# Lingerie for Men: yay or nay? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 20, 2013, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176 "2013-04-20T00:11:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/41 "2013-04-20T19:14:37Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > I’m a man and I’m not into it. And I also think it’s a joke. Same here. I don’t agree with this; it’s too feminine. ---
**Author:** ![Recusant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/838e76/32.png) [@Recusant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Recusant)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/42 "2013-04-20T19:39:25Z")
> [@I\_Made\_French\_Toast\_For\_You](#): > > I must admit I was not expecting such a negative reaction. And now I’m very confused between the difference between “underwear” and “lingerie”. All the links posted so far (except maybe that last one – wow) are underwear: boring briefs, sometimes with a boring sleeveless robe. I thought lingerie was supposed to be playful, fun, and decadent? > > Again, I wouldn’t buy the lacy lingerie in the OP unless my partner suggested it. But I find the nonchalant swapping of gender norms in its ads to be charming, and I’m willing to try anything once. > > (Also, I checked the “homme mystere” website, and they do sell slightly more manly/vanilla lingerie. The whole thing seems legit to me!) I’m with you on this one- not my thing, but hey, go nuts. I think part of the reason for the negativity is that it’s perceived as cross-dressing, and that almost always gets a viscerally negative response- no matter how tolerant people think they are. But hey, this is underwear- there’s nothing playful or fun about it. Underwear is SERIOUS BUSINESS. ---
**Author:** ![Not\_a\_Platypus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d26b3c/32.png) [@Not\_a\_Platypus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Not_a_Platypus)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/43 "2013-04-20T19:47:34Z")
I really dig some cross-dressing (Eddie Izzard, or Tim Curry in Rocky Horror, for example) but that first link isn’t doing anything for me. I guess I’m not a huge fan of women in that kind of lingerie, so men wearing it really doesn’t work for me. ---
**Author:** ![CookingWithGas](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cookingwithgas/32/485_2.png) [@CookingWithGas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CookingWithGas)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/44 "2013-04-20T20:17:41Z")
Was that site created 19 days ago? ---
**Author:** ![PookahMacPhellimey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pookahmacphellimey/32/3175_2.png) [@PookahMacPhellimey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PookahMacPhellimey)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/45 "2013-04-20T22:20:00Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > Men in women’s underwear, or ‘lingerie’ aping the style? No thanks. > > My boyfriend in (men’s) tight, patterned boxer briefs? Hell yes Yes. Here in Italy you have men’s styles, for example [these](http://it.intimissimi.com/product/boxer-stampa-a-micropois-fluo/157701.uts) in boxer briefs that some of my northern European friends who come visit me find kind of ridiculous. This same shop used to even do them with a floral pattern. I kind of like it. But it’s miles away from the OP’s link, which I really hope is a joke. ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/46 "2013-04-20T23:18:50Z")
No and hell no. Interesting mens underwear has neither polka dots or lace. Now I have to wash out my brain having seen that. Yech. If I were gay, which I’m not, seeing a dude in that stuff would turn me straight. ---
**Author:** ![Reyemile](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/46a35a/32.png) [@Reyemile](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reyemile)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/47 "2013-04-20T23:21:09Z")
Those pictures confused me a little. My experience with men in lingerie has been that the men either a) want to be humiliated by the experience or b) want to look feminine and feel female. Unlike most posters in this thread, I was expecting a man in a bra when I clicked on those images. But I was NOT expecting to see a big, buff, obviously male model smiling and laughing with his girlfriend while wearing a nightie. ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 11:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/48 "2013-04-20T23:34:27Z")
the entire fashion “industry” should be taken out back and shot. regardless of whether this is or isn’t real. ---
**Author:** ![saje](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saje/32/3631_2.png) [@saje](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saje)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/49 "2013-04-21T00:24:03Z")
Umm, no. just no. that shit’s just creepy. ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/50 "2013-04-21T00:25:48Z")
it was a good idea, but there wasn’t enough taffeta there’s never enough fucking taffeta, goddamn it ---
**Author:** ![Reyemile](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/46a35a/32.png) [@Reyemile](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reyemile)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/51 "2013-04-21T01:16:31Z")
Also, in re: this poll, “I am a man and I’m into it” doesn’t let one clarify one is into wearing it, ogling it, or both. ---
**Author:** ![I\_Made\_French\_Toast\_For\_You](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/858c86/32.png) [@I\_Made\_French\_Toast\_For\_You](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_Made_French_Toast_For_You)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/52 "2013-04-21T01:34:39Z")
> [@Reyemile](#): > > Also, in re: this poll, “I am a man and I’m into it” doesn’t let one clarify one is into wearing it, ogling it, or both. You’re concerned the poll option with two votes isn’t sufficiently detailed? 🙂 Seeing as I’m one of the votes (and the other is a vote made in error), this should clear it up: only into wearing it at a partner’s request, but charmed by the idea in general, and don’t mind ogling men wearing it. My conclusion from this thread: Homme Mystere: misunderstood, ahead of its time. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/53 "2013-04-21T01:39:53Z")
Hell, I’m not even overly interested in _women’s_ lingerie. I prefer a good pair of flannel pyjamas. Though it would be interesting to see that one-sided blue thing as a bathing suit. ---
**Author:** ![Two\_Many\_Cats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8dc957/32.png) [@Two\_Many\_Cats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Two_Many_Cats)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/54 "2013-04-21T03:20:57Z")
Well, I for one would like to thank the OP for the link. I needed a ten minute laugh. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/55 "2013-04-21T04:22:17Z")
Ew. Just…ew. Are you sure that’s not an April Fool’s site? I’m all for men in lingerie like silk boxers and whatnot, but frilly pink lacy…eww! I don’t even like that kind of thing as _women’s_ lingerie. Why would I like it on a guy? ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/56 "2013-04-21T05:10:12Z")
One of those 2 votes for “i’m a man and i’m into it” was mine, and I didn’t check the photos before I voted. I was thinking actual sexy men’s lingerie, not women’s lingerie slightly cut differently and put on a man. ---
**Author:** ![Max\_the\_Immortal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/6de8d8/32.png) [@Max\_the\_Immortal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_the_Immortal)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/57 "2013-04-21T05:17:29Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > Hell, I’m not even overly interested in _women’s_ lingerie. I prefer a good pair of flannel pyjamas. “I’m more turned on my women in pyjamas than lingerie; I just want to know they feel comfortable.” –Troy Barnes ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 6:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/58 "2013-04-21T06:01:50Z")
> [@Infovore](#): > > Ew. Just…ew. Are you sure that’s not an April Fool’s site? I bet it is, actually. Real mens underwear sites look like the one linked to above. They guy looks more like one of the guys writing the site, not a model, and there are never women in the ads. ---
**Author:** ![Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/f04885/32.png) [@Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qin_Shi_Huangdi)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 6:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/59 "2013-04-21T06:11:49Z")
Ugh. No. Just no. ---
**Author:** ![Spoons](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spoons/32/3141_2.png) [@Spoons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spoons)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2013, 8:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176/60 "2013-04-21T08:21:01Z")
There’s something not-quite-right in the examples given. So I will say, No. Just no. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/lingerie-for-men-yay-or-nay/656176.md?page=4)