# Making Out: Prelude or Self-Contained Act? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 16, 2010, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/making-out-prelude-or-self-contained-act/546934 "2010-07-16T16:42:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2010, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/making-out-prelude-or-self-contained-act/546934/21 "2010-07-20T22:14:37Z")
Female in a LTR for the last 5 years. Kissing is foreplay only 99% of the time. There’s never been a time in my life longer than a couple weeks where all I did was ‘fool around’ with a guy. Once we’re making out, I want to do everything else ASAP. I get ‘blue balls’ if I get really turned on (which kissing does for me, quickly) and it doesn’t culminate in an orgasm in due time. My vulva feels all sore, and I get very grumpy. ---
**Author:** ![SecondJudith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5ac83/32.png) [@SecondJudith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SecondJudith)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2010, 11:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/making-out-prelude-or-self-contained-act/546934/22 "2010-07-21T11:14:50Z")
> [@MandaJo](#): > > The earlier thread was about exactly this: some couples don’t go beyond “affectionate” unless they are headed towards sex. Others do. I’m reading the poll options to mean that making out and sex could NEVER go together, so that you might snog on the couch for half an hour one day, but when it’s time for sex it’s roll over and stick it in. That just seems really weird to me, although I guess for some people it works. I don’t understand why there isn’t a “sometimes” option, which has been the case for me and my partner in every relationship I’ve ever been in. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2010, 6:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/making-out-prelude-or-self-contained-act/546934/23 "2010-07-23T06:24:42Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > Guy, either/or. > > Sometimes just making out that goes nowhere can be an awful lot of fun. I didn’t vote because I agree with **tdn** , both have equal value. ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2010, 9:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/making-out-prelude-or-self-contained-act/546934/24 "2010-07-23T09:45:57Z")
Female, for me it can be either/or. Couldn’t vote, as there was no option for that. That said, I do have a high correlation in that, if I kiss a guy, chances are sometime, someday, eventually, something more will happen. But it doesn’t have to be immediately at the end of that kissing session. ---
**Author:** ![Soliloquy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5ac83/32.png) [@Soliloquy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soliloquy)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/making-out-prelude-or-self-contained-act/546934/25 "2010-10-29T05:03:37Z")
Female. Both. Color me amused. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/making-out-prelude-or-self-contained-act/546934/26 "2010-10-29T05:15:38Z")
Female, and it depends. Sometimes I’m just in the mood for one, and other times, it’s a lead up to sex. So…pretty much what everyone is saying. ---
**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2010, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/making-out-prelude-or-self-contained-act/546934/27 "2010-10-29T05:47:36Z")
> [@MandaJo](#): > > I think he’s asking if making out is a worthwhile activity in and of itself, or if it’s sole function is to serve as foreplay–if it’s worth the bother if sex is impossible. Dude, if sexual contact of any kind is an option, it’s always worth the bother. If we only have 15 minutes before he has to leave, damn skippy I’m making out with him. I agree with the either/or assessment. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/making-out-prelude-or-self-contained-act/546934.md?page=1)