# Masturbation and toys: Womens vs. Mens **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 4, 2001, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849 "2001-12-04T16:42:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![thinksnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thinksnow/32/2849_2.png) [@thinksnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thinksnow)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/1 "2001-12-04T16:42:11Z")
It seems, to me, that there is a wide gulf in the market of available “toys” for self-pleasure. What I mean is, when you compare the available methods or equipment available for each sex to utilize in their masturbatory shenanigans, women come out on top…uh, they come out a-head…hmmm, they spank the men…let’s just say that they have more potential “toys,” okay? Let’s take a look at the methods available, in fact or at least [anecdotally](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=30135): **For women** [list=1][li]Their hand(s).[/li][li][Dildo(s)](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=99139) (including vegetables.)[/li][li]Vibrator(s).[/li][li]Sibian (or whatever).[/li][li]Washing machines on spin-cycle.[/li][li]Sitting with cross-legged bouncing.[/li][li]Riding a horse and getting _into_ the saddle.[/li][li]Vibrating panties.[/li][li]Etc. etc. …[/list=1] **For men** [list=1][_]Their hand(s).[/li][li]Ronco’s Pocket pal or whatever.[/li][li] **Ender** ’s [mattress vagina](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?postid=1871197#post1871197).[/li][_]…that’s it.[/list=1]What’s the deal, are women just that much more horny that they need all those extra tools? Is it that they are able to get off on just about anything and the chant “Men get hard when the breeze blows” is just a clever diversion from their rampant lustful ways? What’s the Straight Dope on women having so many more available sex toys than men, who are reputedly much more randy, when [it would seem](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=102443) that not only are we on about equal schedules, we [feel the same](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=101937) about it’s impact on relationships? ---
**Author:** ![porcupine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ac91a4/32.png) [@porcupine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/porcupine)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/2 "2001-12-04T17:08:55Z")
I’m the wrong woman to ask, as [I think am I just as horny as any guy here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=96673) and get off pretty damn easily. And BTW, you forgot just doing Kegels. The way things are going lately, I think I could probably develop the ability to have an orgasm just from that. And you guys could lean against the washer on spin. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Tygr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/df788c/32.png) [@Tygr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tygr)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/3 "2001-12-04T17:26:03Z")
No, that doesn’t work. And it’ll REALLY put you off your mood if you wind up with an unbalanced load. Plus, the people in the laundromat tend to stare. ---
**Author:** ![Tygr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/df788c/32.png) [@Tygr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tygr)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/4 "2001-12-04T17:28:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tygr \* > **…if you wind up with an unbalanced load.** I mean in the washing machine! Sheesh… ---
**Author:** ![Kiki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dc4da7/32.png) [@Kiki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiki)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/5 "2001-12-04T17:38:58Z")
Toys aren’t used only for masturbation. Sometimes it’s fun to have my man use my toys on me! But you are right… women have a greater variety to choose from! ---
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/6 "2001-12-04T18:00:34Z")
[QUOTE] _Originally posted by thinksnow \* \*\* **For women** [list=1][li]Their hand(s).[/li][li][Dildo(s)](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=99139) (including vegetables.)[/li][li]Vibrator(s).[/li][li]Sibian (or whatever).[/li][li]Washing machines on spin-cycle.[/li][li]Sitting with cross-legged bouncing.[/li][li]Riding a horse and getting into the saddle.[/li][li]Vibrating panties.[/li][li]Etc. etc. …[/list=1_\*[/li][/QUOTE] Motorcycles. Don’t forget motorcycles. Vroom, vroom! ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/7 "2001-12-04T18:08:12Z")
Can’t forget inflatable women. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/8 "2001-12-04T18:17:34Z")
[QUOTE] _Originally posted by thinksnow \* \*\* **For women** [list=1][li]Their hand(s).[/li][li][Dildo(s)](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=99139) (including vegetables.)[/li][li]Vibrator(s).[/li][li]Sibian (or whatever).[/li][li]Washing machines on spin-cycle.[/li][li]Sitting with cross-legged bouncing.[/li][li]Riding a horse and getting into the saddle.[/li][li]Vibrating panties.[/li][li]Etc. etc. …[/list=1] **For men** [list=1][_]Their hand(s).[/li][li]Ronco’s _Pocket pal_ or whatever.[/li][li] **Ender** ’s [mattress vagina](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?postid=1871197#post1871197).[/li][li]…that’s it.[/list=1]\*\*[/li][/QUOTE] Many toys that you list for women are often used by men… straight and gay. I’ve known straight boys who appreciated a butt plug or a dildo. You forgot to list buttplugs, lubricants, anal beads, ben-wa balls, nipple clamps, and cock rings. ---
**Author:** ![Why\_A\_Duck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/13edae/32.png) [@Why\_A\_Duck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Why_A_Duck)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/9 "2001-12-04T18:21:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by RTFirefly \* > \*\*Can’t forget inflatable women. 😉 \*\* or the big bowl of mashed potatoes (I didn’t just say that in my out-loud typing did I?) ---
**Author:** ![Juniper200](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@Juniper200](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Juniper200)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/10 "2001-12-04T18:27:37Z")
There are always products like [these](http://www.teledildonics.org/pages/ToysForHim.html) for gentlemen looking for a good time. (DON’T ask me how I knew about that link.) Jeez, think. Don’t you have enough gadgets lying around already? Boys and their toys, I guess. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![thinksnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thinksnow/32/2849_2.png) [@thinksnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thinksnow)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/11 "2001-12-04T18:39:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*\*Hastur \*\* > Many toys that you list for women are often used by men… straight and gay. I’ve known straight boys who appreciated a butt plug or a dildo. You forgot to list buttplugs, lubricants, anal beads, ben-wa balls, nipple clamps, and cock rings. Well, see, my take on that is that those are _used in conjunction_ with masturbation, as opposed to the device/operation/whatever actually used in the direct application of stimulating the sex-specific organ(s) to climax. **Juniper** you’ve been holding out on us! And, ftr, I have no “gadgets” of this sort lying around…yet. Christmas is coming… ---
**Author:** ![ModernRonin2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c37758/32.png) [@ModernRonin2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ModernRonin2)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/12 "2001-12-04T19:26:13Z")
To whit: “Women have a more difficult time masturbating than guys, so they need more toys to do it successfully.” Note: I am not saying that women are less horny than guys - though society might expect them to act that way. Nor am I saying (necessarily) that women are physically more difficult to stimulate. If anything, I would say that because it’s not socially acceptable for girls to “dial “O” on the pink telephone”, they get less practice. And that’s why it can be more difficult for them. (Though I suspect the younger generation has mainly shed this handicap and has a lot less trouble…) -Ben ---
**Author:** ![Twilight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@Twilight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Twilight)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/13 "2001-12-04T19:38:12Z")
Hmm. Seems I can’t get enough of this topic. You guys are gonna get all the wrong ideas about me… Anyway, I just had to tell you about this very cool gadget me and the S.O found. It a pair of black leather thongs, with a little pocket in front for - thats right, a vibrator. Its so small its invisible under clothing (you even need to look close at the panties to see it) but the fit is nice and snug. Hits the spot, as it were. But thats not the coolest thing - **its controlled with a remote** small enough to be concealed in my S.O’s hand… When we go out I’m tossed between anticipation and stimulation. Sometimes in the middle of a conversation with a wholly unaware person… By the time we get home I’m ready to explode - in a good way 😃 ---
**Author:** ![TheNerd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TheNerd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheNerd)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/14 "2001-12-04T20:04:54Z")
**Twilight** , what’s it called, and where’d you get it? I think there’s something similar called the remote butterfly, which I thought would be a fun thing to play with with my girlfriend, but this sounds a little different. ---
**Author:** ![thinksnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thinksnow/32/2849_2.png) [@thinksnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thinksnow)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/15 "2001-12-04T20:28:57Z")
**Nerd** , do a search on _vibrating panties_ (aka: **#8** on the OP list.) Both [Bob and Tom](http://www.bobantom.com) and Howard Stern have had guest with these on at one time or another. They sound fun, I might have to get a pair for my next SO… ---
**Author:** ![Soda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@Soda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soda)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/16 "2001-12-04T20:46:46Z")
I have to agree with **ModernRonin**. Women **are** more difficult to please, physically, without using tools. At least if you want to be, um, filled. Having said that, I have some fun stuff in a drawer, but frankly, I’ve found that my fingers can top any tool I’ve come across so far. And for that _OMG! I’m completely filled!_-feeling, nothing can compare to the real thing. God, I do love dicks. However… **Twiligh**? Those panties? Care to go shopping with me one day? ---
**Author:** ![porcupine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ac91a4/32.png) [@porcupine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/porcupine)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/17 "2001-12-04T20:48:36Z")
I have the Remote Butterfly, and it is very very nice. Unfortunately I’ve only used it once - made for a fun car trip, and we didn’t actually crash, so I guess it didn’t distract him _too_ much. I thought it would get a second try this weekend, but some men just don’t know a good thing when they see it. Maybe the next Dopefest… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Twilight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@Twilight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Twilight)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/18 "2001-12-04T20:55:33Z")
Sure Soda, they’re rather on the expensive side though. For 1.200 SEK I can grab a pair for you at _The Club_… 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Limerick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a87d85/32.png) [@Limerick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Limerick)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/19 "2001-12-04T23:01:56Z")
Could any woman who’s ever actually considered horseback riding a masturbation tool PLEASE come forward? I hear this all the time, and I just don’t believe it. I ride, and it’s not remotely sexual. I can’t imagine what you’d have to be doing to the saddle for this to be true. And I’ve got a…ummm…hair trigger, so I don’t think it’s just me. 🙂 Anyway, in answer to the OP, I don’t know why this is, but I feel sad for you guys–toys rock. ---
**Author:** ![thinksnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thinksnow/32/2849_2.png) [@thinksnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thinksnow)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2001, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849/20 "2001-12-05T00:10:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*\*Limerick \*\* > I can’t imagine what you’d have to be doing to the saddle for this to be true. Like I said, anecdotal methods. I wondered about that one, figured it was sketchy. **Soda** , you say the most charming things… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/masturbation-and-toys-womens-vs-mens/96849.md?page=2)