# List the time length of all your failed relationships/marriages (in months). **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 26, 2014, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676 "2014-09-26T21:07:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/21 "2014-09-27T01:43:43Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > 2 years. > 27 years and counting. > 3 years and counting. You are in two relationships? ---
**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 1:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/22 "2014-09-27T01:44:50Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > 3 months about 8 times > 20 years > several more about 3 months > 5 years > 17 years Damn, you have been through a lot. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/23 "2014-09-27T14:12:28Z")
> [@R3d\_Anonymous](#): > > You are in two relationships? Yes. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/24 "2014-09-27T15:29:06Z")
324 months Still married. Wait… you asked about _failed_ relationships. Uh, haven’t had any of those, sorry. So what would be the answer? 0 months or 324 (in my example)? ---
**Author:** ![rsat3acr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/a3d4f5/32.png) [@rsat3acr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rsat3acr)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/25 "2014-09-27T15:30:53Z")
how far back on the relationships? 20 months Jr. high but still good friends with her 32 months High school 456 months ongoing, started in college, been married 388 of those months ---
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/26 "2014-09-27T15:37:12Z")
Discounting dalliances, as in not really going to take them home to Momma for Sunday dinner, 18 13 4 9 51 (Marriage #1) 6 6 166 and counting (Marriage #2) One at a time. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/27 "2014-09-27T16:03:58Z")
24 months 18 months 288 months 264 and counting (actually, this relationship hasn’t failed, so doesn’t count, right?) ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/28 "2014-09-27T22:00:24Z")
Sharing living quarters, in months: 50 15 3 3 150 20 12 200 ---
**Author:** ![Bill\_Door](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/50afbb/32.png) [@Bill\_Door](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bill_Door)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/29 "2014-09-27T23:53:12Z")
18 months 6 months 6 months Currently at 470 months and counting. You need to add an option to add the average age of the respondent’s automobile. I heard the _Car Talk_ guys talking about a theory they had about people who trade in a car at the first sign of trouble and those who trade in a spouse. Those that called their show seemed to bear this out, but they are self selected. On the average I drive a car 12 years. It should go up now that I’m not in a climate where they put salt on the road five months a year. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/30 "2014-09-28T01:18:34Z")
108 months 21 months 108 months current relationship is at 257 months and going strong. ---
**Author:** ![JKellyMap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jkellymap/32/15880_2.png) [@JKellyMap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JKellyMap)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/31 "2014-09-28T02:09:48Z")
Don’t like to think of them as “failed” – they were what they were, and you’re defining “success” as “a partner dying while married” – but anyway, here you go: 31 months 5 months 46 months 4 months 120 months (yes, exactly 10 years), and going strong ---
**Author:** ![Hey\_Hey\_Paula](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hey\_Hey\_Paula](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hey_Hey_Paula)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/32 "2014-09-28T02:31:07Z")
7-ish years. After 6-ish years, he didn’t know if he wanted to get married or not, so I had to say, not. Current marriage: 20 years and counting. ---
**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/33 "2014-09-28T04:25:16Z")
I took all the data up to and including **Chefguy** ’s and found a formula: Let t represent the time-length of a relationship (in months) and b (t) represent the likelihood of it ending in breakup or divorce (in percentage) (between now and the infinite future): b (t)=100(0.970)^t ; t must be greater than 0. This will tell you the percent chance of your relationship or marriage ending in breakup or divorce between now and the infinite future. Link to complete explanation for how I found this: [Relationships and Addiction | Talk About Marriage](http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/222930-calculate-likelihood-your-relationship-ending-breakup-divorce.html) ---
**Author:** ![guizot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guizot/32/3636_2.png) [@guizot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/guizot)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 6:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/34 "2014-09-28T06:12:35Z")
> [@Chefguy](#): > > 264 and counting (actually, this relationship hasn’t failed, so doesn’t count, right?) Well, that’s what the title says. If the relationship has failed, I think it’s time to stop counting. . . . Or maybe all the folks “counting” here are just biding their time? ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/35 "2014-09-28T06:17:24Z")
By your criteria, no failed relationships, one extant 16-year marriage. However, by my criteria I had several relationships before this one. ---
**Author:** ![Mijin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mijin/32/9369_2.png) [@Mijin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mijin)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 8:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/36 "2014-09-28T08:12:12Z")
3 months 6 months ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 8:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/37 "2014-09-28T08:28:33Z")
If you broke up and subsequently got back together, do you count it as two relationships of whatever duration, or one relationship of the total duration? ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 11:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/38 "2014-09-28T11:13:18Z")
The first girl I dated for over two weeks, I married. The relationship hasn’t failed yet. ---
**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/39 "2014-09-28T12:52:07Z")
> [@Eliahna](#): > > If you broke up and subsequently got back together, do you count it as two relationships of whatever duration, or one relationship of the total duration? One relationship of the total duration. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 12:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/list-the-time-length-of-all-your-failed-relationships-marriages-in-months/699676/40 "2014-09-28T12:59:12Z")
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