# Lady Dopers: What do you think of a guy who looks at your cleavage? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 25, 2008, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906 "2008-01-25T01:49:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Moriarty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moriarty/32/49_2.png) [@Moriarty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moriarty)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/21 "2008-01-25T13:25:26Z")
[QUOTE=CalMeacham] This is not the best way to make your case in a thread about cleavage. “cow-orker”, or “co-worker” if you must, but not “cow-worker”. [/QUOTE] :smack: That’s what I get for trying to be hip to the dope ---
**Author:** ![Dazzling\_White\_Diamonds](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/41988e/32.png) [@Dazzling\_White\_Diamonds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dazzling_White_Diamonds)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 1:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/22 "2008-01-25T13:37:03Z")
[QUOTE=Atomicktom] :smack: That’s what I get for trying to be hip to the dope [/QUOTE] How **udderly** embarrassing… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 1:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/23 "2008-01-25T13:47:18Z")
[QUOTE=Broomstick] If we’re having a conversation you better look at my face. You may look at the tits, but it is inappropriate to talk to the tits in public situations. [/QUOTE] Yes, looking at the tits in one thing, talking to the tits is another. 😃 Think of it this way: how would you feel about a woman checking out your ass? Chances are good that if its a quick glance you won’t mind, or may even feel a little pumped up and happy about it, if her reaction is subtle and positive. If she were circling you to get a better look while you’re trying to tell her about the latest sales figures, you’d probably be a bit annoyed. Being interested in my breasts as well as me is fine, and even flattering. Being distracted by my breasts because they’re more interesting than me is insulting. ---
**Author:** ![guizot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guizot/32/3636_2.png) [@guizot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/guizot)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/24 "2008-01-25T14:00:17Z")
[QUOTE=SmartAleq] What do I think? I think he’s a hetero guy who likes my tits. I should be upset by this? Heck, I’m a butt and package checker myself, I have no grounds to object to a cleavage peeker! [/QUOTE] Well, what do you think about a guy who _doesn’t_ look at your cleavage? One of my co-workers, I heard, definitely thought I was gay. I heard about this, and tried to figure out why. It turned out that it was that I didn’t look at her cleavage. My friend, at work I’m too busy to look at your cleavage. If you want me to do that, invite me for a drink after work. ---
**Author:** ![Jean\_Gray](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7feea3/32.png) [@Jean\_Gray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jean_Gray)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/25 "2008-01-25T14:12:23Z")
[QUOTE=elfkin477] Why would I wear something low-cut, only to be upset if men looked? I thought that was the **point** of low-cut tops. Don’t tell me I’ve been doing this all wrong… I don’t wear things that show off cleavage very often (never to work; I think it’s unprofessional to show up to your job dressed like Lisa Cuddy), but when I do it’s will full awareness that the outfit will attract attention. I lack empathy for women who are falling out of their tops and also upset that a guy stared at them. How could he not?! [/QUOTE] Ditto, totally. ---
**Author:** ![Ro\_Carter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7feea3/32.png) [@Ro\_Carter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ro_Carter)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/26 "2008-01-25T14:34:07Z")
I think it’s cute, generally. Cute like “Aww, he’s looking at my boobs!”. If it turns into a stare, then I start worrying that there is something on my skin/shirt. If he starts talking to my boobs, then I get irritated. ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/27 "2008-01-25T14:45:14Z")
[QUOTE=WhyNot] Yes, looking at the tits in one thing, talking to the tits is another. 😃 Think of it this way: how would you feel about a woman checking out your ass? Chances are good that if its a quick glance you won’t mind, or may even feel a little pumped up and happy about it, if her reaction is subtle and positive. If she were circling you to get a better look while you’re trying to tell her about the latest sales figures, you’d probably be a bit annoyed. Being interested in my breasts as well as me is fine, and even flattering. Being distracted by my breasts because they’re more interesting than me is insulting. [/QUOTE] Is this an isolated incident or something that happens regularly? ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/28 "2008-01-25T14:50:58Z")
[QUOTE=Least Original User Name Ever] Is this an isolated incident or something that happens regularly? [/QUOTE] Which, talking to the tits, or circling for a better look at the ass? Honey, when you have tits like mine, they get stared at. Could you walk by the Grand Canyon and not look? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Dazzling\_White\_Diamonds](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/41988e/32.png) [@Dazzling\_White\_Diamonds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dazzling_White_Diamonds)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/29 "2008-01-25T14:58:24Z")
[QUOTE=WhyNot] Honey, when you have tits like mine, they get stared at. Could you walk by the Grand Canyon and not look? 😃 [/QUOTE] Exactly. BTW, love the phrasing. I’ve often thought of it that way myself. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/30 "2008-01-25T14:59:32Z")
“Looking at cleavage is like looking at the sun. You don’t stare at it. It’s too risky. You get a sense of it and then you look away.” -Jerry Seinfeld ---
**Author:** ![bbs2k](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e495f1/32.png) [@bbs2k](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bbs2k)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/31 "2008-01-25T15:12:49Z")
This is why I enjoy pic threads so much. I get to stare and stare, and no guilt. ---
**Author:** ![Sophistry\_and\_Illusion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b3f665/32.png) [@Sophistry\_and\_Illusion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sophistry_and_Illusion)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/32 "2008-01-25T15:42:55Z")
I have to try really hard not to look, because I’m a college professor, and I’m pretty sure that no students want their prof. checking out their cleavage. I’m afraid even a single glance will have them filing me away in their mind permanently as “creepy professor guy.” So being surrounded every day by hot college students isn’t as fun as you would think. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/33 "2008-01-25T15:45:23Z")
[QUOTE=Nzinga, Seated] In my early twenties, I wore low-cut shirts everyday. I often received comments (not from strangers) about how I shouldn’t show any cleavage. I noticed that my slimmer friends never got these comments, even when they wore equally low shirts. [/QUOTE] This is ridiculous. My gorgeous, stacked friend Ros’s idiot mother told her, “When you’re _round_, you shouldn’t wear such low-cut shirts.” My reaction was, “As far as I know, being _round_ is the _reason_ for wearing low-cut shirts!” Another idiot, a boyfriend of hers, told her once her tits were too big. She dumped him. Do not fuck with Ros. ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/34 "2008-01-25T15:47:32Z")
[QUOTE=WhyNot] Which, talking to the tits, or circling for a better look at the ass? Honey, when you have tits like mine, they get stared at. Could you walk by the Grand Canyon and not look? 😃 [/QUOTE] The ass-circling. Man, I’ve got work to do. I can’t be hanging around here talking about boobs all day… …okay, maybe I can. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/35 "2008-01-25T15:54:27Z")
[QUOTE=Least Original User Name Ever] The ass-circling. [/QUOTE] 😃 No, it’s not something that I’ve done or seen happen, but the closest I could come to a male hypothetical equivalent. It’s about as distracting when we start noticing you’re staring at the boobs (or speaking to them) as \*if \*we were circling around for a look at the derrière. What can I say? Y’all wear the wrong clothes for us to check out your schlongs. ---
**Author:** ![Aangelica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b2d939/32.png) [@Aangelica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aangelica)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/36 "2008-01-25T16:04:54Z")
Looking is perfectly fine, staring is creepy and rude. After all, I am perfectly aware of the facts that the girls are, erm, substantial - I buy my own bras, don’t I? They’re impressive! They’re _certainly_ noticeable. Hence, I don’t mind if a gentleman notices. I think **WhyNot** has it precisely right, actually. ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/37 "2008-01-25T16:21:50Z")
[QUOTE=WhyNot] 😃 No, it’s not something that I’ve done or seen happen, but the closest I could come to a male hypothetical equivalent. It’s about as distracting when we start noticing you’re staring at the boobs (or speaking to them) as \*if \*we were circling around for a look at the derrière. What can I say? Y’all wear the wrong clothes for us to check out your schlongs. [/QUOTE] I know this will get countered with a statement about how uncomfortable bras can be…but… …Do you have any idea how much it sucks to be poorly situated inside your own pants? It can curl up under your thigh or a ball can get virtually sat on or pinched against the inside of a pant leg! Those aren’t fun! God forbid you get hard! ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/38 "2008-01-25T16:28:09Z")
[QUOTE=Least Original User Name Ever] …Do you have any idea how much it sucks to be poorly situated inside your own pants? It can curl up under your thigh or a ball can get virtually sat on or pinched against the inside of a pant leg! Those aren’t fun! God forbid you get hard! [/QUOTE] By all means, wear a skirt! I think skirts are damn sexy on men, and I heartily endorse a cultural shift in dress codes for American men. Dashikis, kilts, kimonos, caftans, sarong…I think they’re all [yummy!](http://www.kiltmen.com/world.htm) Won’t \*someone \*think of the testicles? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/39 "2008-01-25T16:57:25Z")
Though I imagine they do, I don’t really notice guys looking at my tits. Too busy staring at their crotches (I swear, I don’t even know how I picked up this habit but it’s a hard one to break.) I do check out other women’s racks if they’re huge and usually beat my boyfriends to the punch with a comment once she’s gone, though I’m not ignorant enough to think anyone with big tits who isn’t wearing a sack dress wants people to stare. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [January 25, 2008, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906/40 "2008-01-25T17:16:51Z")
[QUOTE=Cat Fight] Though I imagine they do, I don’t really notice guys looking at my tits. Too busy staring at their crotches [/QUOTE] Such is my staring-inclination, although I’m male and the crotches are of the female variety. I play by the same rules as those whose primary appreciation is higher up on the body (no slack-jawed uninterrupted drooly-face, don’t be blatant, but a glance or two or three, yumm). I figure there’s more general awareness of guys checking out boobage so it’s less obvious what I’m doing. How about you? Ever get, you know, _caught_ at it? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lady-dopers-what-do-you-think-of-a-guy-who-looks-at-your-cleavage/434906.md?page=3)