# Man forcing a person to perform oral sex ... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 31, 2011, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942 "2011-07-31T18:01:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![janeslogin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@janeslogin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janeslogin)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2011, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/1 "2011-07-31T18:01:47Z")
News stories from time to time report that some pervert forced someone to perform oral sex. Isn’t this rather hazardous as teeth could do considerable damage? I don’t recall ever seeing a news story where the victim did damage to the perp. ---
**Author:** ![Mahaloth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mahaloth/32/1079_2.png) [@Mahaloth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mahaloth)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2011, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/2 "2011-07-31T18:02:51Z")
Need to know fast? ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2011, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/3 "2011-07-31T18:07:32Z")
You’ve obviously never seen The Shawshank Redemption. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Drake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Dr.Drake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Drake)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2011, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/4 "2011-07-31T18:12:02Z")
The risk is part of the thrill! Disclaimer: Obviously not a serious post. I am not an advocate of rape in any form, and I can’t provide a serious answer to the OP. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2011, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/5 "2011-07-31T18:14:23Z")
I would think that the main reason it doesn’t happen more often is because it would seem that even having your penis bitten off is not disabling enough that the guy couldn’t still shoot the victim in the head. I would expect most people just want to get out of the situation alive, and harming the perp enough to make him angry but not enough to kill him would be counterproductive. ---
**Author:** ![ratatoskK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ratatoskk/32/2987_2.png) [@ratatoskK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ratatoskK)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2011, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/6 "2011-07-31T18:14:40Z")
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**Author:** ![Bosstrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Bosstrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstrain)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2011, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/7 "2011-07-31T18:20:51Z")
probably because: (a) if you bit someones schlong, what is that person going to do to you? (b) it’s got to be even nastier to not only be sucking it, but to have blood from it all in your mouth. :eek: I’ve actually wondered this myself, and then realized that both of these are most likely true. The thing I want to know is how could anyone ‘get off’ on making someone do something that they don’t want to do 😕 . Half (or most even) the joy of sexual interaction is knowing the other person is enjoying whatever the act is, or at least to me it is. If a girl told me she didn’t want to do a certain thing, I’m not about to insist, even if she’d put up with it just for me. ---
**Author:** ![typoink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecb155/32.png) [@typoink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/typoink)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2011, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/8 "2011-08-01T00:30:46Z")
There’s a general view that, for the most part, rape is about power, not about “normal” sexual gratification. Penetrative sex can be accomplished without power over the victim beyond physical restraint. For somebody really seeking power and control, I can imagine oral sex being preferable because it requires a bit more complicity from the victim – the threat of violence doesn’t merely render them inert, it forces them to act submissively. Horrible to the extreme (arguably worse, psychologically, than penetrative rape), but I can understand why it would happen. Obviously the “danger” to the rapist is minimal due to the perceived threat – in such a case, I don’t think there’d be any doubt left that if the victim bites, they won’t survive. Also, without any review of sources, my gut guess would be that this is more common in scenarios where the rapist has some knowledge of their victim and possibly has influence over them than just the physical. ---
**Author:** ![typoink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecb155/32.png) [@typoink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/typoink)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2011, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/9 "2011-08-01T00:39:09Z")
> [@Bosstrain](#): > > The thing I want to know is how could anyone ‘get off’ on making someone do something that they don’t want to do 😕 . Half (or most even) the joy of sexual interaction is knowing the other person is enjoying whatever the act is, or at least to me it is. If a girl told me she didn’t want to do a certain thing, I’m not about to insist, even if she’d put up with it just for me. It’s a different impulse. The joy of healthy sex (which is about shared pleasure and intimacy) isn’t what motivates rape. Rape is about asserting one’s own power and dominance while depriving somebody else of the same. It’s expressed sexually because that’s an area people tie their status and pride to, and because it’s something they _can_ force. If people didn’t have sex, I’d wager that most “rapists” would be committing beatings, theft, or murder instead. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2011, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/10 "2011-08-01T00:58:59Z")
> [@Bosstrain](#): > > The thing I want to know is how could anyone ‘get off’ on making someone do something that they don’t want to do 😕 . Half (or most even) the joy of sexual interaction is knowing the other person is enjoying whatever the act is, or at least to me it is. If a girl told me she didn’t want to do a certain thing, I’m not about to insist, even if she’d put up with it just for me. I don’t know how it is on your planet, but here on Earth there’s such a thing called “rape.” When this occurs, one person is forced to endure some activity that they wouldn’t choose to experience, given the choice. The “joy of sexual interaction” isn’t very relevant in these cases. Are you seriously implying that there is no rape on your planet? ---
**Author:** ![Bosstrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Bosstrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstrain)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2011, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/11 "2011-08-01T01:01:24Z")
> [@typoink](#): > > It’s a different impulse. The joy of healthy sex (which is about shared pleasure and intimacy) isn’t what motivates rape. Rape is about asserting one’s own power and dominance while depriving somebody else of the same. It’s expressed sexually because that’s an area people tie their status and pride to, and because it’s something they _can_ force. If people didn’t have sex, I’d wager that most “rapists” would be committing beatings, theft, or murder instead. still don’t know why anyone would do this, I understand your point and your right, but what kind of person, no, what kind of sewage scum would ever take pleasure in something like this. All I know is they better make damn well sure I don’t get my hands on them, I’ll start by removing their ‘favorite member’ from their body and work my way up from there :mad: . ---
**Author:** ![Bosstrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Bosstrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstrain)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2011, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/12 "2011-08-01T01:07:12Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Are you seriously implying that there is no rape on your planet? Hell no, my planet is infested with the scum too, sodding bastards think they own the fu\*\*ing place…that’s it, I’m getting a ray gun, coming to your planet and helping you guys fight them off there, then we’ll head back to mine and finish them off for good! ---
**Author:** ![typoink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecb155/32.png) [@typoink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/typoink)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2011, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/man-forcing-a-person-to-perform-oral-sex/590942/13 "2011-08-01T01:07:56Z")
edit: redundant