# Love is overrated **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 28, 2018, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378 "2018-03-28T21:38:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Crazy\_Canuck](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crazy_canuck/32/5282_2.png) [@Crazy\_Canuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crazy_Canuck)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/41 "2018-03-29T22:23:07Z")
[Love Bites (and so do I)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FmkHqUwa4zg) ---
**Author:** ![eschereal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eschereal/32/18939_2.png) [@eschereal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eschereal)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/42 "2018-03-29T22:25:34Z")
> [@Two\_Many\_Cats](#): > > Well, if you’ll tell me that one guy’s name, I’ll check him out. With my luck, he’s already taken. Oh, uh, his boyfriend asked me not to. ---
**Author:** ![Dropo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce7236/32.png) [@Dropo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dropo)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/43 "2018-03-29T23:02:32Z")
Love in Vain - [Love In Vain (Live) - YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVJrc51jdco) Love is NOT all you need. That is hipster BS. I wouldn’t even call love “essential.” Good health and a sense of justice are essential. Love can be very nice. But it is always temporary. ---
**Author:** ![Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maggie_the_Ocelot)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/44 "2018-03-29T23:09:43Z")
Love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love cannot be killed or swept aside. ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/45 "2018-03-30T00:03:43Z")
It is nonsensical to assert that love isn’t real on the grounds that nothing is real. If nothing is real, why are you trying to convince other people that nothing is real? If you really thought nothing mattered, why would you bother to do anything? You would care if you lived or died. So why do you care about convincing people that nothing matters? If everything is meaningless, then meaninglessness itself is meaningless. We look around at the meaningless sky, earth, and human beings, and then shrug our shoulders and keep on keeping on, because why shouldn’t we? ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/46 "2018-03-30T00:17:50Z")
> [@Lemur866](#): > > If everything is meaningless, then meaninglessness itself is meaningless. We look around at the meaningless sky, earth, and human beings, and then shrug our shoulders and keep on keeping on, because why shouldn’t we? Well, Art is Art, isn’t it? Still, on the other hand, water is water. And east is east and west is west and if you take cranberries and stew them like applesauce they taste much more like prunes than rhubarb does. Now you tell me what you know. – Groucho Marx ---
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/47 "2018-03-30T00:33:59Z")
[Crash Davis, Bull Durham] I believe there oughta be a constitutional amendment outlawing AstroTurf and the designated hitter. I believe in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve. And I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days. [/CDBD] ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 12:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/48 "2018-03-30T00:42:14Z")
I doubt I have experienced true love, closest thing I have found is providing security in exchange for sex. You can get by fine on this. I think after a while they do kind of grow to love you but by that time you are kind of fed up with them and no longer interested in something deeper. My happiest days were spent alone. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/49 "2018-03-30T02:02:35Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > You get too much, you get too high. Not enough and you’re gonna die. ---
**Author:** ![Machinaforce](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/aeb1de/32.png) [@Machinaforce](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Machinaforce)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/50 "2018-03-30T03:27:46Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > Regards, > Shodan I’m kind of expecting something serious here. It’s hard to view love as a powerful force for good when you see how many mistakes people make for it or because of it. I don’t even think the unconditional nature of it even exists the way people want it too. There is always a string attached, because we love traits that a person exhibits not really the person. That’s why the last bit about being in love with a concept seems to ring true. I used to believe it was some ultimate good and positive force to strive for, but that seems more based on wishful thinking and less on it’s actual reality. ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/51 "2018-03-30T04:14:48Z")
> [@Machinaforce](#): > > I’m kind of expecting something serious here. Why would you expect that? > [@Machinaforce](#): > > Human beings are fickle. ---
**Author:** ![watchwolf49](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e9c0ed/32.png) [@watchwolf49](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/watchwolf49)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/52 "2018-03-30T04:21:00Z")
> [@Machinaforce](#): > > I’m kind of expecting something serious here. > > It’s hard to view love as a powerful force for good when you see how many mistakes people make for it or because of it. I don’t even think the unconditional nature of it even exists the way people want it too. There is always a string attached, because we love traits that a person exhibits not really the person. That’s why the last bit about being in love with a concept seems to ring true. > > I used to believe it was some ultimate good and positive force to strive for, but that seems more based on wishful thinking and less on it’s actual reality. 7.5 billion mistakes and counting … But seriously … we start by loving ourselves, even the part we don’t like … then we can love others, again even the parts we don’t like … it’s not easy, one could spend a lifetime trying and still not love unconditionally … ---
**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/53 "2018-03-30T04:42:36Z")
Why do fools fall in love? Love is fleeting. Love is a cruel trick pulled by Mother Nature to inspire propagation of the species, Mother Nature doesn’t care if you’re happy or not. Love is something we think we see on tv and in movies. There is always always always one who loves and the other is the one who is loved. Love hurts, is disappointing, and does not make the world go around. As Frank Zappa once said about music lyrics supposedly influencing young folks, ‘if lyrics influenced us, most songs on the radio are about love, so why aren’t we all walking around aglow with love for others?’ ---
**Author:** ![eschereal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eschereal/32/18939_2.png) [@eschereal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eschereal)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/54 "2018-03-30T04:45:25Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > My happiest days were spent alone. happiness is overrated ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 8:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/55 "2018-03-30T08:38:02Z")
> [@Machinaforce](#): > > I’m kind of expecting something serious here. > > It’s hard to view love as a powerful force for good when you see how many mistakes people make for it or because of it. I don’t even think the unconditional nature of it even exists the way people want it too. There is always a string attached, because we love traits that a person exhibits not really the person. That’s why the last bit about being in love with a concept seems to ring true. > > I used to believe it was some ultimate good and positive force to strive for, but that seems more based on wishful thinking and less on it’s actual reality. You kind of got some not entirely serious but also seriously good responses. "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think on such things and the God of peace will be with you” —(Philippians 4:8) Think on it. Go wash your bowl. ---
**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 10:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/56 "2018-03-30T10:18:34Z")
> [@Machinaforce](#): > > I’m kind of expecting something serious here. > > It’s hard to view love as a powerful force for good when you see how many mistakes people make for it or because of it. I don’t even think the unconditional nature of it even exists the way people want it too. There is always a string attached, because we love traits that a person exhibits not really the person. That’s why the last bit about being in love with a concept seems to ring true. > > I used to believe it was some ultimate good and positive force to strive for, but that seems more based on wishful thinking and less on it’s actual reality. What personal experience do you have with love? Mine is almost entirely positive, and one of the greatest parts of my life. ---
**Author:** ![Two\_Many\_Cats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8dc957/32.png) [@Two\_Many\_Cats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Two_Many_Cats)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 10:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/57 "2018-03-30T10:47:16Z")
> [@eschereal](#): > > Oh, uh, his boyfriend asked me not to. You see? Taken. ---
**Author:** ![PlaceboTarget](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/placebotarget/32/1073_2.png) [@PlaceboTarget](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PlaceboTarget)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 11:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/58 "2018-03-30T11:25:04Z")
I love my family. They’re wonderful people and I’m happy due to them. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/59 "2018-03-30T12:22:37Z")
> [@eschereal](#): > > happiness is overrated Happiness is a warm gun. ---
**Author:** ![Two\_Many\_Cats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8dc957/32.png) [@Two\_Many\_Cats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Two_Many_Cats)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2018, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/love-is-overrated/811378/60 "2018-03-30T13:17:46Z")
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