# Male Gay Bar Etiquette

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-gay-bar-etiquette/200072>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [September 7, 2003, 9:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-gay-bar-etiquette/200072 "2003-09-07T09:58:54Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 7\
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**Author:** ![dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dorkusmalorkusmafia/32/7266_2.png) [@dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dorkusmalorkusmafia)\
**Post date:** [September 10, 2003, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-gay-bar-etiquette/200072/21 "2003-09-10T21:38:30Z")

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Supervenusfreak, versatile is word that describes liking both. I have met versatile folk who have a preference for one or the other. You are spreading misinformation in this instance.

As for the original question, in a gay bar to find out what someone is into you simply have to talk to them. Assumptions on what one likes to do in bed are rarely accurate. I have met total top drag queens and total bottom jocks.

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**Author:** ![The\_Griffin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@The\_Griffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Griffin)\
**Post date:** [September 10, 2003, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-gay-bar-etiquette/200072/22 "2003-09-10T22:08:20Z")

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so I guess a supervenus would be quite into 3-somes then?

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**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\
**Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-gay-bar-etiquette/200072/23 "2003-09-16T20:15:02Z")

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> \*Originally posted by The Griffin \*  
> \*\*so I guess a supervenus would be quite into 3-somes then? \*\*

Quite. 😉

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**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\
**Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-gay-bar-etiquette/200072/24 "2003-09-16T20:18:18Z")

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Speaking from personal experience, **jayjay**?

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**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\
**Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-gay-bar-etiquette/200072/25 "2003-09-16T20:26:06Z")

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Well, considering that **supervenusfreak** is taking a nap upstairs in our bed at this very moment, yeah. 😃

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**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\
**Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-gay-bar-etiquette/200072/26 "2003-09-16T22:28:54Z")

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Well sure, but he’s one and you’re two and the question was about threes…

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**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\
**Post date:** [September 16, 2003, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/male-gay-bar-etiquette/200072/27 "2003-09-16T22:38:17Z")

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Just trust me. There have been threes. 😉

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