An enormous amount of useless verbiage and misunderstanding is the result of people not being clear about what they mean, and usuing sloppy definitions.
SO HERE IS THE RULE. I WILL MONITOR THIS THREAD CLOSELY AND ANYONE, PRO-GAY OR ANTI-GAY, WHO FAILS TO RESPECT THESE DEFINITIONS WILL BE YELLED AT BY ME IN LARGE TYPE! And I can yell loud!
“Turning/becoming/being gay” or “turning/becoming/being straight” are meaningless expressions unless they are better defined, and are hereby banned from this thread.
There is 1) sexual attraction and 2) sexual activity. You MUST specify what you mean.
For example, I have never in my life felt any sexual attraction for the female body. But I have had sexual intercourse (i.e. sexual activity) with a couple of women when I first came out. Interestingly, there are enormous numbers of attractive women who will offer to go to bed with a young man upon learning he is gay. Seems it is some sort of ego trip that strtaight people have about showing gays “what they really need”. Similarly, straight men **DREAM ** about “converting” lesbians with the magic wand betweeen their legs. I know from many lesbians I have spoken to.
So could I have sex with a woman if I decided to? Yes, if you gave me, say, $10,000 or alternatively, put a gun to my head. Or made me live in an era or country where gays are imprisoned or killed and unmarried men viewed with suspicion.
By the same token, if I put a gun to the head of any straight man on this thread and ordered him to, say, blow me, is there any man out there who would prefer to take a bullet than comply? But would that make you gay? Do you understand that sexual activity with a woman would not be the same as sexual attraction to the opposite sex? Do you understand that “being” gay or straight, if it means anything really means you are **attracted ** to the same or opposite sex?
Incidentally, the two women I had sexual intercourse with in my youth both thought it was wonderful. You see, for one thing I didn’t shoot too fast. I had staying power that amazed them. Of course I did! It was not turning me on.
Then again, being a giving person by nature, I sought to make it interesting for them. By putting myself in the female, receiving position in my mind, I quickly understood what I would want from my partner if I were being penetrated.
For example, I understood that in penetrational sex, there is a magic moment in the intercourse when the couple suddenly realizes that the so-called “submissive” partner being penetrated is in reality the one controlling this fantastic dance of excruciating bliss. I would whisper: “Oh baby, yer holdin’ me, yer killin’ me, yer milkin’ me you hot bitch.” I would lick and bite nipples and suck earlobes between these whispered phrases. The women would go WILD!
The saddest part was that once it was over, in both cases the women assumed that I was now straight. One of them kept saying, “But how can you still like guys?” and shaking her head.
So, the moral of this little bit of internet pronography is this. PLEASE be clear whether you mean “being gay” as in “being sexually attracted to your own gender” or whether you mean “engaging consensually in sex with members of your own gender.”
Otherwise, this thread will go around in a circle without resolving anything. A man in his forties who is thought to have left his wife and children and “turned gay” may be doing nothing more than deciding to be who he has really been all along.
In other words, he has always been attracted to men, but for the past 30 years, with his wife, he has engaged in straight sexual activity only.
Now, the amazing and somewhat crackpot idea that started this whole thread seems to be that some teenagers are really attracted to members of the opposite sex, but fail to realize it!!! . Instead they continue to mistakenly believe they are attracted to their own gender and to have sex with their own gender, because of the effect a few TV shows and movies and evolving societal attitudes have had on them.
Today, a **small minority ** of movies, television programs and other media deal sympathethically with homosexuality. How many movies do you suppose dealt with human sexuality/love/romance last year? What proportion of these were films like Brokeback Mountain? What proportion showed and glorified hetero sex?
Does somebody seriously expect us to believe that there are healthy young men out there 18 to 20 years old who think that they are gay because they jerked off in back of the garage with their male friends a couple of times when they were 14, and then later watched Will and Grace? You seriously expect me to believe that they have not noticed lately that they get one hell of a woody when Mary Ann rubs her big knockers against them in a bathing suit? They are not aware that their horny young bodies are screaming (get boobs! get pussy!) because they watched “Brokeback Mountain”? So they continue to have sex with other men, even though that is not what they really want?
How stupid do Maerzie and his/her supporters think those young people are?