# Ladies, would you dump guy if he admitted to sex w/a guy?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [October 28, 2010, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-dump-guy-if-he-admitted-to-sex-w-a-guy/558710 "2010-10-28T22:41:13Z")\
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**Author:** ![delphica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e9a140/32.png) [@delphica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/delphica)\
**Post date:** [November 1, 2010, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-dump-guy-if-he-admitted-to-sex-w-a-guy/558710/61 "2010-11-01T19:49:09Z")

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> [@outlierrn](#):
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> Then I thought, wait he’s 38, she’s 35 and he brought up a college driveby early in the relationship, could be a red flag.

This was my impression as well … the weirdest part to me is that this was presented as a “secret” he could potentially keep from her. I’m in the same general age cohort, and man, college feels like it happened during the Dark Ages for me. I don’t even remember a lot of stuff that I got up to in college … and that’s not even a reference to partying too much, either. It was so long ago, I didn’t even have email in college! Who _knows_ what I was up to? If anything, that would be a funny story from college … not a big secret to harbor or reveal.

If I was the girlfriend, I guess I would be wondering why it’s still such a big deal.

Did he bring up it up out of the clear blue, or was it one of those “Did you ever … ?” curiosity conversations that people have when they’re dating?

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**Author:** ![Dolly\_Madison](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@Dolly\_Madison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dolly_Madison)\
**Post date:** [November 1, 2010, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-dump-guy-if-he-admitted-to-sex-w-a-guy/558710/62 "2010-11-01T20:49:34Z")

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> [@AClockworkMelon](#):
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> I’m not a lady but I know I wouldn’t date a guy who’d been with another guy.

but you’d date a guy in general, right?🙂 Just one without experience.

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**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\
**Post date:** [November 1, 2010, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-dump-guy-if-he-admitted-to-sex-w-a-guy/558710/63 "2010-11-01T23:14:22Z")

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> [@AClockworkMelon](#):
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> I’m not a lady but I know I wouldn’t date a guy who’d been with another guy.

Damn - ruled out by unreasonably high expectations yet again. 😉

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