But just because you’ve had sexual experiences doesn’t mean you can’t be victimized. I think the tendency for most of us is, when we conjure up a sexual abuse victim, is to think of someone fairly virginal who has few ideas about sex and who went abused says no immediately. But in real life, it’s so rarely like that. Most abuse victims are like Lolita. They may not be super pleasant and easy to identify with. They may even be manipulated into being complicit. And I think that’s why so many victims blame themselves–if society thinks that you’re not really a victim or that it’s “complicated” when stuff like this happens, I can definitely see why.