# Male Dopers on stimulation during orgasm (TMI) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 11, 2004, 11:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606 "2004-10-11T11:01:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 11:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/1 "2004-10-11T11:01:56Z")
I’ve read in several places that while women want stimulation to continue all the way through orgasm, men want it to end just as they reach orgasm. To me, the latter technique is complete and utter torture. I want stimulation all through orgasm and out on the other side, and continuing for a couple of minutes afterwards if possible. If stimulation stops, the orgasm kind of stops too, replaced with a sort of hard-to-describe but extremely acute painlike sensation, and the panicky urge to finish the job in whatever way presents itself. Am I the odd man out? ---
**Author:** ![nocturnal\_tick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@nocturnal\_tick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nocturnal_tick)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 11:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/2 "2004-10-11T11:19:52Z")
> [@Priceguy](#): > > To me, the latter technique is complete and utter torture. I want stimulation all through orgasm and out on the other side, and continuing for a couple of minutes afterwards if possible. I can understand stimulation during orgasm, but isn’t it painful once it’s over? For me it is anyway. Once it’s done, it’s done for at least 5 minutes. But hey, kudos to you if you can keep going. 🆒🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 11:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/3 "2004-10-11T11:22:57Z")
> [@nocturnal\_tick](#): > > But hey, kudos to you if you can keep going. I usually can’t keep going in any meaningful way, I just want to wind down the stimulation slowly, not end it right away. ---
**Author:** ![BobLibDem](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/boblibdem/32/3149_2.png) [@BobLibDem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BobLibDem)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 11:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/4 "2004-10-11T11:39:04Z")
When it’s done, further stimulation can be painful for the next several minutes. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 11:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/5 "2004-10-11T11:51:02Z")
Trying to stifle this hi-jack before it gets out of hand: the poll is about stimulation _during_ orgasm, not _after_. ---
**Author:** ![GorillaMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/50afbb/32.png) [@GorillaMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GorillaMan)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 12:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/6 "2004-10-11T12:09:32Z")
Before, during _and_ after, all good for me. ---
**Author:** ![BobLibDem](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/boblibdem/32/3149_2.png) [@BobLibDem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BobLibDem)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 1:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/7 "2004-10-11T13:16:32Z")
I misunderstood. Stimulation during orgasm is quite redundant in my opinion. Nothing is gained by so doing. ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/8 "2004-10-11T13:27:59Z")
TMI ahoy… I personally think it intensifies the sensation. Of course, it can get so intense that I feel like I’m going to pass out from oversimulation (sorta like getting tickled to death or something). If I’m in a spry mood (i.e. alone ☹ ) I can stimulate myself right through three consecutive orgasims. Not quite like female ‘multiple orgasms’, more like three separate ones over 20 minutes. Unfortunately I only seem to get this boundless virility when I’m by myself. Ironically, when I’m with someone else, it suddenly becomes difficult to get aroused in the first place. Its very frustrating! :mad: ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 1:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/9 "2004-10-11T13:47:01Z")
For me, too much (manual) stimulation of the glans during late orgasm is doesn’t feel good – way too sensitive, almost an electric shock quality. All other stimulation is cool. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/10 "2004-10-11T15:20:13Z")
None of you have the problem I describe, that of needing stimulation during orgasm? I’m all on my own on that one? ---
**Author:** ![nocturnal\_tick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@nocturnal\_tick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nocturnal_tick)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/11 "2004-10-11T16:24:07Z")
> [@Priceguy](#): > > Trying to stifle this hi-jack before it gets out of hand: the poll is about stimulation during orgasm, not after. Sorry I just read this sentence > [@Priceguy](#): > > I want stimulation all through orgasm and out on the other side, and continuing for a couple of minutes afterwards if possible and assumed you meant afterwards was just as important. So to reiterate: Stimulation during orgasm = very important. It gives you a sensation that complements orgasm. ---
**Author:** ![Sandlegs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@Sandlegs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sandlegs)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/12 "2004-10-11T16:25:21Z")
yeah, i knd of need it, but about halfway through DON’T TOUCH MY PEE-PEE! it hurts and is very sensitive! ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/13 "2004-10-11T16:27:53Z")
> [@nocturnal\_tick](#): > > Stimulation during orgasm = very important. It gives you a sensation that complements orgasm. But you _can_ do without it? ---
**Author:** ![nocturnal\_tick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@nocturnal\_tick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nocturnal_tick)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/14 "2004-10-11T16:41:30Z")
> [@Priceguy](#): > > > [@nocturnal\_tick](#): > > > > Stimulation during orgasm = very important. It gives you a sensation that complements orgasm. > > But you can do without it? Like I can go without sugar in my tea, yeah. I will have an orgasm without stimulation during but it’s nowhere near as good and sometimes quite an anti-climax. ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/15 "2004-10-11T19:44:02Z")
So, if I’m giving my guy a bj and I switch over to hand job as he’s coming, I usually keep rubbing it until he’s gotten it all out. He seems to like it, and he’s never said it was too sensitive. I don’t keep going after he’s done, but to stop as soon as he starts to shoot seems like it would kinda kill the orgasm. As for sex, I don’t know, he keeps going until he’s done. It’s hard to tell when exactly that is. I can feel it pulsating, but that usually continues for awhile after he’s gotten off. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/16 "2004-10-11T19:46:11Z")
> [@Indygrrl](#): > > I don’t keep going after he’s done, but to stop as soon as he starts to shoot seems like it would kinda kill the orgasm. Exactly. That’s what it would do to me. ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/17 "2004-10-11T22:39:06Z")
All the way through, all the way to the very end, stimulate away! But afterwards, don’t touch it. Don’t even look at it. Pretend it’s not there. It’s hypersensitive and just needs to rest a minute or so. Ok, you can touch it. But _gently_ and _slowly_. Oddly enough, this doesn’t apply when it’s just me, so it is probably connected to the tickle reflex. ---
**Author:** ![Cisco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Cisco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cisco)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2004, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/18 "2004-10-11T23:59:19Z")
I usually keep going for about 1 to 2 minutes after orgasm, though not as fast. The onyl stimulation that really “hurts” during and after orgasm is that of the head of the penis, which is why I pull out if the girl is particularly tight or isn’t quite as wet as usual. The added friction can make an orgasm fairly painful. Oh yea, TMI warning. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2004, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/19 "2004-10-12T00:07:09Z")
Before (obviously), during, after, and onwards to the next one, but I like things to slow down and get gentle for a bit before returning to frisky-mode. I can’t compete with the records set by some of the girls, but I’ve done three on several occasions. ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2004, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606/20 "2004-10-12T00:19:50Z")
> [@Indygrrl](#): > > I can feel it pulsating, but that usually continues for awhile after he’s gotten off. Seriously? I’ve never asked any females about this, but is this typical? I always sort of assumed women didn’t feel that sort of thing, but I have no idea why I would think that. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-dopers-on-stimulation-during-orgasm-tmi/268606.md?page=2)