# Masturbating while breastfeeding **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 22, 2011, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191 "2011-02-22T03:25:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 9
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2015, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/161 "2015-08-31T03:24:25Z")
> [@enipla](#): > > This kinda makes me wonder about those that breast feed until their child is 4-5 years old. Now I’m even more squiked out about it. I am like you on this one. I can see it in a 3rd world country where food is scarce but anything past 2 years old raises my eyebrows. I think my grandchildren nursed for about 1 year and I thought that was a long time. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2015, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/162 "2015-08-31T17:40:01Z")
The entire concept is utterly revolting. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2015, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/163 "2015-08-31T17:42:01Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > Women will often allow their husbands to scooch up from behind and have sex while they nurse an infant, whats the difference? Sounds pretty natural to me. Also revolting. I feel sick. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2015, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/164 "2015-08-31T18:09:12Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > The entire concept is utterly revolting. You misspelled udderly. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2015, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/165 "2015-08-31T18:35:37Z")
> [@Gotlift](#): > > I get that nipples are an erogenous zone during foreplay, but I can’t imagine my wife looking at my son now, when he is a teen, or when he is an adult and thinking, “I used to cum with my tit in your mouth!” If you can’t say that, is it really even love? ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2015, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/166 "2015-08-31T18:46:13Z")
I just stopped retching long enough to notice that nobody has pointed out the OP’s Name/Topic combo. This may be the ultimate best/worst possible. ---
**Author:** ![Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e47c2d/32.png) [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hershele_Ostropoler)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2015, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/167 "2015-08-31T20:39:15Z")
> [@Rossiekerr](#): > > That’s not okay to do such thing in the presence of a child You know until relatively recently people fucked in the presence of their kids, right? ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2015, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/168 "2015-08-31T20:59:13Z")
> [@Rossiekerr](#): > > That’s not okay to do such thing in the presence of a child What if the child is also masturbating? ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2015, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/169 "2015-08-31T21:43:14Z")
> [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](#): > > You know until relatively recently people fucked in the presence of their kids, right? And shat in the street (and in their own drinking water), and burned witches, and died young from trivial diseases. So what? ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2015, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/170 "2015-09-01T00:22:18Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > What if the child is also masturbating? This is getting more like a Bob Saget joke with every post. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2015, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/171 "2015-09-01T17:44:04Z")
Interesting. I hadn’t realized this was a zombie. Looking back to 2011 I responded with the exact same word: Revolting. I’ll add repugnant. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/172 "2015-09-02T15:39:33Z")
My knee-jerk reaction is eeeeuuuugh. Ick, ew, no. Breastfeeding my children was pleasurable and quite a relief and it does in some cases (especially right after childbirth) make your uterus contract. That said, deriving sexual pleasure from it is concerning, if only because the thought of seeing my kids as a former sex aid is really just extremely disturbing even if I’m not technically hurting them. And it never would’ve occurred to me to have a baby latched onto the breast with my husband sexing me up from behind. ---
**Author:** ![Derleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Derleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Derleth)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2015, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/173 "2015-09-04T05:55:49Z")
> [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](#): > > You know until relatively recently people fucked in the presence of their kids, right? But not in front of the horses. Because that would have been tacky. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2015, 11:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/174 "2015-09-04T11:27:03Z")
> [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](#): > > You know until relatively recently people fucked in the presence of their kids, right? …and you’re trying to bring it back? Some of these posts so far are worse that bad CSI:SVU episodes. If I was a juror, I’m not so sure I’d vote to acquit. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2015, 12:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/175 "2015-09-04T12:08:33Z")
> [@Count\_Blucher](#): > > …and you’re trying to bring it back? Some of these posts so far are worse that bad CSI:SVU episodes. If I was a juror, I’m not so sure I’d vote to acquit. Yes, I don’t understand. Those parents did it because they had to. The idea that you have options but you’re still going to drag junior into the room just because is totally different. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2015, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/176 "2015-09-06T18:57:57Z")
Wow. This was a Dope thread I remembered seeing, not a Reddit post. It’s child molestation. Not because you have the child with you, but because part of what is getting you off is what the child is doing to your nipples. You are having sex with your child. And let’s not forget the classical conditioning going on here. Even if you aren’t actually sexually attracted to your kid (which I question if you’re seriously considering this), you’re conditioning yourself to get aroused in their presence. I remember reinforcing a fetish I had, and it got a lot stronger. Do you really want a fetish for sex while breastfeeding? ---
**Author:** ![edenboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b38774/32.png) [@edenboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/edenboy)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2016, 12:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/177 "2016-04-23T12:03:50Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > I was reading a [Nerve.com](http://Nerve.com) [article on sex and motherhood](http://www.nerve.com/content/baby-love-0) (I know, I know, my first mistake) and a writer mentioned hearing that breastfeeding while masturbating could be very erotic, so she decided to try it out. > > If anyone here has tried it, feel free to add your opinion…but my real question is, does this cross the line in terms of the parent/child relationship? I mean, I doubt the kid at this age is going to remember this and feel abused but despite that does it cross the line into disturbing territory? I personally found it pretty creepy (the whole article pretty much is, but again, that’s par for the course at Nerve)… …masturbation is not bad…me and my twin brother are just at puberty and love being naked in our home,as we and our mom…( single ) are nudists…she love to see us have erections and it is good with her when we brothers masturbate each other,especially when we are breastfeeding her both at same time,and sometimes she does it for us both at same time as we nurse ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2016, 12:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/178 "2016-04-23T12:14:50Z")
Reported. ---
**Author:** ![RivkahChaya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rivkahchaya/32/8919_2.png) [@RivkahChaya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RivkahChaya)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2016, 12:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/179 "2016-04-23T12:31:04Z")
I nursed my son for nearly three years, until we finally had to force-wean him, because I needed ankle surgery, and needed to be able to take narcotics. (If he’d been 6 months, I would have pumped and dumped, and then resumed nursing him after he’d had a week of formula, but frankly, I was ready to be done with nursing). Anyway, I’m here to tell you that nursing a baby, toddler, or even almost-preschooler is not the same thing and involving your breasts in foreplay with your husband. I liked nursing my son (well, up until about three months before he was weaned, when I was ready for it to be done, and he looked like he would happily go to high school with a thermos of breastmilk), but enjoying being close to him, and the primal satisfaction of fulfilling his basic needs was not erotic, or even physically pleasurable-- it was all emotional, with the exception of the first couple of weeks, when my breast would get full and sore every few hours, and I needed to nurse him or pump to feel comfortable. Besides, I was way too tired to think about masturbating. ---
**Author:** ![Mallard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b9bd4f/32.png) [@Mallard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mallard)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2016, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191/180 "2016-04-24T03:07:19Z")
> [@RivkahChaya](#): > > I nursed my son for nearly three years, until we finally had to force-wean him, because I needed ankle surgery, and needed to be able to take narcotics. (If he’d been 6 months, I would have pumped and dumped, and then resumed nursing him after he’d had a week of formula, but frankly, I was ready to be done with nursing). Anyway, I’m here to tell you that nursing a baby, toddler, or even almost-preschooler is not the same thing and involving your breasts in foreplay with your husband. I liked nursing my son (well, up until about three months before he was weaned, when I was ready for it to be done, and he looked like he would happily go to high school with a thermos of breastmilk), but enjoying being close to him, and the primal satisfaction of fulfilling his basic needs was not erotic, or even physically pleasurable-- it was all emotional, with the exception of the first couple of weeks, when my breast would get full and sore every few hours, and I needed to nurse him or pump to feel comfortable. > > **Besides, I was way too tired to think about masturbating**. Exactly. I’m now a grandfather of 6, and back when our 3 children were of the age of being breast fed, my wife didn’t feel like sex very often. Needless to say, while she breast fed, I masturbated. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191.md?page=8) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbating-while-breastfeeding/572191.md?page=10)