# Massage therapist dad massages his kid:Benign? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 21, 2010, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/massage-therapist-dad-massages-his-kid-benign/554577 "2010-09-21T20:51:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![RealityCheck71](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/realitycheck71/32/3493_2.png) [@RealityCheck71](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RealityCheck71)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2020, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/massage-therapist-dad-massages-his-kid-benign/554577/102 "2020-07-08T13:23:31Z")
Ok, this is an old thread but the consensus opinion back then was wrong. It’s generally recommended that massage therapists don’t mix roles like this. It blurs an important line. Is an “informed consent” properly done when a father is asking his daughter? ---
**Author:** ![Ashtura](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ashtura/32/2963_2.png) [@Ashtura](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ashtura)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2020, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/massage-therapist-dad-massages-his-kid-benign/554577/103 "2020-07-08T14:21:17Z")
The premise basically assumes that massages are inherently sexualized, and that is not the case. The dad probably (hopefully) views this as no different than any other client, same with the daughter. If that’s the case, then the boyfriend is wrong and probably needs to go. ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2020, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/massage-therapist-dad-massages-his-kid-benign/554577/104 "2020-07-08T14:39:09Z")
I’m amused by suggestions (granted, from a decade ago) that the father should view the massage as inherently sexual and, as such, pass his daughter off to one of his friends to do it instead. ---
**Author:** ![P-man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/p-man/32/3606_2.png) [@P-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/P-man)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2020, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/massage-therapist-dad-massages-his-kid-benign/554577/105 "2020-07-08T14:54:16Z")
My wife is a LMT, and I’ve gotten massages from her numerous times. Never has it been sexual, despite the fact that I find her as hot as a supernova in other circumstances. Our son also gets a massage from her occasionally, and as far as I know his girl friend has no problem with it. ---
**Author:** ![RealityCheck71](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/realitycheck71/32/3493_2.png) [@RealityCheck71](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RealityCheck71)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2020, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/massage-therapist-dad-massages-his-kid-benign/554577/106 "2020-07-08T16:20:59Z")
What I talked about had nothing to do with sexuality. Informed consent is a thing for R/LMT in many jurisdictions and they have different rules about it. Being a person with power over another, eg. Parent/child, is extremely problematic. ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2020, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/massage-therapist-dad-massages-his-kid-benign/554577/107 "2020-07-08T16:52:49Z")
Added note to this zombie re comparisons with MDs giving pelvic exams to their daughters: any MD (especially male) that did this would be acting unprofessionally. Performing the exam with a nurse or adult female chaperone in the room would be less bad, but still unprofessional. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/massage-therapist-dad-massages-his-kid-benign/554577.md?page=5)