# Married Dopers: who made the first move in your relationship? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 26, 2008, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326 "2008-08-26T17:03:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2008, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/41 "2008-08-27T16:44:01Z")
[QUOTE=dangermom] Heh, my husband was usually very shy and clueless. He was the one to ask me out and hold my hand, though. He says it was the one time in his life when he was smooth. [/QUOTE] Worked when it counted, didn’t it? 🆒 I made the first move with the Lovely and Talented Mrs. **Shodan** , AFAIK. I add the caveat because I was under the impression that I had been the initiator in the relationship all along. Some years after our marriage, she mentioned that actually she had decided that I was The One, and it was merely a matter of “setting the hook” and then “reeling it in”. Seems to have done the trick - I have been stuffed and mounted on her wall for the last twenty-six years or so. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2008, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/42 "2008-08-27T17:39:35Z")
[QUOTE=kittenlm] That would be me 😃 I kissed him in the **log flume** at a local amusement park. He didn’t see it coming and didn’t know how to respond to it either. [/QUOTE] So, that’s what you kids are calling it these days. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2008, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/43 "2008-08-27T17:46:47Z")
[QUOTE=Angua] In my last relationship, I’m not sure who did, but one of us certainly did… [/QUOTE] All I know is that one minute, you were writing on people with green icing, and the next, you two were glued together at the lips… ---
**Author:** ![JThunder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e95f7d/32.png) [@JThunder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JThunder)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2008, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/44 "2008-08-27T20:37:39Z")
[QUOTE=Skald the Rhymer] ::brings guns on discussion in other thread over, works action on shotgun, and looks around :: Many of you are planning on making a joke now about Hal. We’ve PLAYED OUT THAT JOKE. It is NO LONGER FUNNY. Behave! [/QUOTE] Bah. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2008, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/45 "2008-08-27T20:44:10Z")
[QUOTE=JThunder] Bah. [/QUOTE] :: fires warning shot because I’m not sure if that was a misspelling :: ::dodges ceiling tile dislodged by my irresponsible gun use :: ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 9:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/46 "2008-08-28T09:57:26Z")
[QUOTE=Eva Luna] All I know is that one minute, you were writing on people with green icing, and the next, you two were glued together at the lips… [/QUOTE] That’s all I know too… I think there was hugging bye involved too… But nope, I got nothing now. ---
**Author:** ![jabiru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/bbce88/32.png) [@jabiru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jabiru)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 11:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/47 "2008-08-28T11:59:28Z")
I did. But he now claims I also was the one who proposed, which apparently makes it All My Fault. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 12:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/48 "2008-08-28T12:05:52Z")
It was my Darling Marcie who blazed the trail and led the way----I was six years past a disastrous divorce that ended a nineteen year relationship and I was terrified of women in general and commitment in particular. The first time she hinted that a kiss would be nice, I pecked her on the forehead and ran for the door. We’ve been married twelve years now. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/49 "2008-08-28T12:22:48Z")
We’re separated now, but we were sitting in a bar very late at night, having hung around as friends a lot, and she turned to me with a frustrated expression and said “You just don’t get it, do you?” I said “Huh?” She said “I like you.” So I said “What the hell,” and kissed her. The previous one, I chased and chased and chased her for months, but was too nervous about “screwing up the friendship” to make a move. Until one summer night I could handle it no more, and as we were laying out beneath the stars under a blanket, as we’d done for the previous two nights, I kissed her. She kissed me back. “That’s better!” I said, and she agreed. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/50 "2008-08-28T12:47:13Z")
We were inlaws for 10 years. Both our relationships crumbled and he made the first move. It didn’t take the first time, but eventually it all came together. ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/51 "2008-08-28T14:09:35Z")
[QUOTE=Angua] That’s all I know too… I think there was hugging bye involved too… [/QUOTE] I have a hunch there was also some beer involved. 😛 Oh, and never underestimate the hypnotic effects of rugelach. ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/52 "2008-08-28T15:14:42Z")
[QUOTE=Eva Luna] I have a hunch there was also some beer involved. 😛 Oh, and never underestimate the hypnotic effects of rugelach. [/QUOTE] Aaah… So it was all your fault? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/53 "2008-08-28T16:16:55Z")
[QUOTE=Skald the Rhymer] Many of you are planning on making a joke now about Hal. We’ve PLAYED OUT THAT JOKE. It is NO LONGER FUNNY. Behave! [/QUOTE] So I’m not allowed to say something like “amusement park, eh? I’d have guessed county fair,” for example? ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/54 "2008-08-28T16:19:56Z")
[QUOTE=Eva Luna] All I know is that one minute, you were writing on people with green icing, and the next, you two were glued together at the lips… [/QUOTE] Evidently I have to get to more DopeFests. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/55 "2008-08-28T16:26:40Z")
More on topic: I did, but unbeknownst to me, she’d been interested in me for a while. I offered English lessons, something I had done for occasional side work. The language barrier turned out to be a time-saver: apparently misunderstanding, she met me dolled up and ready for a first date, which is what I really wanted anyway. I learned her language, then she mine. Berlitz? Rosetta Stone? Forget it. Marriage is the ultimate immersion program. ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/56 "2008-08-28T17:23:42Z")
[QUOTE=Sunspace] Evidently I have to get to more DopeFests. 🙂 [/QUOTE] Well, I can only vouch for the [2003 LonDope.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=214772) (Lord, is it THAT long ago already?) The BritDopers are an…_exuberant_ bunch. ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2008, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326/57 "2008-08-28T21:35:24Z")
[QUOTE=Eva Luna] Well, I can only vouch for the [2003 LonDope.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=214772) (Lord, is it THAT long ago already?) The BritDopers are an…_exuberant_ bunch. [/QUOTE] Exuberant, **Eva Luna** , is an understatement. Especially when there are birthdays and alcohol involved… 😉 Such a pity I probably won’t be at many more LonDopes… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-dopers-who-made-the-first-move-in-your-relationship/461326.md?page=2)