# List the time length of all your failed relationships/marriages (in months). **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 26, 2014, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676 "2014-09-26T21:07:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/1 "2014-09-26T21:07:54Z")
I am studying the mathematical relationship between relationship time-length (in months) and likelihood of a breakup, and investigating if there is any such relationship. I need some (a lot of) data. For every (final) breakup and divorce, list the length of time that relationship lasted. Widows don’t count as failed relationships. I am sorry for your losses, for any widows out there. So for example, say you had three relationships that lasted 3 months, 9 months, and 4 years each. In your post, you would list: 3 months 9 months 48 months Just like that. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/2 "2014-09-26T21:25:13Z")
10 months 45 months. (currently at 159 months of my 3rd relationship) ---
**Author:** ![CT\_Damsel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CT\_Damsel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CT_Damsel)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/3 "2014-09-26T21:50:25Z")
212 months 20 months ---
**Author:** ![P-man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/p-man/32/3606_2.png) [@P-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/P-man)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/4 "2014-09-26T21:53:05Z")
5 months 5 months 228 months and still going. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/5 "2014-09-26T21:54:48Z")
5 years 30 years and counting ---
**Author:** ![boffking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/858c86/32.png) [@boffking](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boffking)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/6 "2014-09-26T21:55:02Z")
Only had one relationship, it lasted a month :’( ---
**Author:** ![John\_DiFool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_difool/32/19543_2.png) [@John\_DiFool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_DiFool)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/7 "2014-09-26T22:04:50Z")
3 months. ---
**Author:** ![lazybratsche](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ba8739/32.png) [@lazybratsche](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lazybratsche)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/8 "2014-09-26T22:09:28Z")
2 months 21 months 90 months and counting ETA: To do the analysis properly you should really include relationships that have not ended as well as those that have ended for reasons that you think don’t count. In survival analysis these are “right-censored” observations, and ignoring them introduces bias. ---
**Author:** ![Lacunae\_Matata](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@Lacunae\_Matata](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lacunae_Matata)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/9 "2014-09-26T22:18:07Z")
87 months 6 months 79 months 14 months 70 months and counting. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/10 "2014-09-26T22:19:39Z")
1 month 1 month 7 years 20 years and counting. ---
**Author:** ![Aangelica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b2d939/32.png) [@Aangelica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aangelica)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/11 "2014-09-26T22:38:55Z")
How are we defining relationships here? Are you counting only exclusive relationships? Single dates that failed to work out? Friendships that developed into something else and subsequently stopped being romantic? If I date the same person more than one time, do we want the total count or ought I be counting each individually? I’m not actually sure how to count them up here. Depending on how we’re counting here, I’m not sure I can actually come up with an accurate count. I don’t necessarily think I remember all the people I “dated” in the high school and college years. It was a long time ago, and some of those “relationships” were dang short. ---
**Author:** ![dracoi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/90db22/32.png) [@dracoi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dracoi)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/12 "2014-09-26T23:11:32Z")
6 months. 192 months and counting for the second relationship. ---
**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/13 "2014-09-26T23:11:54Z")
Exclusive romantic relationships and time is counted from first date (or date of transformation of relationship type from friendship to romantic relationship). So say you date someone not exclusively for 5 weeks, that doesn’t count. On the on the other hand, if you become exclusive at the 4 week mark, and then break up in a few days, that counts as a one month relationship that failed. Say you’re friends with someone for 2 years and then decide to be in a romantic relationship, and then 1.5 years later you break up, that wouldn’t count as 42 months, but 18 months. FWB’s don’t count. ---
**Author:** ![DChord568](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/439d5e/32.png) [@DChord568](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DChord568)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/14 "2014-09-26T23:55:06Z")
Counting only marriages, as I couldn’t put an accurate time span on old girlfriends… First marriage: 10 years, 9 months Second marriage: 23 years, 1 month (and counting) ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/15 "2014-09-27T00:24:02Z")
3 months about 8 times 20 years several more about 3 months 5 years 17 years ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/16 "2014-09-27T00:57:22Z")
125 months. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/17 "2014-09-27T01:04:46Z")
53 months, 14 days and 20 hours ---
**Author:** ![gwendee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/35a633/32.png) [@gwendee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gwendee)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/18 "2014-09-27T01:28:57Z")
18 months 48 months (subsequent and longest relationship ended, but did not fail by your definition) ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/19 "2014-09-27T01:35:04Z")
2 years. 27 years and counting. 3 years and counting. ---
**Author:** ![Red\_Stilettos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/fbc32d/32.png) [@Red\_Stilettos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Red_Stilettos)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/20 "2014-09-27T01:42:17Z")
36 months 50 months 1 month 1 month 1 month 61 months and counting [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676.md?page=2)