# Long lost love **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 13, 2012, 9:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587 "2012-09-13T09:55:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2012, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/41 "2012-09-17T21:14:02Z")
Yeah, he’s totally going to see her no matter what anyone says. ---
**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2012, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/42 "2012-09-17T21:22:54Z")
**ishahid** , most people here will advise you against meeting her, but I think its a cute story, like what you’d see in movies. Since you’re married, I don’t think anything should happen, but there’s absolutely no harm in saying hi and meeting her for lunch. At worst, she and/or you are not what the other expected, and you can go your separate ways. At best, you guys will rekindle an old friendship. Just don’t cheat on your wife with her ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2012, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/43 "2012-09-17T21:51:18Z")
Ok, here’s the deal. Just having had my 20 year high school reunion last year, it’s certainly fun to reconnect with people you haven’t seen in two decades. You catch up, see what they look like now, laugh about what might have been or whatever the fuck, and act pretty much the way you did 20 years ago for one night. And that’s it. Afterwards you go back to your lives. And guess what? You already did that with this girl at that wedding. So what possible reason would you have to contact her again? > [@ishahid72](#): > > Oh my god you folks really do know o analyse in depth.. is it coming from own experience? 🙂 It’s not rocket science. > [@YogSosoth](#): > > ishahid, most people here will advise you against meeting her, but I think its a cute story, like what you’d see in movies. Since you’re married, I don’t think anything should happen, but there’s absolutely no harm in saying hi and meeting her for lunch. At worst, she and/or you are not what the other expected, and you can go your separate ways. At best, you guys will rekindle an old friendship. Just don’t cheat on your wife with her. Yeah. I’ve seen that film. It’s the one where the guy divorces his wife of many years to get with his “true love” - a girl he kissed once in high school and kept running into over and over again through the decades but couldn’t quite make it work because the timing was always off. If this girl is Rachel McAdams, I say go for it. ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2012, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/44 "2012-09-18T00:22:20Z")
Please come back to the boards and let us know how it played out. ---
**Author:** ![Wendell\_Wagner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/8491ac/32.png) [@Wendell\_Wagner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wendell_Wagner)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2012, 10:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/45 "2012-09-18T10:26:07Z")
In fact, as I was reading this thread, I kept coming up with the plots for a whole variety of movies based on what ishahid72 has told us about this situation and what could happen from here forward. These plots varied between ones which Hollywood might be likely to make, which are those which have happy endings and are completely unrealistic, and ones that are realistic, which are those that end in utter misery (and sometimes death) for everyone. Maybe we can start another thread called “Make up a movie plot based on ishahid72’s post”. We can each contribute a plot starting with ishahid72’s story of the meeting at the wedding, with flashbacks to his high school days, and continue forward to some interesting (if not particularly realistic) conclusion. ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2012, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/46 "2012-09-18T12:43:25Z")
> [@Wendell\_Wagner](#): > > In fact, as I was reading this thread, I kept coming up with the plots for a whole variety of movies based on what ishahid72 has told us about this situation and what could happen from here forward. These plots varied between ones which Hollywood might be likely to make, which are those which have happy endings and are completely unrealistic, and ones that are realistic, which are those that end in utter misery (and sometimes death) for everyone. Maybe we can start another thread called “Make up a movie plot based on ishahid72’s post”. We can each contribute a plot starting with ishahid72’s story of the meeting at the wedding, with flashbacks to his high school days, and continue forward to some interesting (if not particularly realistic) conclusion. I’ll flesh out post 32, option 2. They have an affair. Wife develops medical issue. He breaks it off with longlostlove. Wife comes home and announces she’s been referred to a new physician for therapy or surgery… brain surgery, that’s the ticket. Of course, the longlostlove is the surgeon. They have series of long creepy interactions with hidden meanings to which wife is oblivious, she thinks everything is hunky dory. Right before the surgery, when “counseling” the OP about the risks of surgery, LLL comments on how “soon they’ll be together”. OP realizes she’s going to kill the wife. Just as surgery starts, OP crashes into operating room and assaults surgeon, ruckus damages anesthesia machine, knocks out anesthetist. Blood drips from wife’s head. Wife’s life now in danger. Security guards beat down OP. Wife is ok, but surgery cancelled. Wife divorces OP, has surgery, does fine. LLL tells him in passing before trial that now they’re even. OP goes to jail. ---
**Author:** ![Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8c91f0/32.png) [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bam_Boo_Gut)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2012, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/47 "2012-09-18T14:15:17Z")
Option 2 They \*\*don’t \*\*have an affair. But the wife thinks they did: Wife develops medical issue. Wife comes home and announces she’s been referred to a new physician for therapy or surgery… brain surgery, that’s the ticket. Of course, the longlostlove is the surgeon. Wife refuses surgery due to her unfounded suspicions towards her husband and the doc. Wife’s life now in danger, in fact dies of brain. OP lives the rest of his life as a monk, regretting that he didn’t do longlostlove and also glad that he didn’t. Longlostlove barely notices any of this is happening. Apologies for uncredited quotes from **Attack from the 3rd dimension** ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2012, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/48 "2012-09-19T02:55:42Z")
Oooh, I like that one. Is very sad. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2012, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/49 "2012-09-19T02:59:56Z")
And both movies will be “based on a true story”. ---
**Author:** ![ioioio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ioioio/32/316_2.png) [@ioioio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ioioio)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2012, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/50 "2012-09-19T03:38:46Z")
> [@ishahid72](#): > > Laina\_f: Would you please elaborate what do you mean nothing can comeof me? > > Thanks I’m not sure I understand the question, but I think it’s a matter of English. "Nothing good can come of \ is a common English expression. When I wrote that nothing good can come of you contacting her, “you contacting her” is the thing, not “you”. Thus my meaning was that if you contact her, the results will be bad – for you and your family. An apology can be good for the soul, but if your motives are pure, you should be willing to tell your wife what you’re doing. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2012, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/51 "2012-09-19T03:40:44Z")
> [@ishahid72](#): > > I do not feel anything for her. Then don’t do anything at all. Simple as that. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2012, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/52 "2012-09-19T03:49:35Z")
And trying to decipher your prose was headache-inducing. ---
**Author:** ![sisu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@sisu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sisu)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2012, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587/53 "2012-09-19T06:09:53Z")
> [@ishahid72](#): > > Ohh god. Maybe i formulated a bit wrong. I do not intend to meet her. I do not to go any path with her. I do not feel anything for her. I just want to say hello apologise and getout asap. Meh let sleeping does lie and move on mate. well not saying she is a dog but you get my point. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/long-lost-love/634587.md?page=2)