# Married Men. Are You Still Getting Blow Jobs? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 4, 2009, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-are-you-still-getting-blow-jobs/495254 "2009-05-04T04:42:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![ToeJam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dfb087/32.png) [@ToeJam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ToeJam)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2009, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-are-you-still-getting-blow-jobs/495254/121 "2009-05-09T00:03:31Z")
No problem, dude. ---
**Author:** ![ZenBeam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/3ab097/32.png) [@ZenBeam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZenBeam)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2009, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-are-you-still-getting-blow-jobs/495254/122 "2009-05-09T01:53:50Z")
> [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](#): > > I’ve never asked. If I’ve got to ask it wouldn’t be very satisfying. In the interests of science, you’re just going to have to suck it up\*, ask for one, and see what happens. > [@](#): > > Why can’t anyone answer my question ? Married 17 years, and get them whenever I ask, and occasionally without asking. (but if I **never** asked, I might not get any unasked-for ones either.) \*heh, yeah. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![bump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@bump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bump)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2009, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-are-you-still-getting-blow-jobs/495254/123 "2009-05-10T17:19:24Z")
I got the old "bait and switch, which sucks terribly. Plenty of full-on BJs from my now wife for the first 9 months or so that we dated. Swallowing, ball licking, etc… Excellent ones- after all, she’d asked her gay friends how to go about it, and they apparently taught her well. Then, after we started doing the deed, the frequency of the BJs trailed off pretty steeply, so that now, I may get the foreplay minute or two, IF I’m straight out of the shower. She says it makes her queasy and nauseous to swallow, so I don’t press the issue, but like someone said, you can’t eat steak every day. And, for the record, I’d be happy to go down on her, but she seems to be ooged out by it for some reason, and stops me every time I try. ---
**Author:** ![palacheck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a88e57/32.png) [@palacheck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/palacheck)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2009, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-are-you-still-getting-blow-jobs/495254/124 "2009-05-10T23:52:51Z")
This thread is sad. The other one is happy. In the other thread the women are reporting that they get marathon sessions of head anytime they want, while the guys in this thread are, for the most part, getting little if any. I’m going back to the other thread.☹ ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2009, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-are-you-still-getting-blow-jobs/495254/125 "2009-05-11T00:43:17Z")
> [@razncain](#): > > I see. Well, I’ve known quite a few guys that won’t do this for their woman, but never heard of a guy that didn’t like receiving oral from her. I do prefer her to shave at least some parts, but it doesn’t have to be all of it. > > I seen a local show a while back where they were asking doctors about oral sex. One man preferred more bj’s from his wife too, but she didn’t give them to him regularly. The doctors suggested him doing a little trim work down there as well. Hearing the feedback from his wife, as well as other women, this seems to make a big difference to quite a few. Trimming is fine. Shaving is gross visually. (However, the first time a man shaves a full growth down to the skin is way fun sexually… time for the awesome hand job! ) It looks like what it kinda is: a vulva with a dick, especially if the guy is chubby. ---
**Author:** ![mswas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@mswas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mswas)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2009, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-are-you-still-getting-blow-jobs/495254/126 "2009-05-11T00:52:32Z")
More since I got married than before I got married actually. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2009, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-are-you-still-getting-blow-jobs/495254/127 "2009-05-12T17:47:33Z")
> [@bump](#): > > She says it makes her queasy and nauseous to swallow, so I don’t press the issue, but like someone said, you can’t eat steak every day. Well… not the _same_ steak. ---
**Author:** ![Savannah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b3f665/32.png) [@Savannah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Savannah)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-are-you-still-getting-blow-jobs/495254/128 "2009-05-13T05:15:53Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > Back in the 90s, the Usenet erotic story groups had a reviewer, a high school English teacher named Celeste. Every week she’d review half a dozen stories for hotness, appeal to the reviewer and technical quality. And she’d always have a joke, a grammar lesson or a bit of advice. Her advice to readers to write authors if you liked a story was her “Blow Job Principle” - if you want a second blow job, make sure you let them know how much you appreciated the first one. Off-topic: Celestial Reviews! I remember her well! I loved her triple-X-rated grammar lessons. ---
**Author:** ![Cluricaun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bb73d2/32.png) [@Cluricaun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cluricaun)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2009, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-are-you-still-getting-blow-jobs/495254/129 "2009-05-13T14:38:51Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > How the hell are you supposed to talk with a dick in your mouth? 😕 My entire sales staff seems to manage it on a daily basis. 😃 I just got engaged, but we’ve been together for seven years now as 100% exclusive types so while we’re not married we certainly have the milage as a couple. For me it’s a roulette wheel. When I initiate I have around a 50/50 chance of either sex or the BJ depending on how she feels. I’m totally cool with either. When she initiates its more of a 95% chance of sex, 5% chance of BJ. Again, I’m totally cool with whatever. FWIW I consider the BJ to be all the way to the end. Anything else is just foreplay and falls into the sex category. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-are-you-still-getting-blow-jobs/495254.md?page=6)