# Let's talk about fisting!
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [September 22, 2009, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134 "2009-09-22T20:35:17Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Plan\_B](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Plan_B)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/21 "2009-09-23T17:03:15Z")
Guy here.
Never did it.
Never wanted to do it.
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### Author:  [@gurujulp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gurujulp)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/22 "2009-09-23T18:25:19Z")
> [@panache45](#):
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> Same-sex fisting. After having fantasized about it for many years, I finally had the opportunity to do it . . . only once, about 25 years ago, and it was one of the most powerfully intimate sexual experiences of my life. The guy who was the “fistee” was extremely experienced, and I was able to go in to just beyond my elbow. I was pleasantly surprised at how warm it was inside him. I assume I was pushing into his diaphragm, and I could actually feel his heart beating. The intense feeling of intimacy came from actually being inside another human being . . . and once we positioned ourselves properly, we could actually kiss at the same time. An amazing, unforgettable experience.
Ever wear a band?
As you describe it, it sounds awesome- but I really don’t think I would be interested…
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### Author:  [@Elysian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elysian)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/23 "2009-09-23T18:40:03Z")
Some of you are forgetting my questions. I’d like to know how many times, and why it’s sexy to you.
And Nava, for some reason your story about your grandfather really squicked me out. Maybe it’s because…it’s about your grandfather? Brrr.
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### Author:  [@Happy\_Fun\_Ball](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Fun_Ball)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/24 "2009-09-23T18:53:28Z")
> [@Nava](#):
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> I have never tried it, but I understand that my maternal grandparents’ third night as a married couple involved a mild form of fisting.
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> He hadn’t been able to breach her hymen, so finally he bunched his fingers up (think of the gesture that in Italy means “and so?”) and used the bunched fingers to breach her, reasoning that bones are harder than a boner.
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> So it was done for completely practical reasons. Oh, as this has come up other times: while Grandma was technically a virgin, quoth: “hands and mouths hadn’t exactly been still,” she was no blushing daisy.
How in the hell did you find out about this? Your family dinners must be entertaining!
Oh, and since I am here, guy, never done it, never wanted to, does nothing for me in porn…
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### Author:  [@Icarus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Icarus)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/25 "2009-09-23T20:08:07Z")
Elysian, you have to remind your husband that porn is porn, and real life is real life. If everything we saw in porn were as common in real life then we wouldn’t watch porn, yah?
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### Author:  [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/26 "2009-09-23T20:29:24Z")
> [@Elysian](#):
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> And Nava, for some reason your story about your grandfather really squicked me out. Maybe it’s because…it’s about your grandfather? Brrr.
> [@L. G. Butts](#):
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> How in the hell did you find out about this? Your family dinners must be entertaining!
My grandmother doesn’t believe in the concept of TMI.
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### Author:  [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/27 "2009-09-23T20:32:23Z")
Male here, never done it, never been requested to do it, wouldn’t want to do it. The thought really grosses me out, maybe it’s not a logical feeling, but there it is.
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### Author:  [@G0sp3l](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/G0sp3l)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/28 "2009-09-23T21:00:05Z")
Male. Never done it, never been asked. No interest whatsoever, and I like to think I’m uninhibited.
Nava, I had lived 40 years without EVER thinking of my Grannies even having had sex. You’ll be hearing from my lawyer. And my therapist.
I may need to reevaluate my stance on censorship and net neutrality.
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### Author:  [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/29 "2009-09-23T21:05:10Z")
Question–where exactly is the arm/hand going when you go up to the elbow? Like…up the colon?!
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### Author:  [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/30 "2009-09-23T21:07:33Z")
Male, haven’t done it, not really interested. I have _really_ big hands, so I’m not sure it’s even possible.
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### Author:  [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/31 "2009-09-23T21:23:07Z")
Haven’t seen much fisting porn, but one of my best friends (lesbian female) swears by it. Her clit isn’t that sensitive, so what’s a girl to do?
I haven’t fisted my current SO and probably won’t, but I’ve come close–and she was digging it.
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### Author:  [@garygnu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/garygnu)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/32 "2009-09-23T22:03:28Z")
> [@Elysian](#):
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> Chasing Amy had a basic tutorial 😛
Do you really spread out the fingers and wave?
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### Author:  [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/33 "2009-09-23T22:04:22Z")
I think it would be a lot better for my ego if I _didn’t_ fist my partner.
After having my fist; how she’s supposed to be satisfied with my penis is beyond me.
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### Author:  [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/34 "2009-09-23T22:07:29Z")
> [@SHAKES](#):
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> I think it would be a lot better for my ego if I _didn’t_ fist my partner.
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> After having my fist; how she’s supposed to be satisfied with my penis is beyond me.
Well, if you’re Jim Abbott, you don’t have that problem.
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### Author:  [@HongKongFooey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HongKongFooey)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/35 "2009-09-23T22:08:20Z")
I had no idea spitting was common much less fisting. I’m going to give my wife a hug now.
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### Author:  [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/36 "2009-09-23T22:23:48Z")
> [@HongKongFooey](#):
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> I’m going to give my wife a hug now.
Freak…
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### Author:  [@G0sp3l](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/G0sp3l)
#### Post date: [September 23, 2009, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/37 "2009-09-23T23:05:41Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#):
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> Well, if you’re Jim Abbott, you don’t have that problem.
So, so, wrong. But funny.
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### Author:  [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)
#### Post date: [September 24, 2009, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/38 "2009-09-24T05:09:16Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#):
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> Well, if you’re Jim Abbott, you don’t have that problem.
> [@G0sp3l](#):
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> So, so, wrong. But funny.
I’m probably going to regret this but could some one please explain the joke to me?
Thx.
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### Author:  [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)
#### Post date: [September 24, 2009, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/39 "2009-09-24T05:30:58Z")
> [@SHAKES](#):
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> I’m probably going to regret this but could some one please explain the joke to me?
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> Thx.
Jim Abbott is (was?) a pitcher with one hand that’s like, deformed.
[http://www.flintjournal.com/125/past/images/hr/ABBOTT.jpg](http://www.flintjournal.com/125/past/images/hr/ABBOTT.jpg)
That’s a picture of him.
He’s amazingly talented. It was wrong of me to mock him. But fun.
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### Author:  [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)
#### Post date: [September 24, 2009, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lets-talk-about-fisting/511134/40 "2009-09-24T05:42:01Z")
I had one girlfriend that I came really close with on a few occasions. The first couple of times I wasn’t intentionally trying to fist her, but she was _really_ digging three fingers, so I went to four. It was really hot how I could feel the inside of her so well, and when she orgasmed, I could feel muscles in her g-spot contract. Hell, I’m pretty sure I was sort of massaging her cervix and it was making her come. Now I know all the female dopers will come in here and say having their cervix touched during sex hurts, but considering most of my hand was inside her, as deep as it could go, and I felt what could best be described as a bump, fleshy, wall…I’m not sure what else it could be. And she was loving every second of it.
Eventually I attempted to work my thumb in there as well, but couldn’t quite ever get past the last set of knuckles without it hurting her a bit.
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