# LGBT folks: at what age did you know you were... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 1, 2013, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lgbt-folks-at-what-age-did-you-know-you-were/657255 "2013-05-01T20:56:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [May 1, 2013, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lgbt-folks-at-what-age-did-you-know-you-were/657255/1 "2013-05-01T20:56:24Z")
lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgendered? (Suggested by [this post](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=16249994&postcount=18)in the “You’re teaching your kids a lesson in bigotry” thread, in a sub-discussion which someone alleges a third-grader cannot know whether she or he is gay.) Poll in a moment. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [May 1, 2013, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lgbt-folks-at-what-age-did-you-know-you-were/657255/2 "2013-05-01T21:03:51Z")
I made a mistake-Could you change my vote from the 2nd “5” to the 1st “5”? ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [May 1, 2013, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lgbt-folks-at-what-age-did-you-know-you-were/657255/3 "2013-05-01T21:11:28Z")
It was my mistake. I think I’ll ask that this thread be closed and correct the poll once it is. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Drake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Dr.Drake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Drake)\ **Post date:** [May 1, 2013, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lgbt-folks-at-what-age-did-you-know-you-were/657255/4 "2013-05-01T21:13:26Z")
This is hard to answer. I chose “13” because that’s when I had my first hormone-fuelled crush on a boy, and failed to have similar crushes on girls. I didn’t admit it to myself until I was 21, though. So “13” for certain values of “know”, “over 20” for others. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [May 1, 2013, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lgbt-folks-at-what-age-did-you-know-you-were/657255/5 "2013-05-01T22:23:58Z")
> [@Dr.Drake](#): > > This is hard to answer. I chose “13” because that’s when I had my first hormone-fuelled crush on a boy, and failed to have similar crushes on girls. I didn’t admit it to myself until I was 21, though. So “13” for certain values of “know”, “over 20” for others. If that’s what “knowing” means then I found out I was straight around 10 or so. I have distinct memories of being eight, looking at bikini-clad women, and thinking that I didn’t see the big deal. But I know I had crushes in fifth grade. ---
**Author:** ![listedmia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e0b2c6/32.png) [@listedmia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/listedmia)\ **Post date:** [May 1, 2013, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lgbt-folks-at-what-age-did-you-know-you-were/657255/6 "2013-05-01T23:18:54Z")
I’m bisexual. I was sleeping over at my female friend’s house when I was 14. We were joking around and laughing about some dumb joke, and all of a sudden simultaneously kissed each other. She’s in a lesbian relationship now while I have dated both sexes and am currently with a man. I never realized I was sexually attracted to females, and had lost my virginity to a boy a few months prior to this. However, when I was around 10 or 11, I started to notice boys in my class and decide I “liked” some of them. I also noticed girls I thought were gorgeous, but because it was socially not really acceptable, I didn’t translate that to wanting to date or fool around with them. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2013, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lgbt-folks-at-what-age-did-you-know-you-were/657255/7 "2013-05-02T01:04:53Z")
Closed in case you want to start another.