# Left out of the loop, and it hurts

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**Category:** The BBQ Pit\
**Created:** [January 31, 2012, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/left-out-of-the-loop-and-it-hurts/611358 "2012-01-31T23:55:51Z")\
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**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\
**Post date:** [February 1, 2012, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/left-out-of-the-loop-and-it-hurts/611358/18 "2012-02-01T01:35:19Z")

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> [@Miller](#):
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> It’s possible that this is a sign that the guy isn’t as invested in his friendship with the OP as the OP was with him.
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> It’s also possible that this is a sign that he’s so nervous about how people will react to him, he was afraid that even his closest friend might freak out, and so he put off telling her for as long as possible, because he didn’t want to risk it.
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> It appears his concerns were not entirely without justification.

Maybe you should go fuck yourself. The OP just found out that someone he thought was as close to him as a person could get kept a massive life altering secret from him. People have a right to be selfish now and then, but your first “Get over yourself” response makes it look like no one is allowed to feel hurt by it.

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