# Married Dopers: Do you think you would remarry?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [March 21, 2007, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861 "2007-03-21T14:21:03Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/1 "2007-03-21T14:21:03Z")
I’m a happily married person.
My husband has huge health issues, and I’ve had to contemplate what my life would be like if he were to die. One of the things that surprises me is my feeling that I probably wouldn’t seek another marriage.
For those Dopers who are married or in a similar or equivalent relationship, do you think you would seek another such relationship if your current one were to end?
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### Author:  [@lisacurl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lisacurl)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/2 "2007-03-21T14:22:01Z")
I don’t see it happening. I love my husband to distraction, but marriage is a lot more work than I ever expected it was going to be.
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### Author:  [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/3 "2007-03-21T14:39:43Z")
[QUOTE=lisacurl]
I don’t see it happening. I love my husband to distraction, but marriage is a lot more work than I ever expected it was going to be.
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So true. I can’t see being willing to work this hard again.
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### Author:  [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/4 "2007-03-21T14:48:46Z")
I’m a happily married person also, currently in my second marriage. I believe that if something happened to him, I would have further relationships eventually, but I hope I would not remarry.
I went from being a child in my family’s house, to moving in with a boyfriend, to living with my family, to being married, to living in my mother’s house, to being married. And all my relationships either overlapped or followed closely on the heels of the last one. I have never been alone, or even in charge, and if I lost my husband, I think it would be best if I just stayed on my own.
I can’t imagine _wanting_ to remarry, either, but knowing me, I don’t completely rule it out.
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/5 "2007-03-21T14:53:42Z")
Yes. I am not married, being fairly terrified of marriage as it is. However I am in a solid LTR relationsip. Would I do it again?
I know I would, after a certain amount of time. I know that one of my weaknesses & fears is of growing old alone. I also have learned that most of the rest of the world can burn if I just have one person to be by my side.
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### Author:  [@Autumn\_Almanac](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autumn_Almanac)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/6 "2007-03-21T15:01:27Z")
Probably not. I’m a pretty solitary person in general, and aside from my family and a couple of close friends, I usually prefer to be by myself. I just love my wife so damn much I was willing to make an exception for her. 🙂 If she died, I think I would just peacefully settle back into single-guy-hood rather than seek out a new companion.
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### Author:  [@Noone\_Special](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Noone_Special)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/7 "2007-03-21T15:34:41Z")
Married.
Probably not. Oh, I don’t doubt that I would seek companionship again, were I to become single – but not another LTR; at least not for a while, anyway.
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### Author:  [@Enright3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enright3)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/8 "2007-03-21T15:38:39Z")
My wife died 4 years ago this July (2007). She was 38 years old. I never thought I’d remarry again.
I remarried again last August.
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### Author:  [@dangermom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dangermom)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/9 "2007-03-21T15:51:15Z")
I don’t think I would (though my husband says he wouldn’t like me to be alone). I’m not sure I would want to at all–it doesn’t sound very appealing, not because marriage is such hard work, but just because I can’t really imagine wanting to be married to someone else (not to mention dealing with all the issues that would bring).
And, realistically speaking, there aren’t that many guys available for someone like me anyway.
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### Author:  [@Dinsdale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dinsdale)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/10 "2007-03-21T16:04:55Z")
I doubt it. Suspect I’m too set in my ways to inflict myself on anyone else - or to make the personal changes that would be needed.
Reminds me of a joke:
_Wife asks hubby, “If I were to die, would you remarry?”_
Hubby responds, “Gee, I’d be all broken up and would miss you like crazy. But I’m still young and I could imagine if the right woman came along, I might remarry.”
_Wife: “That’s good. I wouldn’t want you to be lonely. If you were to remarry, would you live in our house?”_
Husband: “While this would always be the home we made together, it is a good house in a good location, so yeah, unless there was a reason to move I imagine we’d live in this house.”
_Wife: “That’s good. I like the idea of you continuing to live in our home. If you got remarried and lived in this house, would you and your new wife sleep in our bed?”_
Husband: “Well, I can imagine it feeling odd to sleep with another woman in what had been our bed, but it is relatively new, and I think I’d probably keep it until we needed a new one.”
_Wife: “That’s good. There is no reason you should spend money to replace something that is still good. But tell me, if you were to remarry, would you let your wife golf with my golf clubs?”_
Husband: “No. She’s left-handed!”
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### Author:  [@AuntiePam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AuntiePam)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/11 "2007-03-21T16:05:35Z")
I didn’t think I’d every marry again when my first husband died. Part of it was my age (47) – I didn’t think you could have the same feelings at 47 as you did at 18. Ha! Stoopid me.
But I did have those feelings and remarried three years later.
But now, at 62, I **know** I wouldn’t remarry if something happened to my husband. We had very little adjusting to do, and the older I get, the less adjusting I’m willing to do.
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### Author:  [@VunderBob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VunderBob)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/12 "2007-03-21T16:06:16Z")
Yes.
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### Author:  [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/13 "2007-03-21T16:20:21Z")
Well, I already have my old-age husband picked out! He and I are fantastic friends, and have been since high school. However, there has never been any sexual chemistry between us. So if we’re ever both old and single, there’s no worry about looking for companionship. We might not go through the legalities of being wedded, but we would certainly live together and be best friends.
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### Author:  [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/14 "2007-03-21T16:20:56Z")
I got lucky enough to find the one woman willing to say yes to me in my lifetime and of my generation. (ie put up with me) There just aren’t any more like her out there.
If I ever lost her, I’m not sure that I could do all that she does on a regular basis. Even if I could, I’d never have the time or energy left over afterwards to ever consider dating. Even if I ever did consider it after she had passed, there’s no woman in her right mind who’d ever be willing to take on this train-wreck with kids, so the answer is no.
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### Author:  [@Canadiangirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Canadiangirl)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/15 "2007-03-21T16:29:03Z")
Married.
Wouldn’t marry again. Too much work.
Interestingly enough, have asked hubby and a few married friends. Everyone says the same thing: nope, wouldn’t do it again.
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### Author:  [@Adoptamom\_II](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Adoptamom_II)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/16 "2007-03-21T16:37:18Z")
Very happily married 20+ years and no, I don’t think I’d remarry. My husband has spoiled me rotten and it would be difficult for another man to be as accepting and comfortable with the dynamics of our very blended family.
OTOH, I would most certainly want my husband to remarry if something happened to me. He’s a great man with a heart full of love and I’d hate for him to be alone.
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### Author:  [@Caridwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caridwen)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/17 "2007-03-21T16:47:51Z")
No. But I said I’d never get married and I’ve been married twice.
I have a gay male friend and we’ve always talked about living together if we’re alone when we’re old and feeble. We’ve been friends for over 20 years and like the same things and have the same interests.
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### Author:  [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/18 "2007-03-21T16:57:02Z")
No. I’m already on my third marriage - forget a fourth! It’s too much trouble to change the names on all the paperwork.
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### Author:  [@butler1850](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/butler1850)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/19 "2007-03-21T17:15:37Z")
I’m too well trained by Mrs. Butler already. I don’t want to suffer through training again! 😃
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### Author:  [@DeVena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeVena)
#### Post date: [March 21, 2007, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-do-you-think-you-would-remarry/396861/20 "2007-03-21T17:19:29Z")
Married - Nope wouldn’t marry again. Won’t live with a man again. Love my husband dearly but I liked living alone. Things stayed clean until I messed them up and, frankly, men just aim in the general direction of the toilet. They don’t actually care if the pee hits the water until the yelling starts. (Can you tell it was my turn to clean the bathroom this weekend?)
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