# Looking for a word to denote a person who does not want others to succeed **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 3, 2013, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864 "2013-03-03T00:59:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![davidmich](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e56c9b/32.png) [@davidmich](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/davidmich)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/1 "2013-03-03T00:59:50Z")
Hi, I am looking for words to describe the following kinds of people: 1. Someone who does not want others to succeed 2. Someone who pretends/gives the outward appearance of helping someone, but in reality does not or simply wants to make a person dependent on him/her. If there isn’t one adjective to describe such people, perhaps you can suggest some fictional characters that display such characteristics. I look forward to your responses. davidmich ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/2 "2013-03-03T01:08:19Z")
Reported for forum change. ---
**Author:** ![Giles](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giles/32/60_2.png) [@Giles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giles)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/3 "2013-03-03T01:09:02Z")
“Dog in the manger” is about right for definition 1. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/4 "2013-03-03T01:09:07Z")
This doesn’t really seem to be about this board, so I’m going to move it to IMHO. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/5 "2013-03-03T01:11:18Z")
Hater ---
**Author:** ![pancakes3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ba9def/32.png) [@pancakes3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pancakes3)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/6 "2013-03-03T01:11:47Z")
“Hater” ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/7 "2013-03-03T01:14:40Z")
Too quick for you, pancakes3. Don’t hate. ---
**Author:** ![TubaDiva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tubadiva/32/507_2.png) [@TubaDiva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TubaDiva)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/8 "2013-03-03T01:29:14Z")
The answer is obvious … so much so that I’m not going to even say it. But if it was in a crossword puzzle it would be ten letters. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/9 "2013-03-03T01:42:19Z")
Codependent. ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/10 "2013-03-03T01:47:58Z")
sociopath. ---
**Author:** ![Ostrya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/35a633/32.png) [@Ostrya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ostrya)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/11 "2013-03-03T01:52:03Z")
moderator? ---
**Author:** ![Cheshire\_Human](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Cheshire\_Human](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheshire_Human)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/12 "2013-03-03T02:00:43Z")
> [@the lone cashew](#): > > moderator? Why are you such a “hater”? … err… “moderator hater” ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/13 "2013-03-03T02:00:44Z")
> [@TubaDiva](#): > > The answer is obvious … so much so that I’m not going to even say it. > > But if it was in a crossword puzzle it would be ten letters. Politician. ---
**Author:** ![miss\_elizabeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@miss\_elizabeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/miss_elizabeth)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/14 "2013-03-03T02:19:44Z")
Hater ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/15 "2013-03-03T02:23:43Z")
> [@Oakminster](#): > > Politician. Bingo! Ten letters. Or, I’m going to go with bureaucrat. ---
**Author:** ![Inna\_Minnit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Inna\_Minnit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inna_Minnit)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/16 "2013-03-03T02:29:56Z")
> [@davidmich](#): > > Hi, > I am looking for words to describe the following kinds of people: > > 1. Someone who does not want others to succeed > 2. Someone who pretends/gives the outward appearance of helping someone, but in reality does not or simply wants to make a person dependent on him/her. > > If there isn’t one adjective to describe such people, perhaps you can suggest some fictional characters that display such characteristics. > > I look forward to your responses. > > davidmich My mother. ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/17 "2013-03-03T02:52:41Z")
Saboteur. Flavors of passive aggressive, too. ---
**Author:** ![pancakes3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ba9def/32.png) [@pancakes3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pancakes3)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/18 "2013-03-03T03:41:02Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > Hater Dang. My friend from the south would say “Crabs in a pot” every time we tried to bring him down. I’ll submit that instead then. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/19 "2013-03-03T12:44:23Z")
Schadenfreude is not quite correct but it part of the way there. ---
**Author:** ![shijinn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@shijinn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shijinn)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2013, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864/20 "2013-03-03T12:49:50Z")
backstabber? for the proactive kind? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/looking-for-a-word-to-denote-a-person-who-does-not-want-others-to-succeed/651864.md?page=2)