# Loneliness and homesickness **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 10, 1999, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/loneliness-and-homesickness/9117 "1999-10-10T06:50:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Pixoid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Pixoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixoid)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 1999, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/loneliness-and-homesickness/9117/1 "1999-10-10T06:50:00Z")
I’m a freshman at college…have been for about a month and a half, now. Tonight I’m having a serious bout of homesickness. It’s not that I miss so much the home comforts (although having a tub sounds really good right now)… No, what I really miss are the friendships I had back home. I keep in contact–“talk” on ICQ and all such things–but it’s not the same. And although I’ve made friendships here, they’re not of the same depth at all…there’s no one I can hug here. And I’m surrounded by people, every now and then I feel all alone, anyway. Anyway, TM, I just needed to spill my MPS…I’ll be better tomorrow morning. Take care, all…thanks for reading. -Pix ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 1999, 7:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/loneliness-and-homesickness/9117/2 "1999-10-10T07:02:00Z")
I know just how you feel. I’ve been in Australia for six months nearly, and I haven’t made any friends at all, really. And I doubt I’ll ever find friends as great as those I’ve left behind. I miss my family too. Heaps. All I can do, though, is buck up, carry on, and know that things will be brighter in time. And have a good laugh, that always cheers me up! 🙂 * * * “Waheeey! ‘Duck!’ Get it?” “Errr… No…” “Duck! Sounds almost exactly like fu-” ---
**Author:** ![Yankee\_Blue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/7ea924/32.png) [@Yankee\_Blue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yankee_Blue)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 1999, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/loneliness-and-homesickness/9117/3 "1999-10-10T19:37:00Z")
Give yourselves a chance. How can you manage a deep friendship is a couple of months? You can’t! It takes time and effort. I have lived in various countries, states, and counties over the years and have never regretted a single move if only for the people I met along the way. Most of the people I met while in college turned into vague memories, but the friends I made there I still have. You’ll find friends too if you look for them. * * * …at night, the ice weasels come… ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 1999, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/loneliness-and-homesickness/9117/4 "1999-10-10T19:52:00Z")
{{{{{Pixoid}}}}} Sorry to hear you’re feelin’ so blue. I well remember that first semester in college. I was 3000 miles away from where I had grown up and gone to high school, and my parents had moved to Arizona so I wouldn’t even be going home to see everybody at Christmas. Didn’t have IM and EM in them days either (::looking around for cane:: ). It does take a while. Get involved in some of the on-campus activities, and stuff like that. I promise it will get better. My best friend now that I am an old lady 😉 is a guy that I met in college; we even worked together for eight years at the same firm. Lots of people I know even met their future spouses at college. Good luck, and hang in there. -Melin ---
**Author:** ![Pixoid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Pixoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixoid)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 1999, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/loneliness-and-homesickness/9117/5 "1999-10-10T21:58:00Z")
By the light of day…Thanks for symphatizing. I’m sure college will get better; it’s just that every now and then I get a little lonely. Generally, I love being here. I miss the small town I’m from, but it’s nice being in a place without the baggage I’ve carried for the past five years. Contradictory, but true. YB: I’m not despairing of ever making good friends, just missing the ones I’ve left behind. I know it takes time and effort. Thanks for the advice, though. GuanoLad: Don’t worry–I’m sure you’ll make good friends. I know it’s depressing remembering everyone, but it will get better. Good luck down under, and take care. -Pix ---
**Author:** ![Pixoid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Pixoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixoid)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 1999, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/loneliness-and-homesickness/9117/6 "1999-10-10T21:59:00Z")
“sympat **h** izing”…oops.