# Ladies: your impression of boners...hot or not?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-your-impression-of-boners-hot-or-not/323913
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [September 28, 2005, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-your-impression-of-boners-hot-or-not/323913 "2005-09-28T20:47:05Z")
**Posts on this page:** 7
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### Author:  [@xizor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xizor)
#### Post date: [September 29, 2005, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-your-impression-of-boners-hot-or-not/323913/41 "2005-09-29T20:46:52Z")
Time for a paraphrased quote from _Dogma_ :
[Jay] I know it’s wrong, but when God kissed me, I got half a chub[/Jay]
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### Author:  [@wonderlust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonderlust)
#### Post date: [September 30, 2005, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-your-impression-of-boners-hot-or-not/323913/42 "2005-09-30T00:30:39Z")
D’oh! _whacks the side of her head_
I always forget to look for them! And once reminded, I always vow to look in the future.
Seriously, as a teen I was completely oblivious to guys’ erections, until I started having sex. But then we didn’t freak in those days, nor give blowjobs at 12. Only at 15.
As I said in a similar post: all erections are good erections as far as I’m concerned. If I notice someone with one, it makes me watch them with a bit more…erm…interest. Assuming he’s not acting like a creep. My favorable opinion may also have to do with the fact that it’s been a few months since I’ve been treated to one.
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### Author:  [@threemae](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/threemae)
#### Post date: [September 30, 2005, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-your-impression-of-boners-hot-or-not/323913/43 "2005-09-30T02:32:10Z")
> [@Siege](#):
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> A few years ago, I was talking with a fellow I know at a weekend gathering. We were both unattached and we both find each other attractive, but we were conceding that if we got into a long term relationship, we’d tear each other apart. I told him he’d be great for a one-night stand or even the odd casual roll in the hay and meant it, but unfortunately, I’m not into that. We sighed over mutual attraction that wasn’t going to go anywhere and got up to dance a slow dance.
[Tweek from South-Park]Jesus christ![/Tweek] That’s the cruelest tease I thing I’ve heard of in the past year.
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### Author:  [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)
#### Post date: [September 30, 2005, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-your-impression-of-boners-hot-or-not/323913/44 "2005-09-30T09:20:15Z")
How? It was his idea to slow dance. We’d known each other for a few years, and he knew I don’t do one night stands or casual sex for moral reasons. Later that evening, when I stood up to do reach some cards during a card game, he slipped into my chair so I sat down in his lap, to my surprise. We’re still friends. The reason I ask is I’ve got a very low regard for women who tease men and lead men on and I would be shocked to think something I did was considered teasing someone. He knew where he would, and still chose to slow dance with me to a song about regret for a relationship that wouldn’t work (I don’t remember the title). I’m also not noted for changing my mind, especially when it comes to moral issues. How was that teasing?
By the way, **William V.** , I meant to say, “I knew he was attract **ed** ” not “attract **ive** ” of course. It must have been a Freudian slip. He really was a _damn_ attractive man, and I realize I probably missed out on a heck of a one night stand. Knowing him, somehow I have a feeling some other lady didn’t.
CJ
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### Author:  [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)
#### Post date: [September 30, 2005, 11:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-your-impression-of-boners-hot-or-not/323913/45 "2005-09-30T11:39:52Z")
> [@Rebekkah](#):
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> If I’m attracted to a guy, I’m invariably flattered by the erection, whenever it occurs. And, yes… I’ve been told it is often involuntary (like the morning hard on), but I still persist in thinking it is my inherent hotness that causes it, every time.
Well, it probably is. The “involuntary” part refers to not being able to _stop_ it. Not that the erection itself is random. 😃
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### Author:  [@wonderlust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonderlust)
#### Post date: [September 30, 2005, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-your-impression-of-boners-hot-or-not/323913/46 "2005-09-30T14:57:09Z")
Mae West said it best “A hard man is good to find”. 😉
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### Author:  [@MysteryFellow63427](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MysteryFellow63427)
#### Post date: [September 30, 2005, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-your-impression-of-boners-hot-or-not/323913/47 "2005-09-30T21:46:20Z")
My advice for unboning a boner: clamp down hard on the pubococcygeus muscle for 5-10 seconds, then relax . Repeat as necessary. Eventually you’ll tire Pete out and he’ll go back to sleep. See below for more information on kegel exercises for men.
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