# Ladies, Would you want to be dumped before or after Xmas. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 23, 2014, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-want-to-be-dumped-before-or-after-xmas/708058 "2014-12-23T20:56:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2014, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-want-to-be-dumped-before-or-after-xmas/708058/21 "2014-12-25T00:00:26Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Perhaps I’m missing something here, but if you are single for the first time in 25 years, does that mean you ended a 25-year relationship over “logistics”? Or did you dump a previous girlfriend for this one or something? I read it as the woman had just ended a long relationship (marriage). One of the women. The NYE one. ---
**Author:** ![P-man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/p-man/32/3606_2.png) [@P-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/P-man)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2014, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-want-to-be-dumped-before-or-after-xmas/708058/22 "2014-12-25T02:48:17Z")
I’m not a lady, but I’ve been dumped after Christmas. Since she knew ahead of time it was going to happen, I’d rather it had happened before. ---
**Author:** ![Duckster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duckster/32/1244_2.png) [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2014, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-want-to-be-dumped-before-or-after-xmas/708058/23 "2014-12-25T02:55:36Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Perhaps I’m missing something here, but if you are single for the first time in 25 years, does that mean you ended a 25-year relationship over “logistics”? Maybe the OP works for UPS? ---
**Author:** ![Stringbean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Stringbean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringbean)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2014, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-want-to-be-dumped-before-or-after-xmas/708058/24 "2014-12-25T03:47:34Z")
Women love to cut off all communication, especially after just one date, as a passive way of telling you it’s over. I suggest you rise above that, call them and explain them exactly what’s going on. They will appreciate it and it wouldn’t necessarily close the doors for a future relationship. TL;DR Trucelt nailed it upthread. ---
**Author:** ![Inna\_Minnit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Inna\_Minnit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inna_Minnit)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2014, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-want-to-be-dumped-before-or-after-xmas/708058/25 "2014-12-25T17:45:12Z")
> [@Stringbean](#): > > Women love to cut off all communication, especially after just one date, as a passive way of telling you it’s over Men do it too. To the OP, why exactly, do you think either lady would be crushed by your absence in their lives after only one date? Do you really think you are such a catch? Here’s the likely scenario: you blow off the two new ladies to go back to the one who dumped you. Drama will ensue. You or she will end it again. And if you have the balls to try to chat up the new ladies again, I hope they tell you to take a flying leap. Always alone… ---
**Author:** ![missred](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/missred/32/14096_2.png) [@missred](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missred)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2014, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-want-to-be-dumped-before-or-after-xmas/708058/26 "2014-12-26T02:09:21Z")
Whether you tell the new women in your life before or after the holidays, giving it another try with the ex should definitely wait until after them. As mentioned upthread, you can have a bad case of lonesome around Christmas, New Years and Valentine’s. Judgment can go way off course. ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/57b2e6/32.png) [@Quasimodal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodal)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2014, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-want-to-be-dumped-before-or-after-xmas/708058/27 "2014-12-27T00:16:54Z")
I feel slightly less guilty about letting go of my girlfriend before Christmas now…very slightly less… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-would-you-want-to-be-dumped-before-or-after-xmas/708058.md?page=1)