# Ladies: what makes for a good kiss? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 17, 2017, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731 "2017-12-17T20:34:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Guest-starring\_Id](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guest-starring_id/32/21736_2.png) [@Guest-starring\_Id](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guest-starring_Id)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2017, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/22 "2017-12-18T22:10:30Z")
Really, it’s all about being a total _smooooothie_, like this young roue, especially when it comes to [timing.](https://youtu.be/WbIpbjiw_Zs?t=46) “Well…” ---
**Author:** ![P-man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/p-man/32/3606_2.png) [@P-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/P-man)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2017, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/23 "2017-12-19T00:28:54Z")
As socially awkward as I always was, kissing seemed to come naturally to me. The few times it got as far as kissing the woman stuck with me for a while. Ms. P and I had our first kiss in the shadow of the 59th Street Bridge, next to the East River. It’s hard to beat that. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2017, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/24 "2017-12-19T01:57:31Z")
> [@Guest-starring\_Id](#): > > Really, it’s all about being a total _smooooothie_, like this young roue, especially when it comes to [timing.](https://youtu.be/WbIpbjiw_Zs?t=46) > > “Well…” Absolutely love that movie. ---
**Author:** ![Guest-starring\_Id](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guest-starring_id/32/21736_2.png) [@Guest-starring\_Id](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guest-starring_Id)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2017, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/25 "2017-12-19T05:05:42Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > Absolutely love that movie. > [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > Edit: I personally think “Is this okay? Is this what you wanted?” is an incredibly sexy thing for a man to say. Yes I think Dustin really is [your man.](https://youtu.be/WbIpbjiw_Zs?t=76) whoa!!! Just realised - I’ve used not one but TWO Dustin Hoffman movie quotes in the same (short!) thread. _Totally_ unintended, and maybe one of the most freakish freakin coincidences in the entire planet. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2017, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/26 "2017-12-19T15:45:21Z")
> [@guestchaz](#): > > and the PENULTIMATE: nuzzling along the jawline to end with an earlobe lick-nibble-suck and back And if the posts above weren’t clear enough, don’t misuse “penultimate” during your makeout sessions. :mad: ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2017, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/27 "2017-12-19T19:49:54Z")
Remember the old showbiz advice: Leave 'em wanting more. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tim_r.mortiss/32/142_2.png) [@Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_R.Mortiss)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2017, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/28 "2017-12-19T20:07:54Z")
I guess I’m in the minority here. I \*like \*kissing a woman right after she’s smoked a cigarette. It’s more flavorful, like a burger cooked on the grill instead of just in a pan. (No, I don’t smoke myself.) ---
**Author:** ![DummyGladHands](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/49beb7/32.png) [@DummyGladHands](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DummyGladHands)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2017, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/29 "2017-12-21T12:41:31Z")
Best one for me, end of a date, he ever so slowly put his hand in my hair about where my ear is a drew me close… ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2017, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/30 "2017-12-21T13:10:43Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > I do write romance novels. I’ve put a lot of thought into this! \ No shit. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2017, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/31 "2017-12-21T20:34:17Z")
For Pete’s sake, do NOT shove your tongue down the girl’s throat unless she’s somehow indicated that’s sexy to her. If it gets far enough for tongue, move on to a slightly open-mouthed kiss, then if that feels good to you both, use just the tip of your tongue, licking the seam of the other person’s mouth lightly, then move along from there. Minimize the amount of spit, tilt your head slightly (you both need to breathe) and take a “slow learner” approach. Oh, and another thing…please don’t go right for the boobs. One hand on the lower back, the other hand maybe really lightly cupping the nape of the woman’s neck or even slightly higher on her back is a good start. Kissing is not a perfunctory gate to pass through prior to boobage. If it’s a first kiss, the kiss should be an event in and of itself. Back when I was dating, I was always surprised at how many guys went straight for my boobs like the grandma in _Sixteen Candles._ (How’s THAT visual for you?) ---
**Author:** ![Guest-starring\_Id](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guest-starring_id/32/21736_2.png) [@Guest-starring\_Id](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guest-starring_Id)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2017, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/32 "2017-12-21T22:05:46Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > Kissing is not a perfunctory gate to pass through prior to boobage. 😕 ☹ The more [momentous,](https://youtu.be/QwLZfPPM7GQ?t=140) the better. (For anyone familiar with that film, I thought it was a very well-done moment.) ---
**Author:** ![F.U.Shakespeare](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aca169/32.png) [@F.U.Shakespeare](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/F.U.Shakespeare)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2017, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/33 "2017-12-21T23:43:21Z")
> [@DummyGladHands](#): > > Best one for me, end of a date, he ever so slowly put his hand in my hair about where my ear is a drew me close… Interesting. This reminds me of a comment by “Big Fat Greek Wedding” actress Nia Vardalos in the DVD’s audio commentary. She claimed that when a woman is reclining for a kiss, it’s really important to cradle her head securely and comfortably. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2017, 1:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/34 "2017-12-22T01:44:28Z")
Ears are also pretty erogenous on a lot of people. That little spot below the ear where the hair meets the scalp is pretty sensitive in a happy way. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2017, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/35 "2017-12-22T01:59:09Z")
So much of good intimacy is exploration vs. means to an end. You can discover all sorts of fun things. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2017, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731/36 "2017-12-22T17:18:26Z")
Once in a while a grown woman will date a grown man who still kisses like an overeager middle school kid - or a puppy - their kisses have a lot in common. Enthusiasm, pushiness, and a lot of slobber. The enthusiasm does not make up for the others - and you are not as cute as a puppy and lack puppy breath. (The less said about how a middle school boy smells, the better). [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-what-makes-for-a-good-kiss/804731.md?page=1)