# Masculinity on a College Campus

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masculinity-on-a-college-campus/804190>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [December 11, 2017, 1:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masculinity-on-a-college-campus/804190 "2017-12-11T13:09:30Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\
**Post date:** [December 14, 2017, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masculinity-on-a-college-campus/804190/21 "2017-12-14T14:59:45Z")

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> [@AHunter3](#):
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> What do boobs have to do with anything?
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> Whether a person has them or doesn’t have them, and whether one notices them or not, the point is the absence or presence of an acknowledged awareness of having a sexual appetite for someone else’s structures. By the time boobs made any semblance of an appearance, I’d been keeping that secret for six years or more. And they’re kind of cute but hardly the main focus of things if you see what I mean.

Boobs are pretty awesome, that’s what they have to do with 🙂

And here’s another secret you might not know - other kids were having the same feelings you did. They just didn’t talk about them, same as you. There was nothing different about you.

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**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\
**Post date:** [December 14, 2017, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masculinity-on-a-college-campus/804190/22 "2017-12-14T17:29:05Z")

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> [@Slash1972](#):
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> other kids were having the same feelings you did. They just didn’t talk about them, same as you. There was nothing different about you.

That’s useful information.

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**Author:** ![StrTrkr777](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/fbc32d/32.png) [@StrTrkr777](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StrTrkr777)\
**Post date:** [December 14, 2017, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masculinity-on-a-college-campus/804190/23 "2017-12-14T18:26:36Z")

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That is one of the difficulties of life, that we are often afraid to share our particular desires, fears, thoughts, etc. We worry that we are the odd duck. That somehow the circumstances of our life lead to some uniqueness whereby others might not understand us and make fun of us. I think that is especially true at a young age, but even a bit true as we age.

What I have found over my years is we are more alike than we are different.

Most of us have had issues with money, family, health, work, relationships, communication, etc.

It would be nice to learn this at an earlier age, but in regular interactions that is difficult.

The annonimity of a message board helps greatly, but can be a huge problem for younger people as we don’t want them mixing with just anyone.

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