# Married Men of the 'Dope: Did you ask your future wife's dad for permission to marry her? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 7, 2026, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-of-the-dope-did-you-ask-your-future-wifes-dad-for-permission-to-marry-her/1026433 "2026-01-07T14:26:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 77
**Author:** ![phs3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8491ac/32.png) [@phs3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phs3)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2026, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-of-the-dope-did-you-ask-your-future-wifes-dad-for-permission-to-marry-her/1026433/77 "2026-01-08T14:16:56Z")
Are you kidding? I barely asked _her_. We’d known each other six weeks, were having a conversation about a piece of jewelry I said I wanted to buy her, and all of a sudden she said, “Was that a marriage proposal?” and I had to think “Wait, what did I just say? Oh, right, ‘…and I want to spend the rest of my life with you’.” My uber-articulate response was something like “Um, I guess so?” We’re 38.5 years in, so we’re thinking it might work out. We did call her parents afterward, woke her mother up, gave her the news; her bleary response is a family legend: “Well, that’s nice, dear. You kids have fun and we’ll see you in a couple of weeks.” Then after she hung up she realized what we and she had said. No cellphones yet and we weren’t home, so she couldn’t call back; she wound up calling my wife’s sister and saying “I think I did a bad thing”. Of course it was so obvious to us that she wasn’t awake that we were just laughing, not upset. --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-men-of-the-dope-did-you-ask-your-future-wifes-dad-for-permission-to-marry-her/1026433)._