# Ladies, is bottoming out a "problem" for you?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [November 8, 2005, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064 "2005-11-08T17:08:16Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/1 "2005-11-08T17:08:16Z")
I’ve been told by two acquaintances during the course of amorous congress that there is “more rabbit than warren” and would I please refrain from employing the full action of my flesh fer chrissakes. Such requests coming during the act, I perceive them to more sincere in nature than if they had come after the fact in the form of, “Wow, it’s unusually large.” or somesuch. Now, I’m pretty familiar with my guy, and he doesn’t seem to me to be abnormally gargantuan–certainly I have no future as an actor. But I’m concerned and ignorant so:
1. Have you experienced instances where you were unable to accommodate a lover completely?
2. Painful? Unpleasantly so?
3. How common is this in your experience (like, do you talk about it with your mums and girlfriends the way you do about feminine hygeine products?)
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/2 "2005-11-08T17:15:14Z")
Yay, I beat **Anastaseon**!
> [@Inigo Montoya](#):
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> 1. Have you experienced instances where you were unable to accommodate a lover completely?
Yes.
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> 1. Painful? Unpleasantly so?
Yes. But with some adjustment we were fine.
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> 1. How common is this in your experience (like, do you talk about it with your mums and girlfriends the way you do about feminine hygeine products?)
Er…I’m unusual in that I never talk about my sex life to my girlfriends. Just don’t get why?
But I’ve only ever experienced it with one guy, so I don’t think it’s \*that \* common.
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### Author:  [@Trunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trunk)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/3 "2005-11-08T17:19:05Z")
I’ve done that to a few women but only when employing a position of the canine ilk. They don’t like it.
Were you dogging it, **Inigo**?
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### Author:  [@fessie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fessie)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 5:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/4 "2005-11-08T17:24:27Z")
Cute euphemisms (truly), but here’s the thing, and it’s really simple - when your penis bangs into a woman’s cervis, it hurts. There’s nothing “fun” going on, as the real “action” is elsewhere (in the garde outside the warren, if you will).
A man doesn’t have to be particularly huge to accomplish this. And yes, it’s in any decent sex ed book.
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/5 "2005-11-08T17:42:29Z")
> [@Trunk](#):
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> Were you dogging it, **Inigo**?
OK, I guess this could be relevant. No. Doggie & missionary are not really my bag, baby. Not that I avoid them the way I do, say, sheep, but it is not often I find myself in these positions. I prefer to be on my back and give my woman all the control. 🙂
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### Author:  [@scout1222](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scout1222)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/6 "2005-11-08T17:50:30Z")
Ditto what **fessie** said. I find some positions more uncomfortable than others. A little tweaking and everything should be A-OK.
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### Author:  [@Ghanima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ghanima)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/7 "2005-11-08T17:53:20Z")
> [@Trunk](#):
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> I’ve done that to a few women but only when employing a position of the canine ilk. They don’t like it.
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> Were you dogging it, **Inigo**?
For just a second there I thought you meant that it only happens to you when you are fucking dogs.
I’m glad I was wrong.
FYI I had this problem with a guy who was not the largest I’d ever had. After doing some research, I treated myself for a yeast infection even though I had no other symptoms. The problem went away and now I have no trouble. Just a suggestion.
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/8 "2005-11-08T19:22:27Z")
> [@Ghanima](#):
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> For just a second there I thought you meant that it only happens to you when you are fucking dogs.
Yeah, I’m glad I wasn’t the only one.
Inigo. Doggie style is fun.
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/9 "2005-11-08T19:44:51Z")
> [@Anaamika](#):
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> Inigo. Doggie style is fun.
I’ll keep that in mind. 😉
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### Author:  [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/10 "2005-11-08T19:48:45Z")
> [@Anaamika](#):
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> But I’ve only ever experienced it with one guy, so I don’t think it’s \*that \* common.
Ummm… Have you’ve done so many guys that you can state what is common and uncommon?
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### Author:  [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/11 "2005-11-08T19:59:55Z")
**1) Have you experienced instances where you were unable to accommodate a lover completely?** Yes and I’ve noticed anything over about 7.5 inches causes this problem.
**2) Painful? Unpleasantly so?** Horribly. So much I’ve yelped, screamed, etc. at the so called moment of impact.
**3) How common is this in your experience (like, do you talk about it with your mums and girlfriends the way you do about feminine hygeine products?**) Well, just last week we were discussing this at our “Women Who Love Huge Wangs” meeting. . . 😉 My friends and I have talked about it here or there, but it isn’t a daily topic or anything. At the same time, we don’t sit around talking about tampons either, so maybe we are just weird?
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/12 "2005-11-08T20:01:19Z")
> [@Zebra](#):
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> Ummm… Have you’ve done so many guys that you can state what is common and uncommon?
Hmm. I didn’t mean to imply that I am the repository of all information. FTR, I’ve been with four, and I’m 29. IMO, not a lot.
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### Author:  [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/13 "2005-11-08T20:43:57Z")
1. No. I have never been with someone whose penis was unusually long. I think it would definitely take someone of unusual length, since I am sort of, er, weird in that area. As a girlfriend once told me, upon conducting a few experiments, “Wow, your vagina is way longer than mine.” Thank you, I think.
2. See answer #1. It’s happened with big scary dildos, but never with a flesh and blood dick.
3. It seems to be fairly common among the women I’ve spoken to, but it’s not a usual topic of conversation. I hear much more about girth than length from them.
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### Author:  [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/14 "2005-11-08T20:46:33Z")
**1) Have you experienced instances where you were unable to accommodate a lover completely?**
No, but I have been with a couple of guys who were longer than average – one of whom also had a distinct curve when erect.
**2) Painful? Unpleasantly so?**
A little painful, yes. Unpleasant? Hmm, maybe a little, but not enough to make me ask him to go slower or not as deep.
**3) How common is this in your experience (like, do you talk about it with your mums and girlfriends the way you do about feminine hygeine products?)**
This seems to be two questions, really. 1) I haven’t found it to be that common of a problem; for the sake of establishing my “cred” I’ll divulge that I’ve been with 20+ different guys since I became sexually active sixteen years ago. Men come in a wonderful variety of widths, lengths, and curvatures, but I’ve yet to come across anyone who was “too much man” for me. Perhaps I simply haven’t been sleeping with the right men. 😉 (And no, it’s not that I have a giant box like that bridesmaid in _The Godfather_: I’ve been with guys who were a little smaller than average, too, and everything was just fine. :p)
1. I don’t talk about sex with my friends a lot, but it’s a hell of lot more often than we talk about feminine hygeine products! 😃
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### Author:  [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/15 "2005-11-08T20:57:17Z")
You know, I’ve heard it said that going all the way in, as it were, is often uncomfortable and even painful for many women, but is it possible that many others find it a pleasureable experience?
In my limited sexual experiences, I have not been with many women, but at least a couple of them LOVED it when I went a) all the way in, b) went all the way in while thrusting hard and c) loved it more if a nd b were during doggie style, often reputed to be the position most likely to result in the complete usage of said warren
Although I have also been with one girl who seemed, I guess more typical, in that I had to be careful during doggie style. She was not a big fan of that position, and that’s probably the reason.
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### Author:  [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/16 "2005-11-08T20:58:39Z")
It has only ever happened to me once, and it HURT. We were doin’ it doggie style, and had to switch positions. I always thought it was odd that it only happened once, even though we dated for over a year.
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### Author:  [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/17 "2005-11-08T21:02:30Z")
> [@bouv](#):
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> You know, I’ve heard it said that going all the way in, as it were, is often uncomfortable and even painful for many women, but is it possible that many others find it a pleasureable experience?
Yes. That’s one reason why I’m a fan of doggie style–the deeper the better in my opinion.
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### Author:  [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/18 "2005-11-08T21:12:42Z")
I meant to note earlier that I’m including doggie style, on top, reverse cowgirl, etc. There’s never been one particular position I didn’t like (or couldn’t take) with a guy while being ok with all the others: if he was big enough to be uncomfortable one way, he was uncomfortable every way.
> [@bouv](#):
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> You know, I’ve heard it said that going all the way in, as it were, is often uncomfortable and even painful for many women, but is it possible that many others find it a pleasureable experience?
I’d think that _most_ women find full penetration pleasurable, with the unusually-small-warrened being a minority, but that could just be my personal bias. I don’t believe that I’ve ever talked to another woman about it.
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### Author:  [@Neurotik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neurotik)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/19 "2005-11-08T21:13:25Z")
> [@Inigo Montoya](#):
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> I prefer to be on my back and give my woman all the control.
In other words, you’re lazy. 🙂
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [November 8, 2005, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-is-bottoming-out-a-problem-for-you/330064/20 "2005-11-08T21:27:21Z")
> [@Neurotik](#):
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> In other words, you’re lazy. 🙂
ok…[Hijack]
Believe me, I’m not at all idle in this position. You know how it goes with gravity & flexibility–in 66% of my pardners (yeah, that means 2 of the 3) I’ve been able to locate & work a button at the very limits of my reach–a hidden treasure, if you will. They swear it’s not the cervix, but I can definitely feel a nub in there and well…I’ve had difficulty successfully arguing the merits of other positions thenceforth. This particular formation welcomes vigorous and firm contact and its entertainment is the only circumstance under which the rabbit is allowed complete entry to the warren. Sometimes it’s there, sometimes not. The quest is a bit of a gamble because when it’s not there things are brought, temporarily, to a “screeching” halt.
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