# Married Women: Are you still getting head? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 10, 2009, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896 "2009-05-10T00:50:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2009, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896/61 "2009-05-17T01:23:38Z")
> [@LouisB](#): > > If the young lady is laying flat against the mattress, car seat, table, what ever, slip at least one hand under her buttocks; raising her bottom up from completely horizontal presents your tongue an easier to reach target and if it hasn’t happened to her previously, you will have taught her a new way to increase her pleasure. And that’s never a bad thing. That’s what pillows are for! The average thickness pillow slipped under her butt brings everything up and makes things so much easier to reach. Your neck will be at much less of an angle, making it far more comfortable for you as well. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2009, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896/62 "2009-05-17T04:00:24Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > That’s what pillows are for! The average thickness pillow slipped under her butt brings everything up and makes things so much easier to reach. Your neck will be at much less of an angle, making it far more comfortable for you as well. yeah, but pillows can’t knead and squeeze and pinch and caress and they don’t have thumbs or imaginations and several other things that I can’t think of right now. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2009, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896/63 "2009-05-17T04:01:24Z")
Commitment issues? ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2009, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896/64 "2009-05-17T15:17:06Z")
> [@LouisB](#): > > yeah, but pillows can’t knead and squeeze and pinch and caress and they don’t have thumbs or imaginations and several other things that I can’t think of right now. As I mentioned in an earlier post, the hands are needed elsewhere - stroking labia, etc. Nope, give me a pillow so both my hands are free to assist. One additional benefit is that the pillow is there to catch drippings instead of the mattress. No wet spot. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2009, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896/65 "2009-05-17T20:41:44Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > As I mentioned in an earlier post, the hands are needed elsewhere - stroking labia, etc. Nope, give me a pillow so both my hands are free to assist. One additional benefit is that the pillow is there to catch drippings instead of the mattress. No wet spot. What? You don’t swallow ? ---
**Author:** ![Palo\_Verde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/65b543/32.png) [@Palo\_Verde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Palo_Verde)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2009, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896/66 "2009-05-17T22:32:35Z")
Nah, if I got it, I’d have to give it. No thanks. ---
**Author:** ![wonderlust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonderlust/32/7237_2.png) [@wonderlust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonderlust)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2009, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896/67 "2009-05-18T04:42:56Z")
So many talented enthusiasts here! I wish you’d been around to instruct my husband when I was married. Helpful hint: just like with kissing, don’t pour buckets of drool onto her. ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2009, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896/68 "2009-05-18T05:06:43Z")
> [@wonderlust](#): > > So many talented enthusiasts here! I wish you’d been around to instruct my husband when I was married. As for instruction, all I can do is repeat what I said above - every thing I know about this subject I’ve learned from the women I’ve gone down on. The ones who told me what they wanted reaped the benefit, as did the ones who came after. Tell him. Even if it’s something as simple as one word commands - “up”, “down”, “harder”, “faster”, “notTHAThard!”, etc. If you don’t let him know what you need, you’re not likely to get it. Anyone with a tongue, a desire to please and the ability to take instruction gracefully can become a decent lover (and good oral skills are an essential part of being a decent lover). > [@](#): > > Helpful hint: just like with kissing, don’t pour buckets of drool onto her. I don’t make a huge mess, but when two things with moisture producing glands meet, dribblage happens. ---
**Author:** ![wisernow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/13edae/32.png) [@wisernow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wisernow)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2009, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896/69 "2009-06-03T21:25:08Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > As I mentioned in an earlier post, the hands are needed elsewhere - stroking labia, etc. Nope, give me a pillow so both my hands are free to assist. Reach up and gently squeeze and knead the nipples. Yes, the hands should be free to do other collaborative activities while the tongue is busy doing the core job. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Slant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c57346/32.png) [@Mr.Slant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Slant)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2009, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896/70 "2009-06-03T22:10:07Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > If you run out of breath and/or get your face all sloppy wet, don’t sit up and make a big gasping noise while wiping your face with the back of your hand as if you just got done holding your breath for 5 minutes while bobbing for apples in a vat of goo. My first boyfriend did this to me and it horrified me, turning me off of receiving oral for the rest of my life. > SNIP If anyone in the future makes this mistake, I strongly suggest subtly informing them of this after the fact rather than closing the door on a barrel o’ fun for life. Just sayin’… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/married-women-are-you-still-getting-head/495896.md?page=3)