# Masturbating while breastfeeding **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 22, 2011, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191 "2011-02-22T03:25:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/1 "2011-02-22T03:25:08Z")
I was reading a [Nerve.com](http://Nerve.com) [article on sex and motherhood](http://www.nerve.com/content/baby-love-0) (I know, I know, my first mistake) and a writer mentioned hearing that breastfeeding while masturbating could be very erotic, so she decided to try it out. > [@](#): > > ``` > Eventually, I felt around and masturbated, tentatively. As I became aroused, my breasts squirted milk. That was cool. I felt like a teenage boy trying to see how far he could shoot. When I told this to one of my mommy friends, she said, "You should try masturbating while breastfeeding. It's amazing." > > I didn't want to miss out. I went home, got out my mini-massager and settled into the Glider rocking chair with Felix, then a month and a half old, at my breast. > > ``` If anyone here has tried it, feel free to add your opinion…but my real question is, does this cross the line in terms of the parent/child relationship? I mean, I doubt the kid at this age is going to remember this and feel abused but despite that does it cross the line into disturbing territory? I personally found it pretty creepy (the whole article pretty much is, but again, that’s par for the course at Nerve)… ---
**Author:** ![Erdosain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/erdosain/32/7284_2.png) [@Erdosain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Erdosain)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/2 "2011-02-22T03:31:20Z")
I don’t want to judge anyone, but that is ten kinds of fucked up. Seriously. ---
**Author:** ![flatlined](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/eb9ed0/32.png) [@flatlined](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flatlined)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/3 "2011-02-22T03:31:54Z")
Nobody is replying because we are all running for brain bleach :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/4 "2011-02-22T03:32:39Z")
Well, it’s only been seven minutes since I posted the thread, **flatlined**. I figure the responses will come in time. ---
**Author:** ![SkeptiJess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SkeptiJess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkeptiJess)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/5 "2011-02-22T03:33:28Z")
Yeah, I’m going with ‘ick,’ here. I enjoyed breast feeding my son, in the same way that I enjoyed many other aspects of caring for him. But purposefully bringing an erotic component into baby care? Just seems… wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Labrador\_Deceiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7c8e57/32.png) [@Labrador\_Deceiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Labrador_Deceiver)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/6 "2011-02-22T03:37:48Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Well, it’s only been seven minutes since I posted the thread, **flatlined**. I figure the responses will come in time. I doubt anyone will own up to it after the first 2 posters to respond basically freaked out. I’m a male, and the idea of sexual activity with a baby involved is a bit weird, but I’m not going to run around flailing my arms at the thought of it. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/7 "2011-02-22T03:39:30Z")
WTF? No. Fuck that. No. You don’t fucking jerk off with your goddamn baby in your hand. No. ---
**Author:** ![Maiira](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f04885/32.png) [@Maiira](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maiira)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/8 "2011-02-22T03:43:14Z")
I’m not freaked out by it (because it’s not like the baby’s going to remember it) but it is a little weird. I probably wouldn’t do it. ---
**Author:** ![FloatyGimpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/floatygimpy/32/7750_2.png) [@FloatyGimpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FloatyGimpy)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/9 "2011-02-22T03:43:56Z")
Masturbating while holding your child is just all kinds of wrong. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/10 "2011-02-22T03:46:54Z")
> [@Maiira](#): > > I’m not freaked out by it (because it’s not like the baby’s going to remember it) but it is a little weird. I probably wouldn’t do it. It doesn’t matter if the baby remembers it. Do not use your baby to help wank yourself off. ---
**Author:** ![Taomist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@Taomist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taomist)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/11 "2011-02-22T03:48:23Z")
Bring your man in to help with the sucking, or use a toy \ like any other normal person. Sorry; there’s just no reason to do this. It’s utilizing an unwitting, unconsenting person in one’s sexual play. And that’s wrong, in my opinion. ---
**Author:** ![Labrador\_Deceiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7c8e57/32.png) [@Labrador\_Deceiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Labrador_Deceiver)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/12 "2011-02-22T03:49:30Z")
> [@Labrador\_Deceiver](#): > > I doubt anyone will own up to it after the first 2 posters to respond basically freaked out. > > I’m a male, and the idea of sexual activity with a baby involved is a bit weird, but I’m not going to run around flailing my arms at the thought of it. Whoa, I just read this back and it sounds awful. I was just thinking about all those sex starved parents who have sex next to their baby, who is in a bassinet by the bed. ---
**Author:** ![Onomatopoeia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/onomatopoeia/32/4145_2.png) [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/13 "2011-02-22T03:53:19Z")
On the one hand, some of you seem really judgy. On the other, yeah, it does kind of settle in the inappropriate category for me. Thinking about it more, it makes sense to me that it probably occurs more frequently than some would believe, or that practitioners would admit. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/14 "2011-02-22T03:54:25Z")
Having sex with a baby next to the bed seems different, though. Physically holding the baby while you jerk off or receive oral, on the other hand…not so good. Also, writing an article like that is bound to skeeve your kid out when he gets older. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/15 "2011-02-22T03:59:29Z")
> [@Maiira](#): > > I’m not freaked out by it (because it’s not like the baby’s going to remember it) but it is a little weird. I probably wouldn’t do it. Well, he’s going to remember it now, there is an article about on the goddamn internet. Thanks, mom! Yeah, it’s creepy. Oddly enough, I don’t find having sex with a baby sleeping obliviously in a bassinet beside you creepy. But having the baby be an active participant in the sexual play is inappropriate at best. Ugh. ---
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/16 "2011-02-22T04:04:48Z")
Gross. Additionally, my experience with month-and-a-half-old babies has been that both of my hands are required to keep the damn kid positioned on the breast correctly, leaving none available for kinky baby vibrator sex play. I call bullshit on the author. ---
**Author:** ![Savannah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b3f665/32.png) [@Savannah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Savannah)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 4:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/17 "2011-02-22T04:47:47Z")
I can see where having a baby breastfeed might be a bit strange when for years you’ve associated sucking nipples with eroticism. I can see where one’s body might react to baby suckling in a way that is both maternal and erotic. But I don’t think masturbating while breastfeeding is something I would be comfortable with. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/18 "2011-02-22T04:56:55Z")
Brain bleach sounds good. I have heard of all kinds of bizarre sexual play (including bestiality, roleplaying a baby with adults pooping in diapers, child pornography, snuff). But this is not something that I have ever heard of, or even contemplated that someone would consider. I’m really shocked that someone would consider this, and I sure as fuck don’t hear new sexual things every day. This is a first, in recent memory. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/19 "2011-02-22T05:16:32Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Having sex with a baby next to the bed seems different, though. Physically holding the baby while you jerk off or receive oral, on the other hand…not so good. In this instance the baby’s suckling is _part of the stimulation_. It’s not just that the baby is there, but he’s being made to participate. As **Taomist** said, bring in a knowing and willing partner. ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2011, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/20 "2011-02-22T05:27:51Z")
I can’t even imagine it getting me in the mood. Yuck. I loved breastfeeding and did it for over three years but not once did that sort of nipple stimulation make me feel the urge to touch myself. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191.md?page=2)