# Love deferred (please help)

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-deferred-please-help/109923>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [May 20, 2002, 10:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-deferred-please-help/109923 "2002-05-20T10:16:08Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
**Page:** 2

<div class="post-metadata">

**Author:** ![Nightime](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Nightime](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nightime)\
**Post date:** [May 21, 2002, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-deferred-please-help/109923/21 "2002-05-21T23:39:38Z")

</div>

Why don’t you just tell your husband that the only reason you married him is that your “perfect” man was out of the picture? I think he would appreciate your honesty.

---

<div class="post-metadata">

**Author:** ![Granuaile](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecccb3/32.png) [@Granuaile](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Granuaile)\
**Post date:** [May 26, 2002, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-deferred-please-help/109923/22 "2002-05-26T12:47:51Z")

</div>

I’m baaack…

First off,thanks everyone for your posts. But, I especially want to thank **LolaBaby** and **MandaJO** for their posts. They were very helpful and mature. Thank you, ladies.

Update:  
Now that I am back in the U.S. and have had a little rest, I can see things better. I was being very silly. Hubby knows about the Email. I bit the bullet and told him, I even let him read it so he would know that no offers of illicit behaviour were forthcoming. We had a really long talk and some really awkward moments. However, it was actually a blessing in that I was able to answer all of his questions about “H”(who he already knew about), how I felt about my married life now and everything else he had always been afraid to ask me. He had been afraid because(in previous relationships) he thought I would take it the wrong way and bail.☹  
So, things between Hubby and I are better than ever since we cleared the air. And I do mean everything. 😉 He’s even willing to meet H when he’s in town.  
It was all a storm in a teacup and proved, once again, that my husband is the best and most darling for putting up with my crazy butt.  
Thanks again,  
G.

---

<div class="post-metadata">

**Author:** ![LolaBaby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d2c977/32.png) [@LolaBaby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaBaby)\
**Post date:** [May 27, 2002, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-deferred-please-help/109923/23 "2002-05-27T05:08:14Z")

</div>

**Granuaile** , I’m really glad that this event helped the communication between you and your husband. That’s the best thing out of all of this. Keep us updated. 🙂

[Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-deferred-please-help/109923.md?page=1)