# Limiting/flagging/forbidding post with content offensive to other members.

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**Created:** [May 26, 2018, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/limiting-flagging-forbidding-post-with-content-offensive-to-other-members/814854 "2018-05-26T13:27:02Z")\
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**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\
**Post date:** [May 27, 2018, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/limiting-flagging-forbidding-post-with-content-offensive-to-other-members/814854/63 "2018-05-27T03:44:47Z")

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> [@Skywatcher](#):
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> [:dubious:](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=830387)

I don’t think most people realize that you embedded a link on the smiley.\*

There are few interesting things I realized as I read through that. There are similarities in the discussion, but very few people said “just ignore it” or denied that it was happening.

I found a few quotes that I think apply to where we are now and explain why people feel so frustrated. Women in particular feel like their concerns are being minimized and ignored because of their gender (although some men are supportive/also offended). Skald is the focal point, but he isn’t the only time this happens. He just happened to be the last straw.

> [@Really Guys? AKA Sexism on the Board](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/really-guys-aka-sexism-on-the-board/790633/135):
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> Minimizing the concerns of other people isn’t helpful.

> [@Really Guys? AKA Sexism on the Board](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/really-guys-aka-sexism-on-the-board/790633/61):
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> If someone says “I found what you said offensive” you don’t say “Here’s why you shouldn’t be offended” you say “I’m sorry, I didn’t intend offense, I intended to make a joke”. That’s if you’re a member of polite society. If you’re a member of asshat society I suppose you just don’t give a fuck, but you keep posting anyway.

So, here we are. Many people have said they are uncomfortable, and for the most part the response has been, “well, just ignore it” or “you just want attention so you’re making this up”.

I don’t know what the right answer is - maybe it’s spoiler boxes, or maybe Skald could not do the sex stuff anymore - but I do know that the right answer when someone tells you that something sexual is making them uncomfortable is NOT to tell them to ignore it or that they are making it up (or that it happens other places on the Internet, or in books, or in movies, or your friends do it, or whatever).

\*For the record, kayaker and Morgenstern both apologized for that joke and are both very supportive of women on the Dope.

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