Remember that earth’s moon, earth, and all of the planets and their respective moons are giant gyroscopes whose axes point in their own directions. The planes of the orbits of earth and its moon are not coplanar nor parallel. As a result the calculation of their position, direction, etc. is not a simple matter to determine.
After satisfying one’s curiosity what do you have for your trouble? Data and/or details of no personal value except for the exercise of having gone to a lot of trouble for nothing.
That’s exactly what I was saying, I wasn’t ever trying to say anything more complicated than that, and I thought that was the simple answer to the question in the OP. It completely sailed over my head that people cared about the apparent terminator as viewed from the Earth, which of course seems obvious to me now.
Now that I know what everyone is talking about, I agree with your assessment.