# Long-distance relationship advice needed **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 25, 2001, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-distance-relationship-advice-needed/63247 "2001-04-25T04:50:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Tansu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/67e7ee/32.png) [@Tansu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tansu)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2001, 1:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-distance-relationship-advice-needed/63247/21 "2001-04-26T13:55:46Z")
Now **that** sounds like a damn good relationship to me. I hope you two can be together for good soon. ---
**Author:** ![RalfCoder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f1d935/32.png) [@RalfCoder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RalfCoder)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2001, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-distance-relationship-advice-needed/63247/22 "2001-04-26T14:35:49Z")
I second that, **Tansu**. For both **SNenc and Jennifer** , as well as **Anthracite and Fierra** , and raise my glass to both couples. Cheers! And **wring** , [it’s true](http://www.statenews.com/article.phtml?pk=3865) - too much competition from the big chains. ---
**Author:** ![Montfort](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Montfort](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Montfort)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2001, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-distance-relationship-advice-needed/63247/23 "2001-04-26T18:05:17Z")
I’m an old pro at LDRs, and I have a few suggestions. One, always make plans for the “next time” you see each other. I’ve had at least one relationship killed because we didn’t make any future plans during our last weekend together, and the interest waned when there were no events to look forward to. Two, figure out if she’s “the one” early and if it’s worth it. I knew that about **Anniz** really early on in my first visit to Sweden last fall and we made plans accordingly. If she’s just someone you like to be with (which, based on your OP, she’s not, but I’m giving an example) don’t waste either of your times. There are fun people everywhere, but just one special person for you somewhere. Three, hi Opal. 🙂 One solution you could do, too, is what I’m doing: get her to marry you. :o ---
**Author:** ![SpartanDC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b2d939/32.png) [@SpartanDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SpartanDC)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2001, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-distance-relationship-advice-needed/63247/24 "2001-04-26T18:21:20Z")
Hijacking my own thread… Yeah, **wring** , I know the sad sad sad fate of Bagel Fragel. Unfortunately, I don’t get back until after it closes. I have a friend saving a Fragel for me for when I get back, four days after it closes. I actually found out about it before most others, because I have a friend that works for The State News, where I used to work. Back to the thread, I’ve decided to move to Austin at the end of the summer. There seem to be some decent public sector PR jobs, and maybe even the paper will have some openings and be hiring by then. ---
**Author:** ![Gunslinger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/4491bb/32.png) [@Gunslinger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gunslinger)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2001, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-distance-relationship-advice-needed/63247/25 "2001-04-27T00:17:02Z")
Umm…yeah…see, if I said anything relevant it’d be basically what **Anthracite** said, but with the names changed. 🙂 > [@](#): > > _Quoth racinchikki, in email:_ > Ya know, I was thinking last night, and when we got virtually married I was kidding. Last thing I expected was to actually fall in love with you. Funny how things work out, eh? Indeed. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-distance-relationship-advice-needed/63247.md?page=1)