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It may be fair for the parents, but is it fair for the children, for society?
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Ah, fairness to the children and fairness to society. Is it fair to the children to arbitrarily decide when they stop being a mass of cells and start being children? The arguement of when life begins is unfair at the outset.
[QUOTE=Brown Eyed Girl]
This is one of the hardest things to reason with regard to abortion. I’m very supportive of fathers’ rights and I have a hard time with the situation you describe. Ideally, both people that contribute to the pregnancy, should have equal say in the disposition of that pregnancy. But forcing a woman to continue a pregnancy she doesn’t want has ramifications that forcing both parents to care for a child does not.
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Sure, I absolutely agree that the ramifications are great. However I have difficulty understanding an unwanted pregnancy (with exceptions given for rape or molestation of the mentally or physically challenged) in today’s society. Condoms are cheap (free from some services) and available, non-latex alternatives exist for latex allergies, there are a wide variety of shots and other treatments to facillitate birth control. IMHO any woman who “accidently” gets pregnant should also “accidently” lose her exclusivity to the right to choose. Responsibility for birth control is not just the man’s job.
[QUOTE=Brown Eyed Girl]
The law does not agree with you. Short of placing a child up for adoption and effectively shifting the burden to adoptive parents, the rights of a child to be supported by their birth parents, however unwillingly, takes precedence over the right of either birth parent to walk away from it. Like it or not, the birth father’s name is going to be on the birth certificate. That right there establishes responsibility. When the birth father’s responsibility is not met, the burden often shifts to society. Does that sound more fair to you? That you, as a taxpayer, should pick up the tab for a father that chooses not to support a child he helped created?
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No, the mother should pick up the tab. As I mentioned earlier she had the option to say no and didn’t, she had the option to use birth control and didn’t, she had the option to abort and didn’t. That is three times she said “This child is mine and only mine no matter what anyone else thinks.” That is three times she chose to take full responsibility. How many more times is needed?
[QUOTE=Brown Eyed Girl]
Both parties created the pregnancy and both parties are burdened with the responsibilities that come with offspring. Unfortunately, nature makes the burden fall inequitably, but that’s the way it works.
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I do agree that both parties created the pregnancy and both parties should share responsibility. No, I don’t think it is only the woman’s responsibility for birth control, it is both. Being the responsibility of both I think the woman’s responsibility is understated. I do not support abortion as a form of birth control. I only marginally support abortion as a form of genetic choice. I support abortion in cases of incest and rape and adamantly support abortion in cases risking the mother’s life.
I do support a mother’s right to choose and do, realistically understand the natural limitations on a father’s right to choose (eg. none at all). However the right to choose should come with the responsibility to prevent or the flexibility to accept a broader view of the father’s rights.