# Marriage and the SDMB **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 27, 2010, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953 "2010-05-27T14:58:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2010, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/61 "2010-05-28T18:42:41Z")
**Dread Pirate Jimbo** occasionally posts here. He doesn’t post often because he thinks we’re too intellectually rigourous. 1. He’s a smart dude - he can keep up with us, and 2. What intellectual rigour? You can post-parse and cite your ass off in Great Debates if you want, or you can have fun in the rest of the site. ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2010, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/62 "2010-05-28T18:49:14Z")
Divorced. Ex-spouse used to post here. Ex-girlfriend used to post here. _Different_ ex-girlfriend used to post here. Girlfriend posts here. ---
**Author:** ![flyboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/4da419/32.png) [@flyboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flyboy)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2010, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/63 "2010-05-28T19:07:04Z")
I chose “other.” Spouse is a member and many years posted once or twice, but hasn’t posted since. She’s a heavy lurker, though. ETA: neither wife nor I are ex-girlfriends of KneadToKnow ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2010, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/64 "2010-05-28T19:07:05Z")
> [@KneadToKnow](#): > > Divorced. Ex-spouse used to post here. > > Ex-girlfriend used to post here. > _Different_ ex-girlfriend used to post here. > > Girlfriend posts here. My new poll: _Who here ISN’T an ex-girlfriend of **KneadToKnow**?_😛 ---
**Author:** ![Hakuna\_Matata](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a88e4f/32.png) [@Hakuna\_Matata](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hakuna_Matata)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2010, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/65 "2010-05-28T19:15:57Z")
My wife posts here but even more rarely then I do. But we both lurk a lot. Met her in the real world and introduced her to the board. Her name on here is **Bin-Gay** ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2010, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/66 "2010-05-28T19:28:04Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > My new poll: _Who here ISN’T an ex-girlfriend of **KneadToKnow**?_😛 Hey, you gotta admit the username is apropos… ---
**Author:** ![Zeldar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/b77776/32.png) [@Zeldar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeldar)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2010, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/67 "2010-05-28T19:31:23Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > My new poll: _Who here ISN’T an ex-girlfriend of **KneadToKnow**?_😛 On that tangent, I’d like to see another thread or a poll that indicates how many other people in real life do you know of who post here. Relatives, co-workers, customers, whatever. I have made it a point not to identify this place to others and will refer to it as “a website I visit” or “a chat room” or “a message board.” As a result I wonder how many people would recognize me as Zeldar if I let them know. Aside from the Dopefests in this area, I can’t think of any people I know in real life (other than my wife) who are regular Dopers. My kids and close friends don’t know by way of my telling them, but I do wonder if stories I have told here that include them by indirect reference, or jokes they have told me, and the like, make them wonder if they “know” me IRL. A thread or poll to that effect might be fun. ---
**Author:** ![Teacake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Teacake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Teacake)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2010, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/68 "2010-05-28T20:25:48Z")
I do that! I’ll occasionally talk about a message board I go to, but I don’t tell people what it’s called. I sometimes wonder whether some of the people I know in real life post here, and occasionally someone on here will say something that makes me wonder if they’re people I know (especially my brother. He would love this place, if he isn’t here already). My partner doesn’t post here and very rarely reads any of it, and thinks we’re all similarly weird (in a good way, I think). ---
**Author:** ![Sorrel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/898d66/32.png) [@Sorrel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sorrel)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2010, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/69 "2010-05-28T20:35:48Z")
My Other doesn’t post here, and doesn’t know I do(although not often)😃 ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2010, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/70 "2010-05-28T20:46:29Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > My new poll: _Who here ISN’T an ex-girlfriend of **KneadToKnow**?_😛 I did once consider starting the thread “How many Dopers have you had sex with?” but I decided it was in poor taste. ---
**Author:** ![Terra1041](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Terra1041](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Terra1041)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2010, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/71 "2010-06-02T03:20:03Z")
I’m lesbian and live in a state where same-sex unions are illegal; thus, I have no spouse. I did meet my ex-girlfriend at another board though. ---
**Author:** ![ENugent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/4af34b/32.png) [@ENugent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ENugent)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2010, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/72 "2010-06-02T03:24:49Z")
> [@flyboy](#): > > I chose “other.” Spouse is a member and many years posted once or twice, but hasn’t posted since. She’s a heavy lurker, though. My husband is mostly the same, although I wouldn’t describe him as a “heavy” lurker. He mostly only looks at threads that I send him a link to. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2010, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/73 "2010-06-02T18:46:58Z")
"Spouse doesn’t post here, doesn’t lurk here, and doesn’t post on any boards, for that matter. " This exactly. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2010, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953/74 "2010-06-02T18:55:02Z")
> [@Terra1041](#): > > I’m lesbian and live in a state where same-sex unions are illegal; thus, I have no spouse. > > I did meet my ex-girlfriend at another board though. From the OP: > [@](#): > > For the purpose of this poll, you may include someone you consider a spouse but your government currently doesn’t. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/marriage-and-the-sdmb/540953.md?page=3)