked for them. That’s creepy. On the other hand, most of my friends have seen at least my tits. 🙂 You just need to hang out with people who aren’t in it for the money. ---
**Author:** ![Lanzy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/74df32/32.png) [@Lanzy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lanzy)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2008, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/54 "2008-01-28T22:26:34Z")
Socially retarded and creepy. I would spread the word to all my friends. ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/55 "2008-01-29T04:13:56Z")
It’s the offer of money that really bothers me. I can understand wanting to see a friend naked. But offering cash as though it’s a purely business relationship? A woman displaying her nudity to me for money is a stranger involved in a deal. A friendship is something special. Turning it into a financial situation is a horrible thing. Wanting to see a friend naked isn’t unusual. Asking to see a friend naked is acceptable under certain circumstances. Offering money is a good way to ruin a friendship. ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/56 "2008-01-29T06:06:49Z")
I agree, the money angle is what ruins it. Bartering something more mundane is less creepy. Example- Years ago, I had a friend who I wanted to see topless. We had dated early in High School but it never got beyond kissing so I was always curious what she looked like in that area. She of course knew this and was always teasing me about it. One night we were all at Denny’s and she wanted to play the claw drop game, but she didn’t have any money. I had a dollar and told her that I’d give it a shot if she showed me her boobs if I won something for her. She agreed. So I ended up seeing her boobs in exchange for a $1 Plush Gorilla. Best trade ever 😃 ---
**Author:** ![kniz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c37758/32.png) [@kniz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kniz)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/57 "2008-01-29T06:50:04Z")
[QUOTE=Incubus] I agree, the money angle is what ruins it. Bartering something more mundane is less creepy. Example- Years ago, I had a friend who I wanted to see topless. We had dated early in High School but it never got beyond kissing so I was always curious what she looked like in that area. She of course knew this and was always teasing me about it. One night we were all at Denny’s and she wanted to play the claw drop game, but she didn’t have any money. I had a dollar and told her that I’d give it a shot if she showed me her boobs if I won something for her. She agreed. So I ended up seeing her boobs in exchange for a $1 Plush Gorilla. Best trade ever 😃 [/QUOTE] Well, it wasn’t all that creepy. However, I’d say you lucked out (she probably should have slapped you) and possibly missed out on more than you realize when it was all said and done. ---
**Author:** ![Arabella\_Flynn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8491ac/32.png) [@Arabella\_Flynn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arabella_Flynn)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/58 "2008-01-29T23:11:43Z")
Depends. I’ve done some modeling, so “Hey, I need a nude model for a project. Two hundred bucks for the day okay by you?” wouldn’t bother me. It’s also a bad idea to dare me to do something relatively harmless unless you really want me to do it, so “$50 if you flash the rest of the party,” would also merit some consideration. (Actually, there are circumstances under which drunks shouting “Show us your tits!” would get me to take my shirt off. I enjoy watching the pandemonium that ensues when I do something like that in an entirely blasé manner. :D) The key here is that the person waving the money is acknowledging that this is some sort of unusual situation, and you do not go around randomly offering your friends money to see them naked like this is part of their normal everyday lives. Also that the person offering is not skeezy. Skeezy creeps do not get naked-girl-viewing privileges from me. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2008, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/59 "2008-01-29T23:48:32Z")
[QUOTE=kniz] Well, it wasn’t all that creepy. However, I’d say you lucked out (she probably should have slapped you) and possibly missed out on more than you realize when it was all said and done. [/QUOTE] See, something like that wouldn’t creep me out as much. I might even agree to it, depending on how drunk I am. 😉 It’s the thought of someone, after obvious forethought, deliberately offering me money to see me naked that I find disturbing. Something spontaneous like a bet wouldn’t bother me as much. YMMV, of course. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2008, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201/60 "2008-01-30T00:16:47Z")
[QUOTE=HazelNutCoffee] See, something like that wouldn’t creep me out as much. I might even agree to it, depending on how drunk I am. 😉 It’s the thought of someone, after obvious forethought, deliberately offering me money to see me naked that I find disturbing. Something spontaneous like a bet wouldn’t bother me as much. YMMV, of course. [/QUOTE] I agree. A bet or dare or joke are all things friends do, so that’s not creepy. A premeditated business proposal _is_ creepy. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-how-would-you-react-if-one-of-your-friends-offered-to-pay-to-see-you-naked/435201.md?page=4)