# Ladies if you don't want your private T&A pics to wind up online stop taking and sending them! **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 3, 2013, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434 "2013-05-03T18:18:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 9
**Author:** ![Steophan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steophan/32/9595_2.png) [@Steophan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Steophan)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/161 "2013-05-05T03:58:09Z")
> [@Inner\_Stickler](#): > > Telling remark. Yep, it tells you that you don’t know that my computer won’t be stolen… Congratulations on reading for comprehension. > [@Inner\_Stickler](#): > > Do you have a list? I mean, I trusted the waitress at the restaurant this evening with my credit card. If she stole the number and is racking up a huge bill, do I deserve to be blamed? If I go outside tomorrow to my apartment’s parking lot and find my car window smashed in and the stereo missing, is it in some way my fault for trusting that people would leave my car alone? No. If you give your credit card or car to an acquaintance who you can’t be sure you trust, and they steal it, then you’re a moron. That’s the parallel to this thread. . ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/162 "2013-05-05T04:02:06Z")
I would say telling remark again but, let’s be honest, who didn’t already know? ---
**Author:** ![Passion\_of\_the\_Shrubber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a5b964/32.png) [@Passion\_of\_the\_Shrubber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Passion_of_the_Shrubber)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/163 "2013-05-05T04:02:19Z")
> [@Carmady](#): > > Indeed. Two questions in particular stick in my mind. > > One was about the statistical likelihood for a picture to be posted without consent. Surely that would be a major factor in estimating the danger level and appropriate level of precaution. Yes! And, considering that “boudoir photography” has been taking place since the the beginning of photography, you’d think if this were commonplace, the risk levels in sharing nude photos would be very apparent. > [@](#): > > The other was about the difference between this situation and allowing a boyfriend access to your purse (and I would add another example, taking a job that requires you to walk through a parking lot at night). In the purse example, we don’t see people blamed for being robbed. In the job example, we don’t see women being told they are stupid to take a job. So is the difference just that this involves sex, and women don’t have the same right to be sexual that they do to work or possess money? Nice example! Yes, this is one of the other issues I’d like to see astro address since he is the OP. I guess, magically, women are supposed to know which men are trustworthy and which are not. How does astro feel women should best judge this for themselves? Should a woman be with a man for 3 months? 10 years? 20 years? Before she can fully trust someone with her inner self? I’d also like to know if astro feels he could be trusted with such photos? And if so, why? And which signs does he think women should look for before she can fully trust her partner? ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/164 "2013-05-05T04:14:46Z")
Only an idiot woman would fail to wear a burqa at all times, otherwise she might tempt some perv into perving her! This is EXACTLY what the OP is saying, in essence, just applied to real life instead of the Internet. I’m surprised so many Dopers failed to see through it. I guess a little moral superiority over “those idiots” is a tempting thing indeed. ---
**Author:** ![Passion\_of\_the\_Shrubber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a5b964/32.png) [@Passion\_of\_the\_Shrubber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Passion_of_the_Shrubber)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/165 "2013-05-05T04:16:41Z")
[quote=“Steophan, post:158, topic:657434”] I stated (correctly) that men only care about who a woman is sleeping with if it’s their partner, and that it’s _women_ who do most slut-shaming. [QUOTE] Do you have a cite for that because, from what I understand of these slutshaming sites, it’s mostly men who are providing the photos. > [@](#): > > Because that’s what I see in real life, and indeed it’s what I see in this thread. Where are you seeing an instance of this in this thread? Please show me because I must’ve read past it somehow. ---
**Author:** ![Passion\_of\_the\_Shrubber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a5b964/32.png) [@Passion\_of\_the\_Shrubber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Passion_of_the_Shrubber)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/166 "2013-05-05T04:18:17Z")
> [@Inner\_Stickler](#): > > I would say telling remark again but, let’s be honest, who didn’t already know? Yes it is, indeed, and it’s a shame he either can’t see it or is ignoring it. I can’t tell which. ---
**Author:** ![Steophan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steophan/32/9595_2.png) [@Steophan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Steophan)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/167 "2013-05-05T04:19:09Z")
> [@Inner\_Stickler](#): > > I would say telling remark again but, let’s be honest, who didn’t already know? Please, say what you mean, if you want to accuse me of something. What I’m saying is that many people are not perfectly trustworthy, and the best way to ensure they don’t harm you is not to give them the opportunity. This is, of course, a balancing act, but from the evidence - the sheer _amount_ of this stuff that gets posted on the internet - I don’t think I’d be inclined to say that many people would be trustworthy with it after a relationship ends. Irrationality causes people to make terrible decisions, and the ease of doing it coupled with the perceived lack of punishment means there is little to stop someone doing it, apart from not being a cunt. If you want to take that to mean that I’ve done it myself, you’d be wrong, but I’ve no way of proving that. If it pleases you to think I’m an evil pervert of some sort, knock yourself out. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/168 "2013-05-05T04:20:47Z")
> [@Steophan](#): > > I was rather annoyed when you suggested you had the right to threaten any passing man on the grounds he might be dangerous. I’m all for people, regardless of genital configuration, taking responsibility for their own safety as much as possible, as the only person’s actions you can control are your own. And this is where you’re just being silly. She was talking about jogging with her pepper spray and you’re saying that by having it out on her person (not waving it at every man she passed, just having it visible) she is threatening any passing man. That is ridiculous and I picture you clutching your pearls “Well I never! That woman ran by me with pepper spray. That pepper spray passed right by my person!” Perhaps where you live it’s illegal to carry it where people can see it. That’s not true everywhere. I have participated in police lead self defense/self awareness programs where the police officers specifically tell you that you should have it in your hand when walking to your car, jogging, etc. They specifically tell you (in printed literature and verbally in the class) that when you need it you need it immediately and you don’t want to rummage for it in your purse so carry it where it can be seen so the potential predator sees that you aren’t the easiest mark. The literature we used in these programs were ordered from one place and it was the same no matter what state in the US it was being sent to. I’m 100% sure that if she contacted her police department where she lives here in the USA and asked if she could run with her pepper spray on her person (strapped to her arm, dangling from her wrist) she would be told y-e-s. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/169 "2013-05-05T04:22:30Z")
> [@DigitalC](#): > > I’ve lost three different phones, all three of them contained pictures of naked girls. You should stop leaving your phones places where you won’t remember where they are. ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/170 "2013-05-05T04:30:11Z")
By this logic, I think it’s smarter to share dirty photos with a one night stand than your husband. A one night stand may not know your personal info, and will have little motivation to launch a coherent harassment campaign. But a husband could, if the marriage broke up, do a lot of damage. Ladies, beware. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/171 "2013-05-05T04:33:06Z")
Even if, like me, you don’t care if people see you naked, and get paid by artists to sketch you naked (and there are plenty of existing photos taken of you while posing) - it would still be deeply wrong for someone to post those pics with identifying info on the internet in an attempt at defamation and/or harassment. I’d pursue legal action as well. ---
**Author:** ![Steophan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steophan/32/9595_2.png) [@Steophan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Steophan)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/172 "2013-05-05T04:35:33Z")
> [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](#): > > I’m 100% sure that if she contacted her police department where she lives here in the USA and asked if she could run with her pepper spray on her person (strapped to her arm, dangling from her wrist) she would be told y-e-s. And despite me saying repeatedly that that has nothing to do with what I was saying, you keep repeating it. **Troppus** and others said in that thread that they had the right to threaten a man with pepper spray if they thought he might become a threat. They don’t, anywhere. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/173 "2013-05-05T04:38:19Z")
> [@Troppus](#): > > Yah, we got it, we can’t trust men. > > Except when MRAs tell us we are scum for assuming all men are out to hurt us. Then, we should trust men. Except we can’t tell which ones we can trust, which ones want us to relax and enjoy sex, and which ones will have sex with us then project their shame onto us and punish us or worse: ruin our professional and private lives and set us up to be raped by strangers. Wait… which is it again? Women should trust men and enjoy sex with them, or women should regard all men as potential villians, criminals, and rapists? So hard to keep up. What’s especially fun is that if you look at past threads here about dating and that old “3 date rule” about having sex you’ll see how many people are shocked that people aren’t ready to bone after just a few dates. If a date lasts 2 hours and you’ve had three that means that in 6 hours time you should know if the person you’re about to bang is a trustworthy individual who will not harm you physically now or screw you over in the future when things have gone south. Please be sure to be open to all of those people too and only assume they are bad when they’ve given you reason to think badly of them. Looking at anyone as a potential ANYTHING that’s bad will hurt their feelings and that’s more important than protecting yourself from anything. ---
**Author:** ![dnooman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/839c29/32.png) [@dnooman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dnooman)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/174 "2013-05-05T04:40:19Z")
> [@colander](#): > > You seriously believe that every single vanity celebrity sex-tape somehow makes it into the public eye? There is literally no reason why you should think this is the case. Absolutely not, where are you getting this from? > [@Red\_Barchetta](#): > > It’s not even a matter of assigning fault; it’s called taking preventive measures. Which in this case, is a very liberal use of the term seeing as not _sending nudies of yourself_ is the default action. > > Had she not sent naked pictures of herself, like a non-idiot might consider, this wouldn’t have happened, by virtue of the fact it **couldn’t** have happened. That’s not to say her idiot ex wouldn’t have found another way to harass her, but that wouldn’t have been it, and it’s unlikely to have been anywhere near as damaging. Allowing nude pics to be taken incurs risk, this is factual. > [@DigitalC](#): > > The relevance is to the “taking naked pictures of yourself is stupid if you don’t want them to end up on the internet” discussion. And losing your phone happens to anyone, not just me. Laptops get stolen, computers break down and need repairing, cameras get lost. It is just a stupid thing to do, trust doesn’t even need to go into it. Allowing nude pics to be taken incurs risk, this is factual. > [@astro](#): > > The furious pushback here over what would seem to be fairly simple, common sense advice is interesting. The notion that telling people not to post or send naked pics of themselves as it may involve a very real risk of eventual exposure is tantamount to some sort of predicate slut shaming is … I don’t know… it’s just bizarre. > > The people that would do this to other people re posting private pics are human scum, but to pretend the risk does not exist if you are emailing or sending your pics to others does not exist is foolish. The notion that there is some magical halo of privacy and decency that should protect you from this happening is charming, but not realistic. You can go after people legally for doing this if you can ID them and convince the law that they are the ones that posted the pics (good luck with that) but the pics are already out there at that point. > > For those who have their backs way up at this advice because they feel that they are full grown adults and entitled to share their erotica as they see fit, and that anyone telling them otherwise can go pound sand, go for it. Good luck chasing the perpetrators. Good luck shutting down the revenge-sites and boards that can pop up overnight like mushrooms and disappear just as quickly. Good luck when a buddy sends you an urgent email telling you that your erotic pics are floating around. > [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > I had a fella once who begged me to allow him to take a sexy photo of me. I said no. Then I became a “cold fish and a prude who didn’t know how to have fun.” > > Can’t win for losing. You dodged a bullet. The people that are offended by finding leaked pics/video online all (criminal events aside) have one thing in common, they allowed the pic/video to be taken. Surprisingly, the people that refused pics and vids, found no instances of graphic images of them online. There may be some rights to privacy afforded in certain circumstances, but if you knew the pic was taken, and it ended up online, that’s on you. Someone else posted it? You knew it was out there. Responsibility. It includes being aware of what one should and shouldn’t take pictures of with no possible chance of negative repercussions. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/175 "2013-05-05T04:40:53Z")
> [@Steophan](#): > > And despite me saying repeatedly that that has nothing to do with what I was saying, you keep repeating it. **Troppus** and others said in that thread that they had the right to threaten a man with pepper spray if they thought he might become a threat. They don’t, anywhere. Except that you said that [there is no reason to have it in your hand at all](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=16090619&postcount=605) unless you intend to use it and that anyone who simply sees it can assume it’s a threat. Keep clutching those pearls and telling us that we’re wrong about the words you use. Bonus points for you telling us how the “law works” as if the law is the same in every single place in the world. ---
**Author:** ![Steophan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steophan/32/9595_2.png) [@Steophan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Steophan)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/176 "2013-05-05T04:44:09Z")
> [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](#): > > Except that you said that [there is no reason to have it in your hand at all](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=16090619&postcount=605) unless you intend to use it and that anyone who simply sees it can assume it’s a threat. Keep clutching those pearls and telling us that we’re wrong about the words you use. Bonus points for you telling us how the “law works” as if the law is the same in every single place in the world. Yes, exactly. Don’t have a weapon in your hand unless you intend to use it. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/177 "2013-05-05T04:48:40Z")
> [@Steophan](#): > > Yes, exactly. Don’t have a weapon in your hand unless you intend to use it. Between police officers instructions and **Steophan** of the internet I think I’ll go with the advice of the police officers despite your super cool knowledge of how the “law works” every single place in the world. Still, you be careful out there as those women run by with the scary, scary pepper spray hanging from their wrist. The world’s a dangerous place for you with those threats whizzing by. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/178 "2013-05-05T04:50:19Z")
> [@Carmady](#): > > Indeed. Two questions in particular stick in my mind. > > One was about the statistical likelihood for a picture to be posted without consent. Surely that would be a major factor in estimating the danger level and appropriate level of precaution. > > The other was about the difference between this situation and allowing a boyfriend access to your purse (and I would add another example, taking a job that requires you to walk through a parking lot at night). In the purse example, we don’t see people blamed for being robbed. In the job example, we don’t see women being told they are stupid to take a job. So is the difference just that this involves sex, and women don’t have the same right to be sexual that they do to work or possess money? The actual percentage of private pics made fully public is obviously very low relative to the number of digital erotic pics in circulation on computers, and cell phones and camera chips. However, the reality is that lot of those pics are more widely distributed than many people may think as digital data is easily copied and sometimes overlooked. I occasionally buy older, inexpensive digital cameras from thrifts for taking ebay pics, and the more than once people (women in each case) have left their erotic pics on the memory chips. I delete these pics, but another person might not. At least 2 times a year or more I pick up and turn in cellphones that people have left on counter tops and shelves in retail stores or restaurants. Several years ago I was asked by a friend if there was a way to retrieve some pics of a HS football game her daughter had deleted. I did some googling and downloaded the recommended retrieval software and it \*undeleted \*over a hundred shots which included much more than just the daughters football pics. The point is the terminal risk that your shots will be on a porn site are very low assuming everyone is acting decently, but they are not infinitesimal, and everyone doesn’t act decently, and there’s more of your private porn running around than you might think. So take precautions. If you don’t you may get stung. Is the fact that you are not morally or ethically culpable in any way going to make it all better when a bunch of revenge board trolls are contacting your Facebook friends with shots of you in private action? Sure, it’s terrible, it’s wrong and they are a pack of shits, but is that going to make it any less embarrassing when you lose that job opportunity or become the talk of the lunchroom? If you really think the risks involved with briefly trusting someone with your purse contents vs giving them full access and effective permanent control of your erotic pics even (potentially) after they have broken up with you is somehow the same risk-wise … I don’t know what to tell you. I think you are miscalculating the nature of the risks. Ethically and morally both are gross breaches or trust, but one is likely to have a lot higher impact than the other if the thief uses the pictures. There seems this to be this huge push to focus on how wrong and immoral it is if this violation of trust happens. All that is granted. There’s no argument there, but the second part of this where there is this insistence that there must not be any suggestion or intimation that the person posting their erotic pics in happy innocence should or could have done anything differently to prevent this from occurring is baffling bordering on asinine. Apparently the advice - “Hey don’t post naked pics of yourself as there is a risk they could be misused, and that could be bad for you” - is 1: slut shaming 2: victim blaming 3: condescending 4: lame 5: not statistically all that high risk, and thus not something women really need to concern themselves with 6: assumes all men are sociopathic predators 7: does not acknowledge the extent to which erotic picture sharing is a vital and necessary part of modern relationships OK fine… share away. But not a peep out of you if they pop up in undesired places. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/179 "2013-05-05T04:55:55Z")
> [@astro](#): > > Apparently the advice - “Hey don’t post naked pics of yourself as there is a risk they could be misused, and that could be bad for you” - is > > 1: slut shaming > 2: victim blaming > 3: condescending > 4: lame > 5: not statistically all that high risk, and thus not something women really need to concern themselves with > 6: assumes all men are sociopathic predators > 7: does not acknowledge the extent to which erotic picture sharing is a vital and necessary part of modern relationships > > OK fine… share away. But not a peep out of you if they pop up in undesired places. But here’s the thing, you specifically made a point to address your advice to women. Not everyone, just women. Women only despite the fact that there have been many famous men this has happened to as well. Can you at all see how your choice to do this smacks as a bit jerkish and possibly a bit of slut shaming? I’m not asking for your head on a platter, but can you see how it’s a little strange that you choose to only lay down this advice to women? ---
**Author:** ![Steophan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steophan/32/9595_2.png) [@Steophan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Steophan)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2013, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434/180 "2013-05-05T04:56:11Z")
> [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](#): > > Between police officers instructions and **Steophan** of the internet I think I’ll go with the advice of the police officers despite your super cool knowledge of how the “law works” every single place in the world. Still, you be careful out there as those women run by with the scary, scary pepper spray hanging from their wrist. The world’s a dangerous place for you with those threats whizzing by. You seem to have confused “hanging from the wrist” with “in your hand” again. Perhaps the nice police officer can explain the difference to you next time you call him to settle your internet arguments. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434.md?page=8) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-if-you-dont-want-your-private-t-a-pics-to-wind-up-online-stop-taking-and-sending-them/657434.md?page=10)