# Let's talk about everyday communication disconnects between couples **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 30, 2015, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-everyday-communication-disconnects-between-couples/739001 "2015-11-30T01:10:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Frylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@Frylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frylock)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2019, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-everyday-communication-disconnects-between-couples/739001/61 "2019-07-30T23:08:21Z")
Insert laugh react here 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2019, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-everyday-communication-disconnects-between-couples/739001/62 "2019-07-30T23:37:14Z")
I don’t know whether to commiserate or celebrate. Some of both, maybe? ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2019, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-everyday-communication-disconnects-between-couples/739001/63 "2019-07-31T02:33:52Z")
“Here’s the divorce papers. Sign them like for a car.” “…you mean like I would sign for buying a car, or for a drivers’ lice…” “Like for a car! Normal reverse order! Like a car” ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2019, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-everyday-communication-disconnects-between-couples/739001/64 "2019-07-31T02:42:53Z")
One word conversations. That’s all I’m saying on the subject. ---
**Author:** ![Frylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@Frylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frylock)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2019, 12:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-everyday-communication-disconnects-between-couples/739001/65 "2019-07-31T12:57:22Z")
> [@Isamu](#): > > “Here’s the divorce papers. Sign them like for a car.” > > “…you mean like I would sign for buying a car, or for a drivers’ lice…” > > “Like for a car! Normal reverse order! Like a car” This made my fucking morning 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Tee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@Tee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tee)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2019, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-everyday-communication-disconnects-between-couples/739001/66 "2019-08-01T14:57:25Z")
I saw another of your threads about your wife besides this one. It’s not really any of my business, but imho you could benefit from talking to a professional about this kind of scene that played out repeatedly in your marriage. Not because you were doing anything wrong per se, but because this person appears to have dominated the relationship with passive-aggressiveness and crazy-making behavior for a long time, and that has an effect on people. I am extremely wary about judging a person’s character on the basis of their ex’s testimony, and it is irresponsible to speculate. But you did note somewhere that she makes things up. In this case, with all the kids involved, she is going to be a part of your life for a long time, and those behaviors should be documented and discussed, and discouraged, pronto. And in general, I think it would be good for you to have a fuller understanding of what your wife does and why she might do it, and the cumulative effect it has had on you. That is all. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-everyday-communication-disconnects-between-couples/739001.md?page=3)