# Ladies.. Um, well this is just TMI come inside if you dare.... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 27, 2006, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421 "2006-09-27T22:14:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/1 "2006-09-27T22:14:01Z")
So me and another guy friend were talking today. He was telling me about this girl he’s been seeing for a while. They’ve been together sexually more than a couple of times and everything has been more than superfluous. That is until last night (or recently) they go to do the deed and there’s this… um… “odor” . (Vaginal odor in case that wasn’t painfully obvious) After confiding in him: “I’ve been there too bro”. We start to debate if there is _any_ nice way at all to tell the girl to wash up or do what ever it is you got to do to make it right again. After a lengthy discussion, we both pretty much concluded that it’s better to just bare through it than to run the risk of hurting said ladies feelings or at the very least, embarrass her beyond comprehension. So just in case we’re missing something here: - Is there a nice way to go about this?\* ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/2 "2006-09-27T22:20:29Z")
Well, I guess my answer has to be no. I had a discussion with an ex about cooter smells - according to him (he got much more up close and personal with my cooter than I did) the odor down there changes based on the time of the month. Now, as far as he was concerned, it was all good. However, used feminine hygene products don’t have a particularly appealing odor. For that reason, I assume the cooter probably doesn’t smell that great at that time either. **BUT** you can’t really say “Honey - sometimes you just don’t feel fresh.” because it could put your woman off of having sex during her period because she might be embarassed. God, I don’t know. The ex and I decided, for my benefit, that no oral would happen when aunt flo was visiting, but everything else was a go so the point kind of becomes moot. I mean, unless the cooter is so nasty that he could smell it from accross the room, in which case that gal needs to call her doctor… ---
**Author:** ![Mouse\_Maven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@Mouse\_Maven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mouse_Maven)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/3 "2006-09-27T22:22:37Z")
You could try," Hey honey. Let’s take a bath together. It’ll be fun." Whenever a guy I was involved with was sweaty and/or smelly I would offer to take him into the shower and lather him up (but not mention that I think he’s nasty) 😉 ---
**Author:** ![foxymoron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/d26b3c/32.png) [@foxymoron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/foxymoron)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/4 "2006-09-27T22:22:38Z")
Could they shower together first next time? I can’t think of a way for him to mention hygiene without her getting offended. Unless she’s the rare type to take things like that in stride. If the odor is different than usual, she might have an infection that would warrant a visit to her gyno. A [Google search](http://www.google.com/search?hs=z21&hl=en&lr=&client=opera&rls=en&q=vaginal+odor+&btnG=Search) can tell you more about that than you ever wanted to know. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/5 "2006-09-27T23:05:43Z")
I was thinking showering together, too. “Hey, baby, you know what? I need a shower. Hop in with me!” Now, my hubby and I have been together for over 20 years, and at this point, neither of us is shy about saying “Ack! Go get a shower before you get in bed!” But you really have to know someone very well before that works. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/6 "2006-09-27T23:13:35Z")
So it sounds like jumping out of bed while exclaiming “Damn girl! What crawled up in there and died?” is the wrong way to go about it? I would agree with the showering together suggestion, gets the job done while being discreet about it. Plus it can be fun too. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/7 "2006-09-27T23:20:29Z")
What kind of odor? “Essence d’LowTide” is one thing. “Eau de Rut” is something completely different. It could be diet, bad hygiene, a drug reaction…any number of things. But I strongly third the “take a shower together” suggestion. If the twang is still there after some laving, then you probably don’t want to stick your tool in there anyway. It might drop off later! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/8 "2006-09-27T23:23:20Z")
My friend and I thought about the shower thing but we figured that would be rather transparent seeing how neither of us are the “Let’s shower together” type. ---
**Author:** ![Sierra\_Indigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f0a364/32.png) [@Sierra\_Indigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sierra_Indigo)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/9 "2006-09-27T23:27:34Z")
[QUOTE=SHAKES] My friend and I thought about the shower thing but we figured that would be rather transparent seeing how neither of us are the “Let’s shower together” type. [/QUOTE] There’s an easy way around that - “I saw this movie/read this article/letter to penthouse about having sex in the shower. It seemed like it’d be fun to try. Wanna give it a go?” ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/10 "2006-09-27T23:31:11Z")
[QUOTE=SHAKES] So me and another guy friend were talking today. He was telling me about this girl he’s been seeing for a while. They’ve been together sexually more than a couple of times and everything has been more than superfluous. That is until last night (or recently) they go to do the deed and there’s this… um.. “odor” . (Vaginal odor in case that wasn’t painfully obvious) [/QUOTE] I hate to do this to you, **Shakes** , but I’m going to ask you to make this a little more TMI. By “do the deed” do you mean have sex, or him go down on her? Because if you mean the former, I can’t imagine her a. not knowing herself that something smells off if _he_ can smell something b. being healthy despite being, uh, fragrant at a distance far from his nose. Actually, unless she doesn’t bathe much at all, I find B harder to believe in any case. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/11 "2006-09-27T23:32:52Z")
[QUOTE=elfkin477] I hate to do this to you, **Shakes** , but I’m going to ask you to make this a little more TMI. By “do the deed” do you mean have sex, or him go down on her? Because if you mean the former, I can’t imagine her a. not knowing herself that something smells off if _he_ can smell something b. being healthy despite being, uh, fragrant at a distance far from his nose. Actually, unless she doesn’t bathe much at all, I find B harder to believe in any case. [/QUOTE] This was my point too - I mean, if you’re just having regular old missionary style sex and you can smell something, she’s got to be able to smell it too. So - which is it? ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/12 "2006-09-27T23:46:01Z")
[QUOTE=elfkin477] I hate to do this to you, **Shakes** , but I’m going to ask you to make this a little more TMI. By “do the deed” do you mean have sex, or him go down on her? Because if you mean the former, I can’t imagine her a. not knowing herself that something smells off if _he_ can smell something b. being healthy despite being, uh, fragrant at a distance far from his nose. Actually, unless she doesn’t bathe much at all, I find B harder to believe in any case. [/QUOTE] Well, I can’t speak for my friend, but I can tell you as far as MY experiences go, it’s been from regular non oral sex. The odor doesn’t become apparent untill she becomes moist down there. I love oral sex but if I get that smell; It aint gonna happen. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2006, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/13 "2006-09-27T23:48:05Z")
[QUOTE=SHAKES] The odor doesn’t become apparent untill she becomes moist down there. [/QUOTE] Is this every girl, or only some girls? And all the time? Or some of the time? During her period? Right before? Right after? I’m curious. ---
**Author:** ![Oregon\_sunshine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/50afbb/32.png) [@Oregon\_sunshine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oregon_sunshine)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2006, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/14 "2006-09-28T00:09:57Z")
I took “I’ve been there too bro” to mean that they both boinked her. ---
**Author:** ![Oregon\_sunshine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/50afbb/32.png) [@Oregon\_sunshine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oregon_sunshine)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2006, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/15 "2006-09-28T00:11:10Z")
The same girl, I mean, different times of course. Darr. It’s been a long day. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2006, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/16 "2006-09-28T00:15:56Z")
[QUOTE=alice\_in\_wonderland] Is this every girl, or only some girls? And all the time? Or some of the time? During her period? Right before? Right after? I’m curious. [/QUOTE] Very few girls. And even those few, it wasn’t every time they had that pungent oder. As far as the relevance to their cycle; I don’t know. ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2006, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/17 "2006-09-28T01:17:57Z")
[QUOTE=SHAKES] They’ve been together sexually more than a couple of times and everything has been **more than superfluous.** [/QUOTE] I can’t decide exactly what this means but the possibilities are hilarious. ---
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2006, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/18 "2006-09-28T01:52:29Z")
**SHAKES** , m’dear, you might want to look up "superfluous’. I can’t imagine sex being “wastefully excessive.” 😃 To the OP, if she hasn’t just finished her period, she may have a yeast infection from antibiotics, or she could have an STD. In either case, your friend should be gently direct with her, as they both may need treatment. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2006, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/19 "2006-09-28T05:28:26Z")
[QUOTE=picunurse] **SHAKES** , m’dear, you might want to look up "superfluous’. I can’t imagine sex being “wastefully excessive.” 😃 [/qUOTE] “I gave a LOT of unnecessary head. And I know guys are going to argue with me about this - ‘Oh, Margaret, there’s no such thing as unnecessary head. All head is necessary. All head is wanted and needed in the world. I run a home for unnecessary head.’” - Margaret Cho ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2006, 6:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421/20 "2006-09-28T06:55:42Z")
Nasty odor that doesn’t go away after a fun and water-efficient (two clean bodies for the price of one! California needs your help) shower probably means she needs to see a gynecologist. It’s awkward, but it’s for her health, so suck it up. > [@SHAKES](#): > > My friend and I thought about the shower thing but we figured that would be rather transparent seeing how neither of us are the “Let’s shower together” type. Are you kidding? You’re missing out. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-um-well-this-is-just-tmi-come-inside-if-you-dare/374421.md?page=2)