Women marry up, men screw down. Most men like the security too, it’s just that they like other things even more. Anyway if women don’t want to squeeze themselves of the marriage market altogether, this is a mind-set that’ll have to go one way of the other. Since more and more women are getting higher educations and powerful business positions they’ll have to “settle” for men with lower education / earnings than themselves – same as men always have, or remain unmarried and see the men turn elsewhere.
Since men and women apparently are quite unable to solve the problems together, an obvious solution would be for women to find their husbands abroad as well, mail order husband. Though I never heard of such a thing. But lo and behold! What do you know. There is just such a thing going on. A thriving business catering to predomintly European women of middle age (or past reproductively age as was so diplomatic put). This time it’s young African men that are the goods. But I have to say, this is one place where nature did not create men and women equal. A young woman marrying an older man, is not sacrificing her evolutionary prospects, whereas a young man hitching up with an older women will have to forego any chance of being a father himself. She’ll not be able to bear him any children, and older man may father children till the day he dies. How unfair of you mother nature!
Aren’t they always? Many men find tables have been turned far enough already the thumbscrews tightened quite sufficient. But I do understand some of the feminists worries. Men are rejecting them, often explicitly so because of feminism, perhaps as a kind of rebellion, voting with their feet thing, “mend your feminist ways or stay spinster” kind of threat. Also some of these men seem to be spurned by local women for a very good reason. Not all of them seem to go into this with the best of reasons. Many seem to be hunting for an old an old dream of a traditional wife, like momma or something. Silly I think but again who am I to judge their dreams, but it’s highly unlikely they should find such a women anywhere, least of all Russia, but the Russian women will feel a pressure to live up to these dreams. This is a recipe for disaster. Some men even wrote about marrying women from across the globe as the most natural thing, duty even, as the victorious party of the cold war. Like English football hooligans roving the streets of Europe meeting any challenge with a “Screw you! Who won the war?!” It has been observed many times that a defeated people often have a significant higher suicide rate, Germany, Italy and Japan all had this following WWII. Also capturing the enemies’ females have always been one aspect of war, at least from Homer to well perhaps the cold war. Wearing these dark goggles, perhaps Bubba sees his fine mail order bride as nothing so much as just claiming what’s righteously his as spoils of war. (As a latter day Achilles bickering about his Brisenna (sp?)) Well, well, well no need to get carried away, unwashed is probably right; Bubba, unable to get laid, is just taking advantage of newly opened opportunities powered by globalization. And in the end I think it’s most often a win-win situation. Bubba gets a beautiful wife, Anastasia gets a social power boost, and a husband who may be a dork, but quite likely also decent enough. And kick me if I’m wrong, but if the girl won’t be able to wriggle poor infatuated Bubba around her little finger within 26 minutes, you can call me a duck, he’ll be obeying her every command and saying spaciba before I learn to pronounce Boris Yeltsin.
Finland lies quite close to here, we have much of the same darkness and depression… Good date if the man didn’t vomit – heh! Ahh memories… Were I but young again…
